Major advice needed

[anon1]

DD

[Deleted]

Can you summarize?

[Booze Raccoon]

OMG, STAY OUT OF IT.

!!

[Deleted]

TL; DR, but MYOB.

[Muddled]

Nothing. You do nothing.

[saraandmichael]

stay out of it.

[anon1]

Oct 31, 2013 21:38:02 GMT -5 @amoosed said:

Can you summarize?

DD

[lilafowler]

Stay out of it.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I would not intervene.

[texassmith]

Oct 31, 2013 21:38:02 GMT -5 @amoosed said:

Can you summarize?

She has known an awful secret about her SIL for several years. She is now wondering if shesshould tell.

OP: take it to the grave. I wouldn't touch this situation with a 10 foot pole and I'd be pissed that SIL told me at all. That is such a heavy thing to tell someone and expect them not to spill.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Keep your mouth shut. Why would you say anything to anyone? This isn't your relationship.

[papie]

MYOB
For all you know, nothing is going on. The past is the past.

[MWOS]

omfg it's eating you alive?

No. Stahp. Srsly.

[Deleted]

Oct 31, 2013 21:42:06 GMT -5 texassmith said:

Oct 31, 2013 21:38:02 GMT -5 @amoosed said:

Can you summarize?

She has known an awful secret about her SIL for several years. She is now wondering if shesshould tell.

OP: take it to the grave. I wouldn't touch this situation with a 10 foot pole and I'd be pissed that SIL told me at all. That is such a heavy thing to tell someone and expect them not to spill.

Thank you. My response is to MYOB .

[VeryViolet]

You need to stay as far away from this and out of it as possible. Do not tell anybody.

Telling your DH I am really torn on. It may cause marital issues for you if he is pissed you have been keeping this secret. Honestly, I probably wouldn't tell him either but I can see an argument for telling him too. Hopefully someone here will have better advice on that.

Seriously I cannot emphasize enough how much this isn't your business and you do not need to get into outting her to your ILs.

[JayhawkGirl]

Stay out of it. It will make itself known in time and you do not want to be part of the equation.

If she confides in you again, ask her to keep you out of it out of respect for your relationship with her, your husband, and her kids.

[anon1]

Oct 31, 2013 21:41:43 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Um, you do absolutely nothing. Wth would you do anyway? You did nothing then, what's changed?

DD

[MrsAxilla]

Yeah, stay totally out of it.

[Deleted]

I would MYOB.

[Deleted]

Actually. I would probably tell H.

But I would have told him a long time ago.

I'm a gossip.

[bab]

You mind your own buisness. Stay out of this!!!!

[lola]

I would tell my H. My H would not say anything. The only thing he hates more than mayo is family drama. lol. 

[milosh]

Why the hell would you need to do anything?!? Stay out of it.

[anon1]

Oct 31, 2013 21:48:32 GMT -5 kessieblue said:

You've told us. Hopefully you got it out of your system, and can keep your mouth shut with the families.

DD

[MWOS]

I've changed my mind.

Take out an ad in the paper.

You know you want to.

[KKD]

Oct 31, 2013 21:41:59 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

At this point, I'd probably say something to her about the "flirty" FB exchanges. In person. And then let it sit there. The "10 second pause" is a great interview technique, people usually get so weirded out they spill their guts.
"Remember when you told me you and hotdudenotyourhusband had a hot and heavy flirtation? It looks like it's starting up again." And then pause.

I wouldn't even say anything because you are better off not getting any more involved.

I think your reasons for keeping the secret originally were valid, and since it ended shortly afterwards, it was probably best that you never told anyone. But if you were to pry now, you would involve yourself all over again, and your original excuse for not telling anyone would no longer hold.

So, yeah, MYOB. And even if she comes to you and admits that they are cheating again, ask her to leave you out of it because you won't be able to keep it a secret from your H this time.

[bonquiqui]

Didn't we do this yesterday?

[anon1]

Oct 31, 2013 21:54:05 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Lol, hold on, you went to another friend who cheats for advice??

I see the irony in this. But it wasn't for advice.  I just needed to tell someone that I could trust to keep it to herself (this was back when I first found out) and I wasn't surprised by what she had to say (not to tell).  All I'm saying is she wasn't so objective.

[miniroller]

Oct 31, 2013 21:41:59 GMT -5 FormerlyRR said:

At this point, I'd probably say something to her about the "flirty" FB exchanges. In person. And then let it sit there. The "10 second pause" is a great interview technique, people usually get so weirded out they spill their guts.
"Remember when you told me you and hotdudenotyourhusband had a hot and heavy flirtation? It looks like it's starting up again." And then pause.

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[bania]

MYOB. No good can come of you outing her now. None.