I am not nearly stylish enough to participate, but isn't the whole idea of OOTD a big circle jerk? I don't think it's specific to over there!
They take it to a different level there. I think it's cool to compliment people's outfits but not every outfit needs a compliment and you don't have to thank everyone who casually said "nice color" or something otherwise quite innocuous. People on S&B list out everyone who's posted in the thread and say something about their outfit. It's obvious which compliments are genuine and which are just kind of being nice, you know? It's like you get a trophy for participation over there.
I love decorating for Christmas and hosting both of our families. I tend to go REALLY over the top decorating both inside and outside. Last year we had so many outside lights that I had to turn them off before blow drying my hair or it would flip a breaker. Yes, this includes 3 moving reindeer. This year DH will be working so we will host a week early which means that BIL & SIL will hopefully be able to come too and bring my cute little nephew for me to play with.
I hate holidays too, as an adult. I'm really fortunate that H doesn't care at all about them.
I often wonder if people that were not raised in dysfunctional families like holidays and look forward to them? Anyone?
Dysfunctional family here and I love the holidays. I was thinking the other day about people who get real trees because "when I was a kid, we would all cut down the tree and sing carols while we took it home and put it up"
Really? Cause my dad would yell and cuss through the cutting down part, then the tying it to the roof part, then getting it into the house part. Then he would get drunk. They finally got a fake tree and I started putting it up myself when I was 8 cause my dad would scream through that too. I would wrap my own presents and put them under the tree starting about 12 and put a tag on that said "from Santa".
I love decorating for christmas, the cheerful music and the lights. It makes me feel "warm" if that makes sense. I host all holidays at my house and I like doing Christmas for the kids.
I hate holidays too, as an adult. I'm really fortunate that H doesn't care at all about them.
I often wonder if people that were not raised in dysfunctional families like holidays and look forward to them? Anyone?
Dysfunctional family here and I love the holidays. I was thinking the other day about people who get real trees because "when I was a kid, we would all cut down the tree and sing carols while we took it home and put it up"
Really? Cause my dad would yell and cuss through the cutting down part, then the tying it to the roof part, then getting it into the house part. Then he would get drunk. They finally got a fake tree and I started putting it up myself when I was 8 cause my dad would scream through that too. I would wrap my own presents and put them under the tree starting about 12 and put a tag on that said "from Santa".
I love decorating for christmas, the cheerful music and the lights. It makes me feel "warm" if that makes sense. I host all holidays at my house and I like doing Christmas for the kids.
I am honestly impressed that you like holidays now and have made the best of it.
I also feel horrible when we spend time with my parents. H doesn't have his dad. I feel terrible when we are with mine. It sucks.
Does your husband mind being with your family? As someone who lost her dad, I found it really comforting to be around FIL (until he passed). It wasn't the same as having my own around, but he did make me feel like family. Now i miss them both.
I like holidays with H's functional family, and with my own little family unit, but not with my extended family because they're crazy.
Last year, we had our own Thanksgiving at our house just us, and this year when MIL said they were coming home for Tgiving because she felt so badly about us being alone last year, I was a little sad. I liked eating turkey in my jammies and not having that repulsive green bean casserole on the menu.
I also feel horrible when we spend time with my parents. H doesn't have his dad. I feel terrible when we are with mine. It sucks.
Does your husband mind being with your family? As someone who lost her dad, I found it really comforting to be around FIL (until he passed). It wasn't the same as having my own around, but he did make me feel like family. Now i miss them both.
He sees my dad as his dad. He loves both of my parents and usually comments "Huh..We didn't see your parents this weekend." and honestly..I think my dad loves H more than my brother sometimes lol.
I know I shouldn't feel guilty about it but it hurts so bad knowing I still have my dad and he doesn't..His dad was only 65 when he passed so he was so young.
I know H would tell me if he didn't wanna hang out with my parents, or be around my dad. I just feel so damned guilty and I know its dumb to feel this way.
Post by cheeseandcrackers on Nov 4, 2013 20:01:26 GMT -5
I love my family, but I don't like to be around them a lot.. I just don't. I can do once a week, at most twice, but they can be so annoying. I am the worse daughter ever.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
Come to NYC. We'll book a 5 course meal at one of the nice restaurants and then spend the rest of the night getting drunk and bar hopping!
That sounds fabulous, but I promised my parents I would come visit. lol My bro and fiance aren't even going. It will be my parents, my grandpa, cousin, and I. So exciting. lol I should be moving in between the holidays, so it should be all around interesting. Rain check though, because that would be amaze
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
We go away for Thanksgiving every year. Love it. Just me, DD and DH. We eat food someone else prepares, they bring me wine and clean up, and then we relax in our hotel room and shop online while watching Christmas movies. Perfection.
For Christmas, my family is too far-flung and dysfunctional, so we visit ILs either Christmas Eve or December 23, then we spend the holiday itself at home. Love.
Ugh... traveling around the holidays annoys me. H and I are a plane ride away from his family and 2.5 hrs and a snowy pass away from mine. I just told my mom yesterday that we're only coming for T-Day if the pass isn't crappy. There's a maybe 1% chance of that happening. Worrying about getting over the pass and back sucks all the fun out of celebrating in my hometown with my family.
I told one of my sisters that when H and I have kids (hopefully in 1-2 years) we're not traveling on Christmas Day. I look forward to that day because it will be amazing to not worry about the aforementioned snowy pass and just enjoy the day. It'll be fun to start our own traditions. Also, we could finally get a tree and decorate our apt/house for the holiday because we'd actually be there to enjoy it.
I just farted in front of my coworker. He came into my office and was talking to me about something, and it just slipped out. It was awful. He didn't say anything and I just kept talking.
He didn't leave and just kept talking and then you could smell it. I want to die. Why can't the floor ever come up and swallow you when you want it to?
Omg.
dude, i'm dying at this!!!
I feel for you, though. That must have been mortifying!
There is someone on the S&B who wears pants that are TOO SHORT.
Yes! Why doesn't anyone say something to her? I'm tempted, but I'd be the non reg being a bitch about it. So there she is, everyday, with her short ass pants.
...I'm so tired of splitting holidays or being with every.single.person in a family. When I was a kid, it was just me and my parents. I loved it.
...everyone has to be together all the time for everything. I don't like it. I feel like we can't start any traditions of our own. It's also really overwhelming for me.
OMG this is exactly me. We've already started it with the "when is your family having Thanksgiving" BS and it makes me want to scream. On Thanksgiving, FIL, duh, that is when. And no, I don't want to turn around and do it again on Friday.
I used to only have to do the everyotherholiday crap w/my kids and exH. Now, we do that, and my ILs spend Christmas Eve night here, AND we have to do holidays with both families AND both extended families and meanwhile both families bitch and moan because somehow EVERYONE is being shortchanged time-wise and and AND...ughhhh! We never get to just have a nice family holiday with just us.
Is like to just crawl into a hole before Thanksgiving and stay there until February.