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I would and my siblings and I all have weird relationships with each other/parents. But this would also never happen to me, more likely than not, I would be the one left out
MM had this question the other day. My dad will leave his estate to my sister (I assume) and he won't want it shared with me. That's 100% ok in my mind.
If it were me getting the money, I would not automatically cut her a check for half. I might give her small amounts here and there. I am not completely sure about that yet.
In fact, I could possibly be in this situation. Not an inheritance that only goes to me, but my mom let me know a couple years ago that she was naming me as the sole executor of her trust. And that my stepdad elected not to include either of his daughters. AND that my brother's portion of the trust will only be available to him after he turns 35 (he just turned 28 last week). So if both my mom and stepdad died in the next few years, I would have a huge burden and end up the whipping boy if my siblings got pissed about our parents' decisions.
I would split it with my brother with the understanding that X is the only amount he would get and that he is getting it all at once. Once he blew through it (which he would), no more. And that I wouldn't be giving him another cent.
Post by Miss Phryne Fisher on Nov 8, 2013 17:31:47 GMT -5
It would depend on why the other kids were left out. If my mom was a raving lunatic and left my sister out for no good reason, of course I would split with her. If there were a good reason, I would want to respect my mom's wishes. Nobody is entitled to an inheritance.
I don't have any siblings, but I guess it would depend. Do I know why money wasn't left to my siblings? Do I like them or have contact with them? Do they know how much I inherited?
If they were at all decent people I'd probably share.
Post by pixelpassion on Nov 8, 2013 17:39:30 GMT -5
This was a very real possibility for me before I cut off from my father & stepmother. My father claimed he excluded my brother from the will (because they were cut off at the time) and that I would inherit everything. In reality, my stepmother will probably inherit everything (which isn't much) if something happened to my dad.
My brother is terribly irresponsible with money, not like my brand of derp pertaining to student loans, but like, has had his car repo'ed because he just doesn't pay his bills. I think I would ultimately give him half anyway since he deserves half no matter how fast he's going to blow the money. I'd do it in the way nomad100 mentioned.
Yes. I'd be happy to share it with my brother, and I'd share it with my sister because even though we aren't close, and I don't particularly like her, I feel like I'd kind of have to.
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Nov 8, 2013 17:45:48 GMT -5
I don't speak to my sister. I would give her kid my sister's share and put it into a trust that sister couldn't touch. I would give my brother his share.
I don't speak to my sister. I would give her kid my sister's share and put it into a trust that sister couldn't touch. I would give my brother his share.
If my brother were to not receive half, I would have to assume that there was a good reason for my mom doing so and I would do the same as above. With our current relationship with each other and my mom, I don't see myself getting all of it as ever a possibility. And if for some reason it happened that way, I would give him half and then wonder what the f#$% my mom was thinking.
I love my sister and we are close but if it were a large sum of money I would have a really hard time just cutting her a check for half. I would be scared she would spend it on dumb shit. She just isn't the most fiscally responsible. I would probably put it in a trust to try and protect her from herself. I know this makes me an asshole because she is an adult and all but I figured I would answer honestly.
Oh and luckily this will never happen I am sure there won't be anything for us when mom and dad kick the bucket.
Well, YEARS ago, I know I was listed as the sole inheritor. My brother has just caused a lot of problems our entire lives and... well, it's a long story. Plus- I think my parents actually worry HOW he'd use the money.
This may have changed for all I know. This was probably 20 years ago that they told me this. They may have changed their wills to include him.
IF I get everything (which won't be much - public school teachers!), I imagine I'll give my brother something. I don't know if it will be 1/2 or not. But I'd give him something.
But to be really crass- if not giving him 1/2 or anything at all meant the end of our relaitonship, I really wouldn't be all that upset by it. We pretty much have no relationship now.
I don't know. My cousin recently learned he was cut off from his parents' will. The fucked up part is that he is the only one helping his parents, the only one who has his shit together. His parents own a restaurant and were partners with our other uncle. Uncle wanted out so my cousin bought him back and is now running the whole thing. His parents' reasoning is that he can provide for himself whereas the others can't (drugs and laziness for one, drugs and mental illness for the other, they both live with their parents). So they are leaving everything to the other two! He is also the only one with kids (three). He is really sad about the whole thing, it's a low blow.
I don't know. My cousin recently learned he was cut off from his parents' will. The fucked up part is that he is the only one helping his parents, the only one who has his shit together. His parents own a restaurant and were partners with our other uncle. Uncle wanted out so my cousin bought him back and is now running the whole thing. His parents' reasoning is that he can provide for himself whereas the others can't (drugs and laziness for one, drugs and mental illness for the other, they both live with their parents). So they are leaving everything to the other two! He is also the only one with kids (three). He is really sad about the whole thing, it's a low blow.
Wow, those parents are a little insane and a lot enabling.
I know. My mom literally yelled at her sister when she found out. They always preferred the other two...