Holy fuck. H and I have a problem.

[tdk2]

Ughhhh

I have a Dh who also forgets conversations. It's still mindboggling to forget that one. We've had other big forgotten conversations though, so I can see that.

I'm so sorry though to hear all about this.

[juliahenry]

Nov 11, 2013 18:14:34 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:12:38 GMT -5 juliahenry said:

I'm sorry.

If he's kind of in shock right now, would some info about living with it etc (websites or something) be helpful? Because he may just need some time to absorb it all and it sounds like he isn't exactly the type to learn through listening.

Yes, I think her best course of action right now is to bombard him with links and panfletes. 

That's not what I said. If I were her dh, I would need help to process and info I could access later. That's all.

And it's pamphlets.

[rugbywife]

Nov 11, 2013 18:18:17 GMT -5 juliahenry said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:14:34 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Yes, I think her best course of action right now is to bombard him with links and panfletes. 

That's not what I said. If I were her dh, I would need help to process and info I could access later. That's all.

And it's pamphlets.

YES!!!!! At least I am not the only one. 

(ps: just so you know, jezebel knows how to spell it, it is an old ML joke).

[5thofjuly]

I'm guessing that he wasn't really listening in the first place when you had the conversation.

[Deleted]

Nov 11, 2013 18:18:17 GMT -5 juliahenry said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:14:34 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Yes, I think her best course of action right now is to bombard him with links and panfletes. 

That's not what I said. If I were her dh, I would need help to process and info I could access later. That's all.

And it's pamphlets.

Nope, it's panfletes.  Trust me.  

[EmilieMadison]

Do YOU remember actually telling him? Or do you just think you told him at some point?

[bab]

This is such a WEIRD story.  How could he "not remember" that?  And why is he deactivating his FB?  I don't know, weird stuff like this always makes me think there is some funny buisness going on.  Is it possible he is being unfaithful?  It's like he's trying to pretend he had no clue about your infection so he can suddenly be outraged with you. 


I could be totally talking out of my ass, but this is where my mind goes with these kinds of stories. 

[angelaa73]

Look at the newbs globbing onto panflete

[flex]

So what happens next? Are the two of you going to sit down and talk about this?

[Deleted]

Nov 11, 2013 18:34:26 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

Look at the newbs globbing onto panflete

Um... how new do you think I am?   ^o)  I may not be an elder, but I'm no newb.  

[flex]

Nov 11, 2013 18:18:17 GMT -5 juliahenry said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:14:34 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Yes, I think her best course of action right now is to bombard him with links and panfletes. 

That's not what I said. If I were her dh, I would need help to process and info I could access later. That's all.

And it's pamphlets.

She doesn't need to refer to links and panfletes.  She needs a good old fashioned sit-down real-life conversation with her husband.

[MixedBerryJam]

Nov 11, 2013 18:38:33 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:34:26 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

Look at the newbs globbing onto panflete

Dude, it's PAMPHLET, OK?

All this time I've been thinking panflete was Canadian. Stranger things have happened.

[eb777888]

Nov 11, 2013 18:40:57 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:34:26 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

Look at the newbs globbing onto panflete

Um... how new do you think I am?     I may not be an elder, but I'm no newb.  

Not you, dork.

[angelaa73]

Nov 11, 2013 18:40:57 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:34:26 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

Look at the newbs globbing onto panflete

Um... how new do you think I am?     I may not be an elder, but I'm no newb.  

Huh? No, I mean the people calling you out. Calm down. Jeez jezabel. Jeezabel.

[Deleted]

Nov 11, 2013 18:27:38 GMT -5 bab said:

This is such a WEIRD story.  How could he "not remember" that?  And why is he deactivating his FB?  I don't know, weird stuff like this always makes me think there is some funny buisness going on.  Is it possible he is being unfaithful?  It's like he's trying to pretend he had no clue about your infection so he can suddenly be outraged with you. 


I could be totally talking out of my ass, but this is where my mind goes with these kinds of stories. 

Mmmhmmm. It's a stretch but no more of a stretch than someone legitimately forgetting that conversation.

[Deleted]

I'M TOTALLY CALM.

[Deleted]

I'M TOTALLY CALM.

[annyong]

Ugh, I'm sorry crackhabit. I really hope you two can figure this out and his freak-out isn't a sign of something bigger.

[Deleted]

I'm so calm I posted it twice!

[bab]

Nov 11, 2013 18:45:39 GMT -5 05heel said:

Nov 11, 2013 18:27:38 GMT -5 bab said:

This is such a WEIRD story.  How could he "not remember" that?  And why is he deactivating his FB?  I don't know, weird stuff like this always makes me think there is some funny buisness going on.  Is it possible he is being unfaithful?  It's like he's trying to pretend he had no clue about your infection so he can suddenly be outraged with you. 


I could be totally talking out of my ass, but this is where my mind goes with these kinds of stories. 

Mmmhmmm. It's a stretch but no more of a stretch than someone legitimately forgetting that conversation.

The FB deactivation is what really put this into mega-weirdo territory.  Why is he deactivating now? 

[juliahenry]

Nov 11, 2013 18:34:26 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

Look at the newbs globbing onto panflete

^o)

[pantsparty]

Nov 11, 2013 18:48:00 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

I'm so calm I posted it twice!

[Jalapeñomel]

Sex has never come up when you had an outbreak ( sorry I know nothing about herpes, and how often outbreaks happen)?

[juliahenry]

Nov 11, 2013 18:44:52 GMT -5 angelaa73 said:

Huh? No, I mean the people calling you out. Calm down. Jeez jezabel. Jeezabel.

she called me out, not the other way around.

and, to get back to the actual topic of this thread, (sorry @crackhabit), some people absorb information differently than others. If I were Mr Crackhabit, I would appreciate 'impartial' info I could process alone after I had had a talk. That's all. Its a legitimate suggestion. You may not agree with it, but there's no need to get unpleasant.

[rugbywife]

Also...and I feel like I could be wrong but it is worth asking...should he not have showed symptoms by now if he has been infected? You guys are married, right? So together for a while? Did you just avoid sex when you had an outbreak? It seems surprising to me that he has never had an outbreak yet.

[sake]

She said that she doesn't have outbreaks, so I could see how it could potentially come up not that often. But it is really weird that he doesn't remember it at all...
I want to understand the FB thing, but I just don't. I don't really ever see a time that I would deactivate FB. Maybe take a break, but it's not like just b/c you go to the doctor, anyone on FB would know... that's just really weird to me.

[lilafowler]

I'm all "what the what?!" that he could forget something big like that.

My husband forgets shit I tell him ALL THE TIME, but I'm pretty sure he would have kept something like "my wife has herpes" (not that that's bad-a lot of people do) in the back of his mind.

I'm so curious as to the whole deactivating his facebook-WHY?

[speckledfrog]

Are you still taking medication? Wouldn't have seen you taking it or seen a pill bottle in the trash/recycling? It is so bizarre that you've been together for years and he claims to have no idea.

[Deleted]

Maybe the fb deactivation is not related? It makes no sense.

[meganew]

I'm not saying this is your fault, but how do you only have one conversation about this the entire time you've been together? For years and years? I find that really odd.