Post by pedanticwench on Nov 11, 2013 17:30:58 GMT -5
I'm not flaming you, but this is so weird. Why would he deactivate FB over this? That's like selling your car because your dog died, or something really crazy like that.
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Listen, my H has one of the worst short term memories ever. He will forget big honking life altering shit all the time. I could see him saying he didn't remember me telling him something big like this.
I'm assuming you are treating/controlling this to the best of your ability?
How could someone forget this conversation?!?! I'm so sorry your H is shutting you out right now. Hugs!! I'm sure things will be fine once he calms down and the 2 of you can talk it out.
I can understand shutting it down if you were single and humping a lot of people. But since no one needs to know even if he does have it, it makes no sense. Good luck! Hope he chills out.
Post by janiejones on Nov 11, 2013 17:42:38 GMT -5
How did it come up again in conversation?
I'm not purposely jumping to conclusions, but could he be projecting anything??? The FB deactivation is way weird. Should YOU be getting tested?
I mean, it's totally likely at the time you said "I got Herpes from an exBF" he could have heard "I got turkeys from an exBF" and thought it was a weird thing for you to say, hence no reaction... but. I dunno.
I find it very odd that he has zero recollection of the previous conversation. Even if he tends to be forgetful; I feel like this conversation would stick with him.
I'm sorry he's being so dramatic about it all; hopefully he calms down and you guys can talk about it soon.
Post by EmilieMadison on Nov 11, 2013 17:45:27 GMT -5
How would someone, especially someone who tends to overreact, forget about a conversation like this? And wtf is with deactivating FB? What does that have to do with the herp?
I'm sorry @crackhabit. My husband has a chronic case of the forgets/not listens, and I would NOT ever be surprised if he didn't remember a conversation as important as that.
Instead of getting mad now, I just sing him this:
Okay, so it's not helpful at all, but maybe you laughed a little bit. It's what keeps me from killing him when he has absolutely no recollection I've ever spoken to him.
I'm confused as to how on earth someone forgets this conversation happened.
Right?!
I'm thinking back. Like, did I not tell him? I remember in our apartment I had my Valtrex in the medicine cabinet and it was NBD to have it out because he knew.
This is what I would go home and yell at him.
"Do you NOT remember the VALTREX?! The MEDICINE I had to take for HERPES?! That was out in PLAIN SIGHT on the bathroom counter?!"
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
I think it's really weird that after you told him, that it has NEVER come up in conversation until now. Wouldn't he have questions about it?
My h is like this. I tell him somethine and he never asks a single questions about it. And its not just me, hes like that in general just generally disinterested.
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
Post by RoxMonster on Nov 11, 2013 18:09:13 GMT -5
Wow I'm sorry about all this. I can't imagine not remembering a conversation about this. I mean, my H has a really bad memory, but I cannot imagine him not remembering such a big conversation as something like this.
Hopefully he will be ready to talk about it when he gets home. I would remind him of all the things you pointed out in this thread--the previous convo, having your medicine out, etc.--to assure him you never kept it from him.
Post by juliahenry on Nov 11, 2013 18:12:38 GMT -5
I'm sorry.
If he's kind of in shock right now, would some info about living with it etc (websites or something) be helpful? Because he may just need some time to absorb it all and it sounds like he isn't exactly the type to learn through listening.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
If he's kind of in shock right now, would some info about living with it etc (websites or something) be helpful? Because he may just need some time to absorb it all and it sounds like he isn't exactly the type to learn through listening.
Yes, I think her best course of action right now is to bombard him with links and panfletes.
Yikes! Good luck with that. Surely he'll realize he just forgot (or blocked out) the conversation. That's not exactly the kind of information you hide from your spouse.
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I'm sorry. (hugs). I think you need to gather relevant information about Herpes so that he can make informed opinions, and hopefully he can see that this is not the end of the world.