It's not uncommon to not have an outbreak for a very long time, depending on how well controlled it is/your immune system/lots of other factors, so I could see how it wouldn't have come up again after that initial conversation. I CANT see how he could have forgotten about it, especially if it was a somewhat in depth conversation (and it sounds like it was, since he asked questions about it and all that). His behavior is really confusing, and I'm sorry you're facing him taking it so negatively after spending a long time thinking it was not an issue. Hugs to you
Post by wildfloweragain on Nov 11, 2013 20:25:21 GMT -5
Could he have possibly thought before that it was mouth herpes and just now figured out that's not it? I ask because I assumed from the beginning of the post that that's what we were talking about.
Could he have possibly thought before that it was mouth herpes and just now figured out that's not it? I ask because I assumed from the beginning of the post that that's what we were talking about.
You know, it seems impossible but I had a very similar situation with my husband. I told him I had been raped, he "forgot," and to this day if I mention it he will act like I never told him about it. He just can't process it. I have a really hard time believing he can't remember, but he is genuinely surprised and upset every time I mention it so I just don't anymore (I mean, I don't mention it to him, I talk about it to others). I totally get how this seems not possible, but I think if something like this is so incompatible with what a person wants to believe they can lie to themselves.
The important thing to remember is that this is not your fault. You told him. It may take a therapist to convince him you did tell him and he didn't process it, but that is HIS problem. Not yours. Do not feel guilty about this. This isn't on you. If he freaks out, that is a reflection of poor control on his part. I am very sorry you are dealing with this.
Add me to the "this is so bizarre" list. @crackhabit, I hope he enlightens you as to wtf is going on, because his reaction makes zero sense. His freakout and the FB thing are both concerning.
And to the "thank goodness someone else mention panflete so I didn't have to be the ML newb" list. lol.