I love this. Otter, I'm sorry about your situation, but I hope this eases your worries about Christmas at least.
And can I buy Nugget a gift as well? Just for making so much sense?
Some of you are just being straight up assholes. Feel "squicky" about the generosity of others? The red x at the top of the post will take care of that for you.
I accept cash or Amazon gift cards. Minimum of six hunnit fiddy, please and thank you.
Post by hopecounts on Nov 21, 2013 18:53:06 GMT -5
I just want to say this. MIL helped us out our first Christmas, I hadn't gotten a job yet (yay recession) DH was in training and not making his full salary yet money was tight and DH's family is super generous with gifts so we were trying to figure out how to make it work. MIL quietly gave us some cash to make it easier for us. So yes, if somebody is in a bot of a tight spot at Christmas it makes me happy to help if I can.
And while I generally think Tacom is probably a nice person, her financial condescension is annoying as fuck.
And isn't her boyfriend bankrolling her college or something? Because if so she has shit to say about being a financially independent adult.
I don't know her situation all that well but I am pretty sure that her FI makes big $$ and she has access to all his accounts. She's a full time student, but may work a bit on the side? I think he probably supports her, though.
Regardless, she's a big poster on MM and I think it's great that she and her BF have the perfect financial picture (I know, I know, worked hard! bootstraps! etc. whatever) but it's annoying to me when she shows up in a post here - where she doesn't even post much - to throw around the same bitchy tone she uses on MM. Not necessary.
And while I generally think Tacom is probably a nice person, her financial condescension is annoying as fuck.
And isn't her boyfriend bankrolling her college or something? Because if so she has shit to say about being a financially independent adult.
lol.
I grew up poor and was the highest earner in my household by the age of 17 when I worked full time as a tax preparer (while attending high school - what a drag). I earned a merit-based scholarship for undergrad and worked three jobs to support myself. my fiance is supporting us and paying for my M.S. right now.
I grew up poor and was the highest earner in my household by the age of 17 when I worked full time as a tax preparer (while attending high school - what a drag). I earned a merit-based scholarship for undergrad and worked three jobs to support myself. my fiance is supporting us and paying for my M.S. right now.
And isn't her boyfriend bankrolling her college or something? Because if so she has shit to say about being a financially independent adult.
I don't know her situation all that well but I am pretty sure that her FI makes big $$ and she has access to all his accounts. She's a full time student, but may work a bit on the side? I think he probably supports her, though.
Regardless, she's a big poster on MM and I think it's great that she and her BF have the perfect financial picture (I know, I know, worked hard! bootstraps! etc. whatever) but it's annoying to me when she shows up in a post here - where she doesn't even post much - to throw around the same bitchy tone she uses on MM. Not necessary.
I normally eye roll her posts. And about Otter? As far as I'm aware, Tacom doesn't have children so wtf does she know about being a first time Mom?
I do enjoy helping people, and I love seeing others doing the same. And I do believe that Otter is very grateful for ML's generosity, and will pay it forward when she can :-)
No, what you did was great. What I meant was generosity is generosity and there's no negative side to any of it.
Thanks haha. I just had a thought like, "oh no, does she think it was weird to do that?" Lol.
And Otter, I know you don't know me, but I hope you, your DH, and Rosie have a fabulous Christmas - I love seeing the kind of generosity people showed you today.
I fully admit tacom just bugs me because I am a bebe bride too but instead of knowing how to handle everything at all times like she apparently does, I am here desperately trying to osmosis the collective board knowledge because wtf is real life this shit is confusing. I am jealousE. womp womp.
And isn't her boyfriend bankrolling her college or something? Because if so she has shit to say about being a financially independent adult.
lol.
I grew up poor and was the highest earner in my household by the age of 17 when I worked full time as a tax preparer (while attending high school - what a drag). I earned a merit-based scholarship for undergrad and worked three jobs to support myself. my fiance is supporting us and paying for my M.S. right now.
Which part of this proves that you know anything about otters situation and aren't just being bitchy?
I've met ottermama and Rosie; two fabulous people, both of them. Shared plenty of time with them both. otter had a hell of a time with the adoption, was separated from her dh for 7 weeks while getting screwed by an adoption attorney who would STILL have her in Kansas alone in a hotel room with a baby, waiting on a hearing if it had been left to him. She got home with the baby after living through hell and handling it VERY well and her dh lost his fucking JOB, four weeks from Xmas. Fuck anyone who says people should not be nice to her, for any fucking reason. Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you.
And YAYYYYYY to anyone here who offered to ease her path, or anyone else's, this year. Keep it up; there are far too many hard times for anyone to be pissing on anyone's wheaties.
You were such a bright spot for us. I was looking at the picture of you and Rosie and the warm blanket and smiled at that memory. I love you so much!
I've met ottermama and Rosie; two fabulous people, both of them. Shared plenty of time with them both. otter had a hell of a time with the adoption, was separated from her dh for 7 weeks while getting screwed by an adoption attorney who would STILL have her in Kansas alone in a hotel room with a baby, waiting on a hearing if it had been left to him. She got home with the baby after living through hell and handling it VERY well and her dh lost his fucking JOB, four weeks from Xmas. Fuck anyone who says people should not be nice to her, for any fucking reason. Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you.
And YAYYYYYY to anyone here who offered to ease her path, or anyone else's, this year. Keep it up; there are far too many hard times for anyone to be pissing on anyone's wheaties.
I wish I could click 'like' more than once. But that just unlikes it. And that's not what I want.
And really, I just gave her the best gift of all. Me saying something kind of guarantees that Elle will get her a pony or something just to prove how very WRONG I am :-)
And really, I just gave her the best gift of all. Me saying something kind of guarantees that Elle will get her a pony or something just to prove how very WRONG I am :-)
Otter has been totally honest with the board. She has not requested anyone send her gifts - she merely responded to people asking her to put together a wishlist. Fuck, people. I've sent people shit for far less - some people just like to give gifts to other people. If someone wants to give - who cares?! She's not twisting arms or lying to anyone to gain sympathy.
If this became a pattern, maybe - but since @cse1960 has met her and we know she's not full of shit - I don't see the issue here.
Hugs otter.
I've met Otter too. So have ElizabethBennet and open24hours. She is not trying to scam anyone. I know for a FACT that she is extremely generous and would purchase a gift if this was someone else's situation.
Yup. I was just coming in here to say this.
Otter is extremely kind and generous. Some you can fuck right off. Especially tacom.
I've met ottermama and Rosie; two fabulous people, both of them. Shared plenty of time with them both. otter had a hell of a time with the adoption, was separated from her dh for 7 weeks while getting screwed by an adoption attorney who would STILL have her in Kansas alone in a hotel room with a baby, waiting on a hearing if it had been left to him. She got home with the baby after living through hell and handling it VERY well and her dh lost his fucking JOB, four weeks from Xmas. Fuck anyone who says people should not be nice to her, for any fucking reason. Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you.
And YAYYYYYY to anyone here who offered to ease her path, or anyone else's, this year. Keep it up; there are far too many hard times for anyone to be pissing on anyone's wheaties.
After reading you say it a couple times on here, 'trying to ease someone else's path in life' is what I want to be about right now. It is as simple as that, if you have the inclination and the means to help someone else out along the way, do it. We all know our own path will need easing one day.
The generosity of some of the people here just brightened my week. Between missusbee's incredible image of future Otter family, and the generous support and love so many have you have shown, I'm a bit teary. I needed a good reminder of holiday spirit.
Otter, I know that you and your H will create an incredible Christmas for Rosie; the love you have for her will make it special, regardless of the gifts or things you have. But I'm so glad that so many people want to help you make it feel special.