Tell me this isn't a bit deal

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It's really bothering me. DH may not have a job for a while so we are on total money lockdown. It's breaking my heart. Even though Rosie is only a few months, I wanted her to have a tree and pajamas for Christmas and buy the night before Christmas and read it and do cookies for Santa. All that stuff. But we may not have the money to spend on that.

I've wanted to be a mom since before I can remember and always dreamed of what Christmas would be like. This year, our first year, will probably not be like that. I'm getting super sad about it.

Tell me it's not a big deal and I'll be ok with it

[missanne]

I'm trying not to be creepy.. But I bet I have the right size Xmas Jammie's I could send you!
(I felt the same way about Christmas last year!)

[ECB]

Well, it's not a big deal in that your DD will never know or care. But, I can fully understand why it IS a big deal to YOU and why you're sad.

[thebuddhagouda]

Nov 21, 2013 15:04:23 GMT -5 ECB said:

Well, it's not a big deal in that your DD will never know or care. But, I can fully understand why it IS a big deal to YOU and why you're sad.

Ditto this 100%. Also, check thrift stores and used book stores. My MIL got us a copy of Night Before Christmas last year for under $1.

[sharknado]

It's not a big deal sweetie, and unfortunately you won't know that until next year.
How about you start an Amazon wish list for Rosie and let ML help you?

[gretchenindisguise]

Kids don't really get it until about 3.

Do not worry about this.

I also wonder though if you could go get a cheap tree from Target on Black Friday. We got one there last year and it was like $30 I think. Pajamas can also be found for fairly cheap. Cookies from scratch are easy. Night before Christmas can wait.

[leeann]

This is so not a big deal. Just make it happy by being glad that you're all together and the other things will be there in future years when she'll remember them.

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Nov 21, 2013 15:06:24 GMT -5 sharknado said:

It's not a big deal sweetie, and unfortunately you won't know that until next year.
How about you start an Amazon wish list for Rosie and let ML help you?

That just made me cry. You guys don't have to do that.

Rosie is in 3 month sized jammies.

[Deleted]

You can pick up (or ML can send you) a cheap, tiny tree for $10 or less at Target/Walmart/Michael's. It's fake, it's crappy, but you can totally use it for laughable memories. Also, as Rosie gets older, that can be her tree to decorate. We've done that for DD at Mom's and she is SO EXCITED to decorate and show off her very own tree to friends/family. It also keeps her from tinkering with the big tree.

[hopecounts]

Your feelings are totally understandable.
Do you have a public linrary? If so check and see if they have a copy or print this pdf version to read.
www.christmas-corner.com/christmas-stories/twas-the-night-before-christmas.pdf

As for jammies would grandma maybe get some for her?
What about some other traditions, what about putting on some christmas music (radio/stream pandora on the computer) and have a sing along?

[Deleted]

Someday you'll gather around a big tree with Rosie and her spouse and her children, sitting amid piles of wrapping paper and toys and laughter and cookie crumbs, and you'll tell the story about how your first Christmas together, Granddad has lost his job but that Mama Rosie had only been home a couple of months, and you spend Christmas morning baking cookies, watching Rosie's eyes light up as you sang and danced to Christmas carols with her, went for a lovely walk together to see lights in town, and loved every minute with your much-anticipated, much-loved baby girl. And you will say it was a simple first Christmas but that you had everything you wanted.

And she will feel so loved, and so cherished, and so lucky to have parents to share those memories with her.

xo. You'll make it through this.

[MWOS]

you might need to Think Of The Soldiers on this one. You can still do all these things on a budget. Hell, even Poors are known to have a nice time around the holidays.

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Nov 21, 2013 15:09:21 GMT -5 @otterama said:

Nov 21, 2013 15:06:24 GMT -5 sharknado said:

It's not a big deal sweetie, and unfortunately you won't know that until next year.
How about you start an Amazon wish list for Rosie and let ML help you?

That just made me cry. You guys don't have to do that.

Rosie is in 3 month sized jammies.

I would 100 percent be down with this. You guys need a little XMAS right this FUCKING minute after all you've been through.

I am also sure I have 3 month XMAS jammies somewhere. He literally wore them once for like 15 minutes. The have Rudolph on the butt.

[sharknado]

Nov 21, 2013 15:09:21 GMT -5 @otterama said:

Nov 21, 2013 15:06:24 GMT -5 sharknado said:

It's not a big deal sweetie, and unfortunately you won't know that until next year.
How about you start an Amazon wish list for Rosie and let ML help you?

That just made me cry. You guys don't have to do that.

Rosie is in 3 month sized jammies.

But we will

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Nov 21, 2013 15:10:52 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Someday you'll gather around a big tree with Rosie and her spouse and her children, sitting amid piles of wrapping paper and toys and laughter and cookie crumbs, and you'll tell the story about how your first Christmas together, Granddad has lost his job but that Mama Rosie had only been home a couple of months, and you spend Christmas morning baking cookies, watching Rosie's eyes light up as you sang and danced to Christmas carols with her, went for a lovely walk together to see lights in town, and loved every minute with your much-anticipated, much-loved baby girl. And you will say it was a simple first Christmas but that you had everything you wanted.

And she will feel so loved, and so cherished, and so lucky to have parents to share those memories with her.

xo. You'll make it through this.

Well, damn it. Now I'm crying.

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Nov 21, 2013 15:10:52 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Someday you'll gather around a big tree with Rosie and her spouse and her children, sitting amid piles of wrapping paper and toys and laughter and cookie crumbs, and you'll tell the story about how your first Christmas together, Granddad has lost his job but that Mama Rosie had only been home a couple of months, and you spend Christmas morning baking cookies, watching Rosie's eyes light up as you sang and danced to Christmas carols with her, went for a lovely walk together to see lights in town, and loved every minute with your much-anticipated, much-loved baby girl. And you will say it was a simple first Christmas but that you had everything you wanted.

And she will feel so loved, and so cherished, and so lucky to have parents to share those memories with her.

xo. You'll make it through this.

Holy Crap... that little future Rosie story you told made me cry my face off at my desk. I am obviously a softie.

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Wishlist!

[Deleted]

Don't make us beat your address out of Sue Sue!

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Can you please do the wishlist thing? Because I finally have a bit of fun money and would LOVE to buy that book for miss Rosie.

Also-  fake trees are on SALE 50% off on Saturday after black friday.  I just got a $15 target refund card and the girl forgot to ring it up.  It's fate.  I would LOVE to send to you.

[livinitup]

The first year DD was a baby we decided to do a little plug-in, table-top tree that has colored lights. It was a practical decision - and the right one. When I got a little tug in my heart that she wouldn't have a great big tree for her first Christmas, I thought, "Well, we can use this tree this year ... then the little tree can become "DD's Christmas Tree" ... and I can put it in her room each year and put one gift under it, so she'll always have one 'first' gift to open in her room ... and as she gets older, I'll always be able to say that was YOUR very first tree ...". And that's what we've done.

The nice thing about Christmas is that you can spin just about anything into a really great tradition and/or fuzzy memory.

[Deleted]

I love the idea of a PDF. And missusbee made me cry again. That's beautiful.

I can do a small wish list and PM to those interested. I love the reindeer jammies!!! Too cute

[ginap]

I totally get it, but she won't know. I would totally send you a copy of TNBC and some pj's for her. That sounds creepy I know but I am a sucker for babies.

[berbles]

Nov 21, 2013 15:10:52 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Someday you'll gather around a big tree with Rosie and her spouse and her children, sitting amid piles of wrapping paper and toys and laughter and cookie crumbs, and you'll tell the story about how your first Christmas together, Granddad has lost his job but that Mama Rosie had only been home a couple of months, and you spend Christmas morning baking cookies, watching Rosie's eyes light up as you sang and danced to Christmas carols with her, went for a lovely walk together to see lights in town, and loved every minute with your much-anticipated, much-loved baby girl. And you will say it was a simple first Christmas but that you had everything you wanted.

And she will feel so loved, and so cherished, and so lucky to have parents to share those memories with her.

xo. You'll make it through this.

[Deleted]

Check out this list: www.amazon.com/registry/wishlist/3B7WO4LHWEGN9/ref=cm_sw_r_ip_wl_JUMJsb0H1FRYD


You guys...I can't stop sniffling and crying.

[Jermys]

She'll never even know. It's very much not a big deal.

[Deleted]

I agree that she won't know, but I can fully understand why it means so much to you. I'd be happy to send little Rosie something. I love babies.

[Deleted]

@otterama I've never done it, but I remember squirrelymom had a way on her Amazon wishlist that we could mail stuff to her without it showing her address? Can you try and do that with your wishlist?

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Nov 21, 2013 15:09:53 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

Your feelings are totally understandable.
Do you have a public linrary? If so check and see if they have a copy or print this pdf version to read.
www.christmas-corner.com/christmas-stories/twas-the-night-before-christmas.pdf

As for jammies would grandma maybe get some for her?
What about some other traditions, what about putting on some christmas music (radio/stream pandora on the computer) and have a sing along?

this is an awesome idea. Get it from the library!

[Deleted]

If I buy from your wishlist, it's not giving your address as a "ship-to" option. Am I amazon dumb?

[Deleted]

Nov 21, 2013 15:33:20 GMT -5 @sloanpeterson said:

Nov 21, 2013 15:09:53 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

Your feelings are totally understandable.
Do you have a public linrary? If so check and see if they have a copy or print this pdf version to read.
www.christmas-corner.com/christmas-stories/twas-the-night-before-christmas.pdf

As for jammies would grandma maybe get some for her?
What about some other traditions, what about putting on some christmas music (radio/stream pandora on the computer) and have a sing along?

this is an awesome idea. Get it from the library!

ON second thought.. Don't.  ;-)