Who is going to be in the delivery room?

[Deleted]

Or, if you already had your baby, who was in the room?

We watched this video in Prepared Childbirth class that showed a few moms laboring and I was surprised that, in almost all the cases, their moms, dads, siblings, etc. were in there.  I always thought it would just be me and my H (besides the medical personnel). I would feel so uncomfortable with others around. This is a huge source of contention with my mom lately because she is basically demanding to be in the delivery room and thinks that I am being weird because I don't want anyone else in there.

[Stingyshark]

I was only planning on DH being in there - but after he about passed out during my epidural, he asked my mom if she would stay in the room.

The entire time i was pregnant i was adamant that no one would be in there but DH. I'm pretty modest.. modesty goes out the window in a heart beat during child birth.

[Yankees21]

Just H. I wouldn't be opposed to my mom being there, as we are really close and I think she'd be a help, but she has said it should just be H and I.

[lulu21]

I plan on H and my mom if she gets to town quick enough. If not, then it will just be me and H. Good news is I've heard really positive things about my doctor in the delivery room

[shelbyann]

Just H. And our doula. No parents or siblings live locally so that makes things easy.

[pinotgrig]

Right now, just H and I. Possibly a doula as well, if we go that route. I think my mom would like to be in there too and I'm open to that, depending on how H does in the delivery room - he's way squeamish.

[pixiedust]

Jan 20, 2014 10:40:55 GMT -5 shelbyann said:

Just H...No parents or siblings live locally so that makes things easy.

This.  

[laurack]

This time I hope to be in the birth center, and it would just be h and I, mil would be taking care of Matilda because we have nobody else to.

I will say though that last time, while I wanted just h and I and the midwife etc. in the end I just didn't care. They could have invited twenty people in to watch and I wouldn't even have noticed. Once the pain gets bad it is not like I pictured it in my head, lol.

Mil was in there but she let herself out around the time I started screaming and writhing in the bath tub. I think I scared her

[Deleted]

Just H. My sis invited herself to be there the first time around. I easily nixed that by not telling her when I went into labor.

This time I was thinking of letting her be there but as my pregnancy goes on I am feeling less and less like I want her there.

[smock]

Jan 20, 2014 10:43:55 GMT -5 pixiedust said:

Jan 20, 2014 10:40:55 GMT -5 shelbyann said:

Just H...No parents or siblings live locally so that makes things easy.

This.  

Tritto!

[catsarecute]

When I'm in the active, painful, intense pushing stages of labor, I only want DH in there with me.
I don't mind family visiting other times as long as I feel okay but no way will anyone else be in that room with me when I'm pushing.

[chicago]

H only! I'm hoping not to even let anyone know I'm in labor until after she arrives. I don't want people jumping into their cars and driving right over. No no no no no.

[Deleted]

Jan 20, 2014 10:53:44 GMT -5 oceanspray said:

I thought it would be nice to have the moms in there with H but after reading:


community.babycenter.com/post/a25798437/the_best_of_delivery_room_dramas



I think it's just going to be H.

holy shit..lol

[narockshard]

I just plan on my husband, and if our hospital/insurance covers a doula, maybe her too. There's no way I'd want any other family or friends there. Heck, I don't even want to see what's going on down there 

[robinsbff]

just DH. our families are not local so we don't have to worry about anyone showing up at the hospital at all either.

[Deleted]

Jan 20, 2014 10:53:44 GMT -5 oceanspray said:

I thought it would be nice to have the moms in there with H but after reading:


community.babycenter.com/post/a25798437/the_best_of_delivery_room_dramas

OMG now I do not feel bad about not letting my sister in. 

[shaynaatl]

Plan is H only.

[natablue]

Just H and my SIL, who is my doula. I did tell my parents I would let them know when we were headed to the hospital, but that they didn't need to rush over. They probably will anyway. But they will not be joining us in the delivery room.

[IndiaInk]

I was planning to just have DH. But my sister is a photographer and recently we decided we'd like to have her there to photograph it for us. She's very talented so the pictures will be great. And I've told her I reserve the right to kick everyone but DH out of the room at any time, and she is completely understanding.

[blushing]

With my first it was supposed to be DH and my mom. My mom happened to be in Ireland the night DS came so she was not there and that was probably good. My mom is very pro-drugs and I had DS without any drugs. My mom would have started to panic about this and would have argued with with the medical staff.

This time it will just be DH. My mom will be at home looking after my DS. (She will coming over from South Africa for 6 weeks around the time of the birth)

[loira]

Just H. I am very close with my mum, but I don't think that extends to her wanting to be in the delivery room with me. Anyway, our family lives on another continent, so no need to turn down any requests.

[MrsDarcy]

Most likely just my H. I would consider having my mom in there, but I'm not sure. My son would be happiest with her while we're having the baby.

[ilikedonuts]

DH and my mom the first time
Just DH the second time

I liked having my mom there minus the fact that in every video after DD1 was born, my mom is talking so freaking loud. I will say she thought she was taking pictures and instead she ended up accidentally filming everything (not straight vagina shots or anything) so we have my doctor delivering DD and putting her on my chest (though the video is super shakey). Our hospital doesn't allow videos so the fact that my mom did it accidentally was hilarious.

It was way calmer with just DH though the 2nd time.

[chickadee77]

My H and possibly my sister, depending on when I deliver and when she gets into town. She always said that she wanted our mom so bad with all three of her kids (my mom died before any of them were born), that she wants it to be an option for me. But she is also totally okay with it, if, in the moment, I don't want her there, lol.

[Deleted]

The plan was to have MH only. However he informed me today that he will be standing outside with cigars. I told him that A) He doesnt smoke, B) You can't smoke in a hospital anymore. He thought for a second, and said that he will still be standing outside holding onto a cigar. Dork.

[Blue Moon]

As of now, my H and my mom if she can make it from out of town in time. I'm not sure if I can have three people, but I'd consider MIL too because she takes beautiful pictures and we have a great relationship.

[sh10]

DH and our doula will be there. I guess that's the one benefit of living 7+ hours from the nearest family. I don't even want family to visit until the baby is at least four weeks old. I'd prefer to have that time as a family of three, especially as I try to breastfeed.

[flgirl]

I have only had 1 vaginal but I had my dh, mom, dad and sister. When things started going wrong I was very glad they were all there to support me.

Now it is just DJ because of the c-sections. He actually stand and watches the whole thing and takes great pictures.

[pinotgrig]

Jan 20, 2014 11:20:56 GMT -5 narockshard said:

I just plan on my husband, and if our hospital/insurance covers a doula, maybe her too. There's no way I'd want any other family or friends there. Heck, I don't even want to see what's going on down there 

Do some insurances cover doulas? How do you go about finding that out? Every time I've called my ins to check on coverage, I have to have the procedure code. It would be awesome if they did!

[timorousbeastie]

I don't think I'd be comfortable with anyone other than H and medical professionals. Knowing my personality, I feel like I'd most likely feel like I had to downplay how I'm feeling for the comfort of anyone else in the room. Even if H were to pass out or something, I'd still rather just rely on support from the nurse than have another family member or friend there. As it is, we don't plan on even telling anyone I'm in the hospital until after I've delivered and we're ok with people potentially stopping by.