Do you take care of things on your own?

[nickyd2006]

I take care of things on my own usually if I want to get them done on a specific timeline. If I let him, DH would do everything, but it takes him forever to get around to the stuff I want done. Like his priority is getting the car washed if I ask him to go pick up milk. That said, I've also noticed he spends more when he takes the car in for maintenance, or the dog to the vet. I don't know why, but it's almost like he just says yes to any upsell that's thrown his way(nitrogen in the tires, etc). Like at the ER vet, they'll do their usual spheel about needing an xray, bloodwork, etc for a condition our dog has been known to have since she was a puppy-since it's not caused by something she ate or a chemical imbalance I usually forego the $200 xray/bloodwork because what she needs is an antiemetic(meds to make her stop throwing up), pepsid, and subcutaneous fluids and she makes a 100% recovery in a few hours(that alone can cost about $200). DH is also responsible for lawncare, but we live in a townhome for this reason! He hates mowing/yardwork, but if he has to buy something like a blower/hose/car jumper/tools he gets pretty into it and does consumer reports of everything on the market, etc.

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Jul 7, 2012 9:16:45 GMT -5 daisy0721 said:

My MIL and SIL can not believe that I handle things without MH. I took my car to the shop myself, bitched at them till I got a loaner, picked it up myself. These women cannot even take the dog to the vet on their own. They are so dependent on their husbands and each other. It's ridiculous. I don't get it.

Cant go to the vet on their own!? What is this the 1850s where women need to be escroted around lets they stir up trouble or ruin their reputation?

That is very depressing, to have a life totally hemmed in and dependent upon someone else. What would they do if the husband is on vacation or traveling for work? Sit around the house watching for the husbands return?

Yes - I take care of stuff on my own. So does my husband. We were born in the latter part of the twentieth century! We try and divvy up chores or outsource the ones we both hate...but we are pretty independent people.

This is amazing. Do these ladies have jobs? Im betting no....

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yep...I do it all.

I owned my own home before I met my DH and could do it then, so why wouldnt I be able to do it now?
DH works long and hard while my job is not as demanding. I balance it out by taking care of the house and our lives.

[M]

I can do it all myself, but it's just nice that H is here to help out when I don't have time. Things like bills, I do on my own because I'm better with our finances. Things like oil changes, he takes care of because frankly I just don't want to do it and never learned how. We share all other responsibilities and do what needs to be done together or alone depending on how busy the other is. Like H will jump in and do the dishes or pick up around the house and I'll take the cars to the dealer if they're due for a service.

I honestly can't imagine being with a man who refuses to do the typical wifely duties or who thinks I'm incapable of performing manly tasks. I put our giant U-shaped desk together because H is too impatient for that kind of stuff haha. And I'm going to be putting in hardwood floors in MIL's rental home here in a couple weeks...by myself. I'm going to be sore after that one.

[awick14]

I am very independent.

I do however get DH to talk to the mechanic when I take my car in. (only if we do not know what I wrong with the car, as from my experience I am not the greatest at making sure that they are not ripping me off because I don't know anything about vehicles)

Everything else we share the responsibilities. We are a great team that way.

[thatgirl2478]

Yes. Though, a lot of the less pleasant tasks I leave to DH ... trash, dog poop pickup, lawn mowing, snow shoveling, etc. If we want a remodel project around the house, I decide on the person/company doing it and the materials used. I certainly discuss with DH, but ultimately I'm the one listing to the sales pitches and making phone calls.

[thatgirl2478]

Jul 7, 2012 19:55:36 GMT -5 greekypie said:

Jul 7, 2012 18:50:02 GMT -5 Brie said:

I totally thought this was a poll about vibrators when I read the title.

Womp womp.

I thought I was the only one .... and I'm shocked that it took until page 3 for this to surface!

Ha.

LOL - I thought the same thing!