I've lied to DH what my checks from work are. I will cash them and then deposit some and keep a little for secret cash.
I've always thought that getting cash back at the grocery store would be the easiest way to squirrel away extra cash.
It definitely is. After my mom found out about my dad's affair, she made sure to throw in a grocery store GC with every single shopping trip. Their separation took a while...
Post by speckledfrog on Feb 14, 2014 20:18:22 GMT -5
@otterama would you honestly feel like it was NBD if he had a secret account of his own?
I totally get the desire to have your own money and to not be accountable to someone for your purchases. I kept my small checking account as my own when we got married, but MH knew all about it. He didn't feel the need to have one of his own, but he respected that I felt that way.
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Feb 14, 2014 20:19:21 GMT -5
crazycakes, isn't one of the things about marriage that you can tell your spouse what you enjoy and not feel too judged? And he liked it. Is it better to be right or miss out on something you enjoy?
@otterama would you honestly feel like it was NBD if he had a secret account of his own?
I totally get the desire to have your own money and to not be accountable to someone for your purchases. I kept my small checking account as my own when we got married, but MH knew all about it. He didn't feel the need to have one of his own, but he respected that I felt that way.
No, I didn't think it would. But I also don't have a secret account. I just get some cash from my check sometimes and deposit the rest in our joint account.
@otterama would you honestly feel like it was NBD if he had a secret account of his own?
I totally get the desire to have your own money and to not be accountable to someone for your purchases. I kept my small checking account as my own when we got married, but MH knew all about it. He didn't feel the need to have one of his own, but he respected that I felt that way.
No, I didn't think it would. But I also don't have a secret account. I just get some cash from my check sometimes and deposit the rest in our joint account.
this sounds so much less shady than your original post. I don't know if this is the same thing as "I lie to my h about how much my paycheck is"
No, I didn't think it would. But I also don't have a secret account. I just get some cash from my check sometimes and deposit the rest in our joint account.
Are we supposed to pretend we don't remember that you were planning on walking out on him a week ago, partly because of the arguments you two were having over money? Because something isn't matching up.
Nope. We still have issues. We had a talk about what we wanted to do and he asked for some time. I'm still figuring out what I should do.
Therapy is the answer, but he hasn't decided for sure if he wants to try it.
No, I didn't think it would. But I also don't have a secret account. I just get some cash from my check sometimes and deposit the rest in our joint account.
this sounds so much less shady than your original post. I don't know if this is the same thing as "I lie to my h about how much my paycheck is"
If this was my husband I would be hella pissed. Even if we weren't in a bad place there is no reason to hide money.
Plus what KA said.
Yes. It's something I did before he lost his job, obviously.
And our issues weren't money related in a way that not being honest with money was the problems. The problem is that he lost his job, has been nasty and rude about everything, and then didn't want to take a good paying job because he'd have to spend $100 a month on parking.
Right now we are saving every penny we can. We need a solid savings. We agree on that.