No, I didn't think it would. But I also don't have a secret account. I just get some cash from my check sometimes and deposit the rest in our joint account.
...there might not be an actual "secret account" but you are still not being honest amount the actual amount of your check.
I agree. I had never thought of it that way. My thinking was more "why does he need to see that I went to Target and got a few things" and then just not seeing the big deal about not telling him.
My H has been wanting Mcdonalds for awhile now, but it always gives him the shits, so I always bitch at him when he wants to get it.
I got it got him today as a "Valentine's day lunch" in hopes it would give him the shits and I wouldn't have to have sex tonight, well fuck me because it didn't get him the shits! ugh, lol. It's not even that I don't want to have sex, because I do, I' just lazy/
I agree. I had never thought of it that way. My thinking was more "why does he need to see that I went to Target and got a few things" and then just not seeing the big deal about not telling him.
But you said you lied about your paycheck amount.
And honestly, what would be the problem with him seeing random purchases from target? There's no reason to hide that kind of stuff unless he's being controlling or you're not spending within agreed upon parameters.
I'm not sure why. Fear of judgement for spending money? I'm not sure. I've never thought about why.
I was coming in here to confess that I beat the next level in Candy Crush while pooping. But, I see there are better confessions in here...
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I bet that's how 90 percent of people level up in CC. While shitting. Seriously. You've got to zen out to beat those motherfuckers so what better tons to do it.
I'll confess I've beaten every level in CC, sadly.
I've never played while pooping, but if I am stuck on a level I always win when I am in the weirdest places and not expecting to win, lol.
Your h wouldn't accept a job bc he had to pay $100 in parking???
Dire enough for a stranger-funded amazon list though. Lol. Awesome.
No, he took it. He was just angry and freaking out over stupid stuff.
Wait, you guys aren't even done paying for your adoption and your h was seriously considering not taking a job because of having to pay for parking? And you hide money from your check? Sounds SO healthy. What. the. fuck.
I have been in some pretty significant stomach pain for about three weeks now. That, combined with the lack of sleep, and I have come freaking UNGLUED on my husband lately. Today I cried because he asked me when I wanted to have dinner because I couldn't think straight. I am so embarrassed about my behavior lately.
Whoa. I don't really blame @otterama right now. If I were in her position, I'd be hiding some money too. It would be stupid of her not to. At least this way she has an out, if need be.
I have been in some pretty significant stomach pain for about three weeks now. That, combined with the lack of sleep, and I have come freaking UNGLUED on my husband lately. Today I cried because he asked me when I wanted to have dinner because I couldn't think straight. I am so embarrassed about my behavior lately.
I find chubby, awkward, nerdy guys really, really attractive. My work is a giant building full of awkward, nerdy, kinda chubby guys. I basically get to sit around all day, do random IT work, and talk to cute (to me!) dudes. Bonus: They are all super nice, so instead of being the odd man out, I can actually be friends with some of these people.
This being said, i still haven't had a single work crush. The only nerdy, awkward, kinda weird dude for me is my fi, yo!
And honestly, what would be the problem with him seeing random purchases from target? There's no reason to hide that kind of stuff unless he's being controlling or you're not spending within agreed upon parameters.
I'm not sure why. Fear of judgement for spending money? I'm not sure. I've never thought about why.
Oh. If it's just to blow it, then disregard what I said two seconds ago. That's just dumb.
Whoa. I don't really blame @otterama right now. If I were in her position, I'd be hiding some money too. It would be stupid of her not to. At least this way she has an out, if need be.
Whoa. I don't really blame @otterama right now. If I were in her position, I'd be hiding some money too. It would be stupid of her not to. At least this way she has an out, if need be.
Post by Jalapeñomel on Feb 14, 2014 20:56:47 GMT -5
Maybe I'm just missing something, but $40 a pay check in a household that is short on money is a lot. I would really feel hurt if my DH was doing this, especially knowing that I was doing the best I could to save money.
EDIT: I didn't read the responses before I posted, and I didn't realize you were doing this before your DH lost his job. Regardless, I'd be upset if my DH was hiding money.
I have been in some pretty significant stomach pain for about three weeks now. That, combined with the lack of sleep, and I have come freaking UNGLUED on my husband lately. Today I cried because he asked me when I wanted to have dinner because I couldn't think straight. I am so embarrassed about my behavior lately.
You need to see a doctor.
I have, I'm okay. It's just my IBS. I'm in a bad cycle right now due to stress and not eating very well. Just need to calm down and get myself back on track. I just have one of the more severe cases and it takes a lot of work to manage. I'm also experiencing IBS-C rather than IBS-D which I am not as practiced in managing and the pain symptoms are harder to control. It's just a learning process still.
Nothing like posting on a message board to make you feel like a fucked up loser who can't get her life together.
Are you always so woe-is-me about your life? Seriously. You fucked up. Own it. Change it. Move on.
I don't fucking know how! I don't. There. That's why. I talk to people on a message board, where I can't seem to say things right and then it looks stupid and like I'm backtracking, I don't have family I can talk to and I don't have any friends I can talk to about it.
I can't talk to DH about it. He doesn't fucking get it. And I'm scared to death to leave him because I don't know what would happen and if I could make it.
Trust me. I know I need therapy. I'm so fucking aware of it. We don't have insurance until March 1, so I have to wait it out until then.
I really don't know how to handle all these things. It may be woe is me, but I had a fucked up childhood and a mother that was abusive and never showed me how to get my shit together and unlike others in a similar situation, I can't seem to figure out what I need to do to fix it all.
I have impure thoughts about my boss sometimes. This is wired because we've been friend for 8 years & just started working together. I just think its because he has a beard & I've never gotten oral from someone with a beard before. H cannot grow a beard at all.
I don't really even like him that much as a friend, & he's an annoying boss.