Maybe I'm just missing something, but $40 a pay check in a household that is short on money is a lot. I would really feel hurt if my DH was doing this, especially knowing that I was doing the best I could to save money.
Agreed. I would be hurt that he was taking money but also hurt that he felt like he needed to sneak it.
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Are you always so woe-is-me about your life? Seriously. You fucked up. Own it. Change it. Move on.
I don't fucking know how! I don't. There. That's why. I talk to people on a message board, where I can't seem to say things right and then it looks stupid and like I'm backtracking, I don't have family I can talk to and I don't have any friends I can talk to about it.
I can't talk to DH about it. He doesn't fucking get it. And I'm scared to death to leave him because I don't know what would happen and if I could make it.
Trust me. I know I need therapy. I'm so fucking aware of it. We don't have insurance until March 1, so I have to wait it out until then.
I really don't know how to handle all these things. It may be woe is me, but I had a fucked up childhood and a mother that was abusive and never showed me how to get my shit together and unlike others in a similar situation, I can't seem to figure out what I need to do to fix it all.
What the fuck are you talking about that you don't know how to deal with your life? You just deal. Stop spending money you don't have. If you can't do that, tell your H and have him do the shopping. Or have him give you cash until you can learn to control it.
And I don't know what "I can't seem to figure out what I need to do to fix it all" means or is in reference to.
I could have some sympathy if you were trying to fix it and not lying about it.
Are you always so woe-is-me about your life? Seriously. You fucked up. Own it. Change it. Move on.
I don't have any advice really. It's hard to give someone advice when you don't truly know them. But I wanted to say that I am really sorry you feel this way and hope that you are able to find someone to talk to when March comes.
Boring confession: I need to work but instead I'm going to curl up on the sofa, watch tv with the hubs and knit. I'll pay for it all weekend long but right now I just don't care.
It's...scratchy. Sometimes that's good tickly fun. Sometimes it's just...scratchy. Sorry to be a (why so) wet blanket, but it's not something I would go out of my way for or anything.
DH and I have issues that we are working on (both of us are making progress and improving) but we've never had a problem in the bedroom. For some reason I'm a big huge prude outside the bedroom and I can't talk about my sex life, even with my best friends. I usually avoid these threads for that reason.
Post by VeryViolet on Feb 14, 2014 21:09:15 GMT -5
@ottermama I will go down with your ship. I do that with mileage checks I get sometimes. I have in passing told DH that I sometimes get cash off of them I think. DH doesn't care what I spend within reason but sometimes I want to spend $50 at target or sephora and not have him be all "what nonsense did you get this time..." Also, I wouldn't give a shit if he did the same thing. I know he isn't hiding thousands from me and if he wants to buy a stupid shooter game for the playstation or something without me seeing/commenting I really don't care.
ETA I didn't read all the way through and it looks like things took a turn. I stand by my statement though not everything is OMG YOUR MARRIAGE
I don't fucking know how! I don't. There. That's why. I talk to people on a message board, where I can't seem to say things right and then it looks stupid and like I'm backtracking, I don't have family I can talk to and I don't have any friends I can talk to about it.
I can't talk to DH about it. He doesn't fucking get it. And I'm scared to death to leave him because I don't know what would happen and if I could make it.
Trust me. I know I need therapy. I'm so fucking aware of it. We don't have insurance until March 1, so I have to wait it out until then.
I really don't know how to handle all these things. It may be woe is me, but I had a fucked up childhood and a mother that was abusive and never showed me how to get my shit together and unlike others in a similar situation, I can't seem to figure out what I need to do to fix it all.
What the fuck are you talking about that you don't know how to deal with your life? You just deal. Stop spending money you don't have. If you can't do that, tell your H and have him do the shopping. Or have him give you cash until you can learn to control it.
And I don't know what "I can't seem to figure out what I need to do to fix it all" means or is in reference to.
I could have some sympathy if you were trying to fix it and not lying about it.
I don't have a spending problem. I would do it before when he had a job. Not when he lost his job. I want to fix everything. Me, my marriage, knowing how to deal with things as they come up, all of it.
DH and I have issues that we are working on (both of us are making progress and improving) but we've never had a problem in the bedroom. For some reason I'm a big huge prude outside the bedroom and I can't talk about my sex life, even with my best friends. I usually avoid these threads for that reason.
Still waters...
And this is not a safe place, so I understand that (but clearly I don't care because I over share)
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Feb 14, 2014 21:11:35 GMT -5
I get annoyed when people say "fundie" on here. It's almost always used in a derogatory way and it irks me. I am not part of any religion that would be deemed "fundamentalist" but I don't like using derogatory terms about ANY religion. I understand that some people have negative opinions that have been formed from personal experience but I still don't like seeing it used.
What the fuck are you talking about that you don't know how to deal with your life? You just deal. Stop spending money you don't have. If you can't do that, tell your H and have him do the shopping. Or have him give you cash until you can learn to control it.
And I don't know what "I can't seem to figure out what I need to do to fix it all" means or is in reference to.
I could have some sympathy if you were trying to fix it and not lying about it.
You are such a fucking bully. You don't deserve to know anything about her life, and she has no need to explain things that you don't understand. Stop being such a heartless bitch.
Am I? Oh look at me not care. I don't have sympathy for liars.
He took it down!! It was basically that Kristen tried to come onto him and he videotaped her trying and that she sold a story to InTouch magazine (I guess it's coming out this week) that they hooked up while they were in NY filming WWHL. And that when asked on WWHL he had to play along with what she said bc bravo didn't want him to spoil the rest of the season.
Yes. It's something I did before he lost his job, obviously.
And our issues weren't money related in a way that not being honest with money was the problems. The problem is that he lost his job, has been nasty and rude about everything, and then didn't want to take a good paying job because he'd have to spend $100 a month on parking.
Right now we are saving every penny we can. We need a solid savings. We agree on that.
How does this work if you are skimming money from your check to spend it? I would have no issue if you were saving it for yourself until you have a clearer picture where your relationship is going, but just to spend it on stuff doesn't seem to be the wisest thing to do. It sounds like you are in a rough spot right now, I hope everything works out for you.
Once again, I did it BEFORE HE LOST HIS JOB. I DID NOT DO IT WHILE HE WAS UNEMPLOYED AND DO NOT DO IT NOW.
I really want to buy a couple of things from ThirtyOne. I feel ashamed.
LOL Don't be. I have a few things that I won at an auction and work really well for me. The utility totes are great for my hauling the kids' shit around for their activities.
How does this work if you are skimming money from your check to spend it? I would have no issue if you were saving it for yourself until you have a clearer picture where your relationship is going, but just to spend it on stuff doesn't seem to be the wisest thing to do. It sounds like you are in a rough spot right now, I hope everything works out for you.
Once again, I did it BEFORE HE LOST HIS JOB. I DID NOT DO IT WHILE HE WAS UNEMPLOYED AND DO NOT DO IT NOW.
Here's the thing. You made it sound you were still doing it in your OP. And you lie about it. Because of that, I don't believe that you didn't do it recently.
If it were socially acceptable, I would go back to work right now.
How old is misotiny again? I was begging H to take off a few weeks so I could go back at 3 weeks pp. At 6 weeks I was crying because I had to go back in 6 more weeks. After I went back I loved working for the next year, now I wish I could go back to part time.
@misoangry My MIL went back a within two weeks of having both her kids. In the late 60s. SIL was out less than a month with both of hers. I truly think I might not have lost my shit if I had done the same. I wish everyone could just take the time that was right for them and society could just shut up for a while.
Post by littlepeanut on Feb 14, 2014 21:20:46 GMT -5
My baby is 4 months, and we haven't had sex yet. I'm skerred. We also did not have sex during pregnancy since I was on pelvic rest the whole time. It's been SOOOO long.
He took it down!! It was basically that Kristen tried to come onto him and he videotaped her trying and that she sold a story to InTouch magazine (I guess it's coming out this week) that they hooked up while they were in NY filming WWHL. And that when asked on WWHL he had to play along with what she said bc bravo didn't want him to spoil the rest of the season.
Is he still with the blonde chick?
Yes, he posted a pic recently with them posing together that said "my real date to the Grammys". And they've both been posting up a storm in Instagram pics of each other.
i follow Stassi, Katie, Peter, Tom Sandoval, Tom Schwartz ans Ariana. Not Jax, Scheana or Kristin
If it were socially acceptable, I would go back to work right now.
If you want to, do it. I have an attorney friend who was back within a week after each of her children. It is where she wanted to be, no judgment here.
But there would be judgment at work.
Ironically, going back this early would not serve me well.