My friends and I were talking about this a few weeks ago - many different opinions. Do you think it is cheating if your DH/SO looks at porn without your knowledge? Or dirty pictures? Have you discussed this with your SO? If so, what was the discussion and what were your comfort zones?
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"I was thinking about getting off on demand, but it sounds like I should be glad that I didn't"
People have different views on cheating, I know a girl that considers her husband cheating if he so much as looks at another girl, let alone porn. (They have problems, beyond that)
My husband watches porn, I'm sure he watches it when I'm not around. I don't know those people, he will never meet them in his life, I'm not worried. I would consider it a problem if he was choosing porn over me or ignoring responsibilities because of porn.
Now, strip clubs *might* be more of a grey area (they don't bother me personally) but I LOVE that my DH watches porn. It totally cuts down on the # of BJ's i have to dole out
If you and your spouse/SO have agreed looking at porn is fine and dandy, then no, it isn't.
If your or your spouse/SO have an issue with looking at porn and the other person looks at it anyway, not cheating necessarily, but that's a huge red flag as it doesn't show a good deal of respect for the other person's needs and boundaries.
If you or your spouse/SO are more interested in looking at porn than in investing in your relationship, i.e. rejecting the other for sex because you'd rather get off by yourself while looking at porn, I think that is a form of infidelity and it's going outside your marriage to fulfill your sexual needs and leaving your spouse/SO high and dry.
I am not a fan of porn for a myriad of reasons and it has no place in my marriage and DH is 100% on board with that.
Unless there are crazy circumstances, no. How tiring of a life it must be if you need to know everytime your husband does anything.
THIS.
I am definitely pro porn (of the legal variety of course - and for reals, I think it's ridiculous that I have to clarify this but if I didn't I know someone would be all, "ohhhhh, what if it's underage porn").
I can only imagine it'd be cheating if both parties agreed ahead of time that porn wasn't ok. Which is super weird IMO.