My DH is a certified car seat tech and we switched DS before 2. We had our reasons.
What were your reasons? I just can't get too worked up about RF vs FF. I mean, if it was truely UNSAFE to forward face, then they would not allow car seats that forward face earlier then X on the shelves. I kind of look at it like the drop side cribs. At one time they were safe, then it was realized they weren't safe so they were removed from store shelves. No one is allowed to sell them anymore right?
DS was a screamer. DD1, who was 2, would start yelling at him to stop crying. This would go on for entire car rides. He was fine once we turned him, a few months after turning 1. I'm not sure if he was car sick or just being a toddler, but it was awful. I cringe thinking about it now and it has been 4 years.
ETA: I guess it is a reason, not reasons, unless we count my mental health as reason 2.
Since we're talking about food...I gave M part of my vanilla milkshake yesterday. He LOVED it. Pretty sure he would have drank the whole thing if I would have let him.
N had 1/2 of DH's Boston Cooler (vanilla ice cream + Vernors). So much for my no pop rule!
I flamed someone on TB once for this, but I fully intend to fudge O/period date info if/when I get pregnant again in hopes of avoiding another induction. I probably won't tell my H, either.
I did this. My LMP would have made my EDD about a week and a half earlier than my O date so I told the Dr a LMP that lined up with my O date. If someone was kind of iffy on their O date I would judge but with a definite date I see no problem with it.
Forward- vs. rear-facing: I noticed back in December that two of DS's former classmates (from when they were all in the infant room) were forward-facing. They were 16/17 months at the time. Their parents are educated professionals, and one is a second kid. I was definitely surprised.
I just can't get pearl clutchy over people moving their children FF if they are over the age of 12 months. Sorry everyone. We turned DS at 15 months. He is tall for his age and would brace his legs against the back of the seat every time I had to put him in there, causing about a 2-5 minute mini wrestling match. In the middle of winter. So I turned him. I realize that keeping him FF until 2 would have been safer and I had every intention of doing it, but it just wasn't happening.
Forward- vs. rear-facing: I noticed back in December that two of DS's former classmates (from when they were all in the infant room) were forward-facing. They were 16/17 months at the time. Their parents are educated professionals, and one is a second kid. I was definitely surprised.
I don't think any mom/friend I know IRL kept their kid rear-facing until 2 years old. In my "mommy and me" group from the hospital there were a lot of us who kept kids rear-facing until 18 months+, but not quite all the way to 2 years. We ended up turning DS1 at 20 months because we couldn't fit two rear-facing car seats in our small car when we had to but the infant seat back in for DS2 being born.
All my friends who I knew pre-baby who have had kids int he past 3-4 years pretty much all went FF around a year old. I have gotten some random comments from those friends being surprised when they see a rear-facing seat in my car still (for DS2 who is 19 months old).
DH is even on my case about FF DS2 sooner rather than later. He's pretty much backed off and leaves the decision up to me (since my car is the only one with car seats in it anyway, I do 95% of the kid driving). He's very much one of those people who thinks people are going over-the-top safety crazy and the government shouldn't be telling us what to do, blah, blah, blah.
I definitely think the whole RF until 2 thing is not common with the general public yet.
Post by strawberriquen on Mar 10, 2014 14:00:43 GMT -5
Here is a story of a young toddler who was internally decapitated because he was forward facing before his bones were ready for it. Thank God he is alive and has little permanent injuries.
What were your reasons? I just can't get too worked up about RF vs FF. I mean, if it was truely UNSAFE to forward face, then they would not allow car seats that forward face earlier then X on the shelves. I kind of look at it like the drop side cribs. At one time they were safe, then it was realized they weren't safe so they were removed from store shelves. No one is allowed to sell them anymore right?
DS was a screamer. DD1, who was 2, would start yelling at him to stop crying. This would go on for entire car rides. He was fine once we turned him, a few months after turning 2. I'm not sure if he was car sick or just being a toddler, but it was awful. I cringe thinking about it now and it has been 4 years.
ETA: I guess it is a reason, not reasons, unless we count my mental health as reason 2.
We switched DS before 2, as well. He has juvenile arthritis and is also a big kid - we didn't think it was good for his legs to be cramped up since his joints that are most affected are his ankles and hips.
Post by blueberry10 on Mar 10, 2014 14:03:10 GMT -5
My confession is that I never realized while researching convertible car seats that Britax models are often outgrown by height for RF pretty quickly; now DD is about to outgrow hers RF and I feel guilty that we'll be turning her FF only a few months after she turned two. But I can't really stomach buying yet another convertible seat to hold us over. I'm bummed that the NextFit wasn't available yet when we bought our seats.
I'm judging a childhood friend and his wife. They just had their first kid, and I think they're behaving ridimculously, particularly towards their families. Obviously I only hear bits and pieces of the story, but my eyes have rolled out of my head more this than I can count. I've kept my mouth shut, though.
I flamed someone on TB once for this, but I fully intend to fudge O/period date info if/when I get pregnant again in hopes of avoiding another induction. I probably won't tell my H, either.
Do these dates even matter once they do a dating u/s and anatomy scans?
Many practices do not so a dating us unless there is a reason for it such as spotting etc. Once you are past 12 weeks babies start growing at all different rates making the anatomy scan a bad predictor of pregnancy date. The best time to date a pregnancy is around 8 weeks when all babies are essentially the same size.
I had been tracking my o date for almost two years by the time I got pregnant with DS and I always ovulated around day 19-22. So I adjusted my LMP to match my o date. I had betas done because I had had a miscarriage two months before. I didn't want them telling me my numbers were low because they expected me to be a week further along than I was. I also didn't want them to schedule.my dating us too early and risk not seeing anything because they expected I was further along.
My confession is that I never realized while researching convertible car seats that Britax models are often outgrown by height for RF pretty quickly; now DD is about to outgrow hers RF and I feel guilty that we'll be turning her FF only a few months after she turned two. But I can't really stomach buying yet another convertible seat to hold us over. I'm bummed that the NextFit wasn't available yet when we bought our seats.
This was exactly our situation. When I bought our Britax Marathon, I didn't know they were often outgrown by height for RFing pretty quickly. DS hit the height limit at 22 months old so we had to turn him. I wish we could have RFed longer, but we simply don't have $200+ for a Nextfit or other high-shell seat to get us RFing a few more months. So we turned him. I was also really, really bummed when the Nextfit came out a month or two after we bought our Britax. I was like "DAMMIT the Nextfit looks so much better!" Easy installation, 9 recline levels, high shell.
I am really starting to hate my SIL and her mooch factor. She's 10 years old than me, a fucking licensed CPA, and makes twice what I make...why the hell am I having to dodge her hints for my shit all the time?
Since we're talking about food...I gave M part of my vanilla milkshake yesterday. He LOVED it. Pretty sure he would have drank the whole thing if I would have let him.
This is not a confession /gavel
How's this for an actual confession...
I just started night weaning M a few days ago, he'll be 26 months tomorrow. It's going surprisingly well, which I'm happy about. I'm not actually counting but it seems he's waking less often. He goes back to sleep with a little shushing & sometimes some back patting. I was expecting full out screaming.
I fudged my LMP with DD and am totally happy I did. My doctor doesn't do routine dating u/s, and I didn't need one - I knew when she was conceived. She was 3 days late. The way you're treated when your baby is 3 days late vs. 10 days late (which would have been the story from my LMP) is pretty different.
I just started night weaning M a few days ago, he'll be 26 months tomorrow. It's going surprisingly well, which I'm happy about. I'm not actually counting but it seems he's waking less often. He goes back to sleep with a little shushing & sometimes some back patting. I was expecting full out screaming.
My confession is that I never realized while researching convertible car seats that Britax models are often outgrown by height for RF pretty quickly; now DD is about to outgrow hers RF and I feel guilty that we'll be turning her FF only a few months after she turned two. But I can't really stomach buying yet another convertible seat to hold us over. I'm bummed that the NextFit wasn't available yet when we bought our seats.
You're not alone, I didn't realize this either when I was shopping/researching. I'm going to have to turn M around soon, he's 26 months.
I just started night weaning M a few days ago, he'll be 26 months tomorrow. It's going surprisingly well, which I'm happy about. I'm not actually counting but it seems he's waking less often. He goes back to sleep with a little shushing & sometimes some back patting. I was expecting full out screaming.
That's a better confession! ::Pats Ashley on the back::
::whispers:: But I'm glad to hear it's going well, yay! Have you introduced a lovey, or let M latch onto something himself? Even after Ferbering, DS's nighttime sleep got even better after he chose a lovey (a stuffed dog). He finds it and soothes himself MOTN. Plus he'll play with it in his crib in the mornings for 15-30 minutes. I can pee, DH can make coffee, it's glorious.
I just started night weaning M a few days ago, he'll be 26 months tomorrow. It's going surprisingly well, which I'm happy about. I'm not actually counting but it seems he's waking less often. He goes back to sleep with a little shushing & sometimes some back patting. I was expecting full out screaming.
That's a better confession! ::Pats Ashley on the back::
::whispers:: But I'm glad to hear it's going well, yay! Have you introduced a lovey, or let M latch onto something himself? Even after Ferbering, DS's nighttime sleep got even better after he chose a lovey (a stuffed dog). He finds it and soothes himself MOTN. Plus he'll play with it in his crib in the mornings for 15-30 minutes. I can pee, DH can make coffee, it's glorious.
We haven't introduced a lovey but aren't discouraging one either. He has some stuffed animals but none of them seem to interest him. He doesn't seem particularly attached to any of his blankets. I actually took him down the stuffed animal aisle at Target last weekend, suggesting a small Elmo or Mickey. He picked the GIANT Mickey Mouse, it was like 2ft tall.
I am really starting to hate my SIL and her mooch factor. She's 10 years old than me, a fucking licensed CPA, and makes twice what I make...why the hell am I having to dodge her hints for my shit all the time?
Is this the one that didn't want you to bring your daughter to a family party?
YES.
Now she won't shut the fuck up about getting pregnant again soon, and maybe this one is a girl, and if it is then she needs all my stuff. I don't even know what fucking stuff she's talking about because we got all of our big ticket items gender neutral, so I guess she just wants clothes? Even Olivia's nursery is neutral, it's a motherfucking forest and I just accented with red and white polka dots (toad stools, yo). I'm irritated by all of this in three ways:
1. Uh, you already can't afford putting your first in daycare. You had a pressure an aunt to watch him, for free. How is it not considered rude in your mind to basically assume that aunt would be cool with you dumping a second child on her to watch, for free? I'm close with this aunt, and she is fucking livid about the whole thing and how presumptuous it is regarding her time and generosity.
2. Dude. You wanted two kids like twenty minutes apart. This is planned, not some PP surprise. Why wouldn't you get YOUR shit gender neutral, especially if money is tight?
3. Uh, we're not done. You know we're not done, we've told you. It's fucking weird to get all pouty when we say we'll set aside some clothing for you, but we're holding on to the majority of everything until we know what's in store for our future. It's also weird that you get insistent that we are going to have a boy.
It's just bizarre to me that we're talking about like, a thousand motherfucking hypotheticals about two MAKE BELIEVE BABIES THAT DON'T EXIST YET AND MIGHT NOT EXIST. It's the reiteration over and over that she needs our stuff that really fucking icks me out, especially because I did a lot for her during this past pregnancy. Idk, I really liked her before all of this. She had issues during her pregnancy, but I know she's been cleared so far of having any PPD. She doesn't seem depressed, and she's an ok mom to my nephew, she just seems...idk, into doing whatever the fuck she wants and we all have to accommodate that now? H pointed out that her dynamic with MIL has been like this for ages, it's just only now trickling down to us and that's why it seems out of the blue.
ETA: Her H has always been this way, so now it's kind of makes sense how they're together. She's been more reserved than him in the past, but now they're acting on the same obnoxious level.
There's a grandfather that picks up a boy DS' age at our DC that uses a car seat that looks like this:
And even though I know it's wrong-I don't have a desire to say anything. I get the feeling from what I know of this family that it's a step in the right direction that this kid is even IN a car seat.
We used disposables all last week because C had a bad rash.
I kind of liked the fact that his pants fit, they didn't take up half the diaper bag when we went out, and I didn't have to fart around with spraying and doing laundry. I was sort of sad when the rash cleared up and we went back to cloth yesterday.
@bettyhomewrecker33, she's not even PG yet? Am I understanding that right? She's nuts. Even if you were done it doesn't mean she's entitled to your stuff. How is she handling her gender disappointment? When I read about it my heart broke for her little boy. Why does she think she's going to have a girl or that you'll have a boy? Shit, I'd expect a CPA to be a little more logical. She sounds BSC.
Nope, she just got cleared for sex LAST WEEK. Yet, this has managed to come up since the day after my nephew was born.
An honest answer on the gender disappointment is I don't know. She seems to truly be head over heels with my nephew, and is sweet to him and doting and really proud of him and all that good stuff. So, on the outside everything seems great, there aren't any signs there. He's a great baby and I really am happy to see that she's taken such great care of him so far. I was worried, but she is attentive to him and hasn't mentioned any regrets or anything since about a month or so before his birth.
I think the whole "you're having a boy thing" grew out of kind of a joke, like we would just switch stuff. Like: "If you have a boy we'll just give you nephew's things, and if we have a girl we'll just use O's things, super easy, hahaaa". I think our lack of reaction to that is maybe making her sweat a little, because for us it really would be just clothing items, and she seems to want more than that and is stressing about it not being an even switch or something. The only reason I'm running this theory is she mentioned something about switching crib furniture since nephew's is gray and O's is white, and I was like "What? No. Don't worry about that. We're totally using the same furniture, regardless of sex." So, I don't think she literally thinks that we'll have a boy next and that she'll have a girl, but she does seem irritated that we're basically not just forking all of our shit over.
I can reiterate enough that before all this she was so much fun and smart and great. It's a weird kind of entitlement vibe now and she seems stressed about the timing of when we plan to have our second. We'll start trying when O is 2 1/2, and she's 8 months old now, so yeah, we're not exactly seeing a reason to nail down all this shit today.
@bettyhomewrecker33 Your SIL sounds like a complete nut job. Stand strong and tell her NO. I hate grabby family/friends. I just avoid the conversation with them.
Brie, this is how I eventually ended up quitting cloth. I would avoid cloth when DD wore a certain brand of onesie because it would cause compression leaks and I didn't want to spend more money on different inserts. Then she wore those onesies several days in a row. And then I told DH I quit. I am loving not having to do the laundry. Laziness wins.
I going to need to have a conversation with myself about needs vs. wants. I just got back from Target. I go there less than once a month,and usually try to get out as quickly as possible.
While there, I remembered Kirklette has two St.Patrick's Day parties at school. I went to the $1 section, and grabbed a shamrock necklace. After carrying it around for a few minutes, I thought is was fug, and headed to the kids clothes. I decided she needed an outfit, for each party, and a headband.
Then, I decided that after having to settle for regular Ben & Jerry's ice cream on Friday night (Mr.Kirkette went to two different stores, and both were out of Cores), I really needed a pint of Cores. I couldn't decide what flavor I wanted. So, I bought myself all 4. $20+ of ice cream for myself. That's a new one!
I just tried the Cores ice cream for the first time this weekend - LOVED it!
I just tried the Cores ice cream for the first time this weekend - LOVED it!
I just finished 1/3 of the 1st one (Hazed & Confused). It was quite good. The only one I don't have in the freezer is Peanut Butter Fudge. They didn't have this at Target. I have high hopes for Karamel Sutra and Salted Caramel. I have no expectations for That's My Jam, but I had the others in my basket and figured meh, why not?
I really wanted the Salted Caramel but they didn't have it, so we did the Peanut Butter Fudge. I like where your mind was with the full taste test - it's the only way to become a true expert!
t and @littlemoxie, I am pretty sure my H would kill me if I quit, LOL.
I really do like cloth. I like not having to shell out for disposables, I don't mind the laundry, usually his poop is ploppable and easy to deal with. But a little vacation from it is nice.
It was also adorable how excited C got about seeing Elmo on his diapers. And let's be honest, CD-safe diaper creams are crap for any rash worse than minor redness.