Confeshy Feshy Feshions!

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 I am bribing DS with a lollipop after dinner everyday he keeps his pacifier in his bed and doesn't use it during the day. I was trying to set up a BIGGER transition with a special fairy who comes and takes all the binkies away and gives them to little babies and leaves a BIG BOY TOY. This was still kind of abstract for DS so we are trying this as " practice" for the " Binky Fairy". I feel like an asshole bribing my kid with candy, but candy is really motivating for him, so I am just going with what works. Still pre kid me is rolling my eyes at Mom- Me right now. HARD. 

[ssmjlm]

I'm using sex as a bargaining tool with DH for house projects. I think he's onto me, but he got some twice this weekend, so I think he's ok with it.

[mandapanda18]

my kid is allergic to milk, he is exclusively breastfed. I REALLY wanted a grilled cheese from Boudins yesterday, have not had one is 8+ months... so I made H order it and had half. The first feeding after I ate it was fine. The second seemed fine (about 4 hours post-grilled cheese) but while we were at the grocery store last night he vomitted all over himself, the cart cover and part of the floor. MOTY! He was happy while he did it, but I felt terrible. So he got a bottle from the freezer stash before bed and I poured 8 ounces of pumped milk down the drain last night

[badtzmaru22]

DH switched DD to forward facing in both our cars this weekend. She's two, 34in and 28lb. Even our pedi said to switch her. I feel like this is only a confession here.

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I really need to shave my legs but we don't have enough hot water for me to take a long shower and my house is freezing. Sorry DH.

[Ashley&Scott]

Since we're talking about food...I gave M part of my vanilla milkshake yesterday. He LOVED it. Pretty sure he would have drank the whole thing if I would have let him.

[ssmjlm]

Mar 10, 2014 11:07:15 GMT -5 badtzmaru22 said:

DH switched DD to forward facing in both our cars this weekend. She's two, 34in and 28lb. Even our pedi said to switch her. I feel like this is only a confession here.

I think once you get to 2, you're fine.

I confess that DH pointed out to me that his SIL was watching her great nephew and showed a pic on FB of him forward facing in her car.  This weekend I posted a pic of E "forward facing" in the target shopping cart, made a comment about rear facing in her carseat until 2, and tagged DH, so SIL would see it.  (I unfriended SIL before Christmas b/c she is a c-u-next-tuesday).

[chickens987]

Mar 10, 2014 10:42:49 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

I'm using sex as a bargaining tool with DH for house projects. I think he's onto me, but he got some twice this weekend, so I think he's ok with it.

My H totally does this. He does a project (yesterday was hanging our new fireplace) and then walks around like a peacock, expecting me to "reward" him with a bj. I usually do, which sucks for me because we're renovating OUR ENTIRE HOUSE. There is no end in sight!!

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Lol, I totally bribed my kids to give up their pacifiers and to PT. I don't even consider this really worthy of confessing. I don't know how you would accomplish these things with a recalcitrant toddler if you weren't open to a little bribing/positive reinforcement. Hey, whatever works, right? 

[toesie]

A third time mom on my FB posted her kid says mama at 5 months. I side eyed that one.

[t]

As much I support equality, I will never, ever quit Chick-Fil-A. Grilled nuggets, fruit cup/applesauce and milk...perfect kids' meal.

[olivesyou]

Mar 10, 2014 11:09:42 GMT -5 Ashley&Scott said:

Since we're talking about food...I gave M part of my vanilla milkshake yesterday. He LOVED it. Pretty sure he would have drank the whole thing if I would have let him.

Why is this a confession?  Is vanilla milkshake a no no for some reason? 

Also - about the forward facing vs rear facing, I really don't understand the uproar on these boards.  If some allow you forward face at 22 pounds and your kid is 25 pounds, isn't that perfectly safe?

[biogirl21]

I haven't been showering very often on ML, not because I don't have time but because I'm lazy and I don't want to.

[geek96]

Mar 10, 2014 10:42:49 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

I'm using sex as a bargaining tool with DH for house projects. I think he's onto me, but he got some twice this weekend, so I think he's ok with it.

I generally bribe DH with sex if I can get a foot or back massage.

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Mar 10, 2014 11:09:42 GMT -5 Ashley&Scott said:

Since we're talking about food...I gave M part of my vanilla milkshake yesterday. He LOVED it. Pretty sure he would have drank the whole thing if I would have let him.

This is not a confession /gavel

[sometimesrunner]

I think amber teething necklaces are really, really unattractive.

[Ashley&Scott]

Mar 10, 2014 11:40:47 GMT -5 olivesyou said:

Mar 10, 2014 11:09:42 GMT -5 Ashley&Scott said:

Since we're talking about food...I gave M part of my vanilla milkshake yesterday. He LOVED it. Pretty sure he would have drank the whole thing if I would have let him.

Why is this a confession?  Is vanilla milkshake a no no for some reason? 

Also - about the forward facing vs rear facing, I really don't understand the uproar on these boards.  If some allow you forward face at 22 pounds and your kid is 25 pounds, isn't that perfectly safe?

Not a no-no at all. I should have let him have some sooner. He's had other treats, like cookies & cake. But ice cream is usually something we eat it after he goes to bed, not on purpose it's just how it happens.

@supergreen is right it's not really a confession. 

[mandapanda18]

Mar 10, 2014 11:18:38 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

Mar 10, 2014 11:04:48 GMT -5 mandapanda18 said:

my kid is allergic to milk, he is exclusively breastfed. I REALLY wanted a grilled cheese from Boudins yesterday, have not had one is 8+ months... so I made H order it and had half. The first feeding after I ate it was fine. The second seemed fine (about 4 hours post-grilled cheese) but while we were at the grocery store last night he vomitted all over himself, the cart cover and part of the floor. MOTY! He was happy while he did it, but I felt terrible. So he got a bottle from the freezer stash before bed and I poured 8 ounces of pumped milk down the drain last night

I don't know how old your child is on mobile, but next time, save the milk in a bag marked milk contaminated, and try it later? A lot of babies outgrow their milk intolerances. Mine did around 9-10 months.

just over 8 months, good to know, I thought abouit saving it and mixing it 1/2 with some from today, but I didn't. I have over 200 oz in the freezer, so I'm not worried, but it still stings to throw 8oz away!

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aw littlespitfire don't be ashamed. It's hard to have a dog like that.

Our lab was a total shock to us because I've never had a dog with anxiety issues like that, and our first dog is the most unbelievably perfect dog, so when we rescued the lab it was like, oh shit, what did we do???

He is high energy and smart, and then is food-obsessed with anxiety issues on top of that. so when he is under exercised, everything else becomes amplified. The food obsession is a constant but we have learned to live with it (we keep food off counter, we bought a house that had a kitchen door that closed because of him, etc). Retrieving works wonders though bc it exercises his body and mind.

Now that it is lighter, later, and hopefully will warm up soon, could you take your DD out to the backyard and throw the ball for 30 minutes at night and maybe 15 minutes in the morning? An AM session may help as well. whenever we are outside doing anything we are throwing the ball to our lab. He just brings the ball to wherever we are - picking up the dog mess, he's there - fixing the fence, he's there - raking up pine needles or leaves - he's there, so we just toss the ball as we go along. It helps to tire him out without taking a lot of extra time.

There are still times when we are like OMG what did we do, lol, but giving him tasks (with the retrieving) has really helped. The "smart toys" didnt help bc he was too smart for them.

Anyway, it doesnt make you a bad rescue owner, some dogs are a lot harder than others. I like to think that having our dog has made me a better pet owner in general lol bc now I have more appreciation for people who have pets with issues.

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Mar 10, 2014 11:36:18 GMT -5 littlespitfire said:

My dog is driving me nuts. She knocks over DD and nips her while trying to lick her face. She also gets into "play" stance like she does at the dog park with other dogs and it scares the crap out of me. She also barks at EVERY noise and we live in attached housing. Oh, and chases the cats. And takes food off the table.

So, we keep the dog in the basement with my grandpa and it sucks. When I see other people with their dogs I want to cry because I miss having a good relationship with a pet (like I did with my late dog). My husband HATES the dog and jokes constantly about getting rid of her, and I know he would give her back in a heartbeat. I, however, cannot stand the idea of her being upset or confused in a new home, so there is just no way I am returning her to the rescue. I also know, quite selfishly, that DH would never consent to another dog after this one.

We have had a couple of trainers short-term, and now I'm trying to sign her up for an obedience class (in my non-existent free time), which is what we should've done in the first place, but I was 7.5 months pregnant and she came to us with a boatload of anxiety issues. I took her everywhere and kept her with me every moment I could when I was pregnant and made sure to spend lots of time with her when I was on leave, but it's so hard to make progress with her while also watching a rambunctious toddler. We took on too much, and I have enormous amounts of guilt, because I know it's not fair to the dog.

We're in the same spot, although we have three dogs. They used to be our babies. DH "jokes" all the time of getting rid of them. I can't do it. So, I'm in the process of hiring a private trainer to come to our house and hopefully help us work out the issues we're having.

My best friend was over the other night and told me straight up that she see's DH and I fighting constantly about the dogs, and if we don't do something, it's going to ruin our marriage. I see her point, the dogs are the source of contention for us, and while it wont destroy our marriage, it isn't healthy for us to argue about them, then yell at them in front of DD. So, this is what we're going to try. I sure hope it works, because if not, I don't know.

[catbus]

I've been with my company seven years, and in my department six. I moved to a different (newly-created) role in our team nearly two years ago, and a replacement (M) was hired for my vacated role. M just had a baby and is now on maternity leave. She just sent an email with photos of her baby and a lovely arrangement of flowers sent by our department. 

Confession? I shouldn't care, but I'm kind of hurt by this. I did not receive any flowers or congratulatory card from our boss. M also received a baby gift from boss, boss's boss, and "the company." I received a small gift from my boss only. Basically, I'm being petty, but it bugs me since I had been here ~3x longer than M when I had DS. And for the record, I always get stellar performance reviews, so I'm a "good" employee. 

[chickadee77]

Non-MMM confession: I have an aunt and uncle coming to town and am dreaaaaading it. I haven't seen them in about 15 years, and am okay with that. She has always thought of herself as my mom (my mom died when I was 19, and was sick mostvof my childhood), but has never acted like it except to cast weird judgement where she sees fit. There's a huge backstory here, in other words.

I thought I had a great plan to minimize the visit, and they have somewhat thwarted it so I need to find a Plan B fast. I responded to their email on Sat morning and she called me SIX TIMES yesterday (we were out for the day) demanding that I call. I'm already exhausted with them.

Oh, and I'm 24 weeks pregnant and she doesn't know, so I know that will be yet another thing that she'll sigh and moan, "Your mother would be so disappointed that you didn't tell me." First off, my mom couldn't stand the woman. Secondly, before this visit, we've spoken exactly once since we last saw each other (15 years ago at a wedding) and only the very occasional visit before that (maybe once every three years or so?). Bugger off.

Sorry that was long, but it felt good to get out. ::puts on big girl pants and acts like an adult::

[catbus]

Forward- vs. rear-facing: I noticed back in December that two of DS's former classmates (from when they were all in the infant room) were forward-facing. They were 16/17 months at the time. Their parents are educated professionals, and one is a second kid. I was definitely surprised. 

[cinco]

Mar 10, 2014 11:26:34 GMT -5 t said:

As much I support equality, I will never, ever quit Chick-Fil-A. Grilled nuggets, fruit cup/applesauce and milk...perfect kids' meal.

For me it is that they are consistently clean and helpful. I sometimes do road trips by myself with 3 kids on I 95. All morality goes out the [car] door. I won't even pretend we get the healthy version of the kids meal.

[leonard131]

Mar 10, 2014 11:34:21 GMT -5 @246baje said:

I feel like my sentimental gene is broken.

I didn't take month by month pix, I haven't done a baby book for DS and while I enjoyed BFing it didn't feel bittersweet when I weaned him. Maybe my heart is three sizes too small?

Right there with you.  No monthlty pictures or baby book.  Didn't wean because we formula feed.

[cinco]

Mar 10, 2014 12:49:59 GMT -5 catbus said:

Forward- vs. rear-facing: I noticed back in December that two of DS's former classmates (from when they were all in the infant room) were forward-facing. They were 16/17 months at the time. Their parents are educated professionals, and one is a second kid. I was definitely surprised. 

My DH is a certified car seat tech and we switched DS before 2.   We had our reasons. 

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Mar 10, 2014 11:55:17 GMT -5 Ashley&Scott said:

Mar 10, 2014 11:40:47 GMT -5 olivesyou said:

Why is this a confession?  Is vanilla milkshake a no no for some reason? 

Also - about the forward facing vs rear facing, I really don't understand the uproar on these boards.  If some allow you forward face at 22 pounds and your kid is 25 pounds, isn't that perfectly safe?

Not a no-no at all. I should have let him have some sooner. He's had other treats, like cookies & cake. But ice cream is usually something we eat it after he goes to bed, not on purpose it's just how it happens.

@supergreen is right it's not really a confession. 

When our local ice cream shop opens in the spring, I will TOTALLY let DS have some milkshake. He had plenty of ice cream there last year starting around 15 months old. He recognizes the shop too, whenever we walk past it he flips out, and I have to literally hold him up to the window to show him "no one's there buddy, it's closed."

[olivesyou]

Mar 10, 2014 12:53:56 GMT -5 cinco said:

Mar 10, 2014 12:49:59 GMT -5 catbus said:

Forward- vs. rear-facing: I noticed back in December that two of DS's former classmates (from when they were all in the infant room) were forward-facing. They were 16/17 months at the time. Their parents are educated professionals, and one is a second kid. I was definitely surprised. 

My DH is a certified car seat tech and we switched DS before 2.   We had our reasons. 

What were your reasons?  I just can't get too worked up about RF vs FF.  I mean, if it was truely UNSAFE to forward face, then they would not allow car seats that forward face earlier then X on the shelves.  I kind of look at it like the drop side cribs.  At one time they were safe, then it was realized they weren't safe so they were removed from store shelves.  No one is allowed to sell them anymore right? 

[Mrs.Syntax]

Mar 10, 2014 11:26:34 GMT -5 t said:

As much I support equality, I will never, ever quit Chick-Fil-A. Grilled nuggets, fruit cup/applesauce and milk...perfect kids' meal.

I'm the same way about Hobby Lobby. They have the most awesome stuff, I just can't quit it!

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Mar 10, 2014 12:51:04 GMT -5 cinco said:

Mar 10, 2014 11:26:34 GMT -5 t said:

As much I support equality, I will never, ever quit Chick-Fil-A. Grilled nuggets, fruit cup/applesauce and milk...perfect kids' meal.

For me it is that they are consistently clean and helpful. I sometimes do road trips by myself with 3 kids on I 95. All morality goes out the [car] door. I won't even pretend we get the healthy version of the kids meal.

All the managers and employees at our chick-Fil-a know me and DS by name ::insert ashamed face:: The store is clean, we love the food, and all the employees are so sweet and helpful, they love seeing DS. Unprompted, they brought DS ice cream and balloons on his birthday. It may be a flameful confession, but I don't boycott a nice local store for the bad decisions of their parent corporation.