My husband isn't like a jerk but yeah I am sure it matters to himthat I stay reasonably trim. It is the only way he has ever known me. Outside of when I have had babies I am been reasonably skinny.
Times like when I am 5 weeks out from having a baby I wish it didn't matter so much to me
Nope. I've always been smaller, but not by choice (obviously it's good to be healthy, but I've never dieted or anything). H has ex's who were bigger, and he's told me that he thinks some bigger celebrities were hot, so I know he doesn't care.
Post by VeryViolet on Jul 10, 2012 13:45:56 GMT -5
This post made me realize I hadn't seen what that crazy TAOMAB chick was up to in a while.
ETA I forgot to answer the question. I am fat I wish I wasn't clearly I am not doing a ton about it. My husband probably cares somewhat but I know he loves me regardless.
it matters to me. i workout like a fiend. if i ate better i wouldn't have to work out so much/hard, but i really like food. i feel better about myself when i look good. and i look good when i workout a lot.*
it doesn't matter so much to h. obviously he wouldn't want me to be obese, but i don't think he would blink an eye if i were overweight.
eta: * i feel like there is a big distinction for me b/w how i look when i workout a lot and how i look when i'm just skinny. i lost a good bit of weight over the winter b/c of a health issue and i got skinny, but i did not like the way i looked.
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
I don't have to be thin per se, but I don't want to be overweight. This is for health reasons. I look my best when I am kind of muscular. I never just want to be stick skinny and not strong.
Post by mccallister84 on Jul 10, 2012 13:48:14 GMT -5
G actually prefers me with a little meat on my bones. I had surgery two years ago where my jaw was wired shut for a month and I lost like 20 pounds in the span of 2 weeks. When I get thin, my boobs, hips and ass disappear. Now, I could probably stand to lose about 10 pounds, but I have boobs and curves that he likes.
Post by thebuddhagouda on Jul 10, 2012 13:48:54 GMT -5
I'm not worried about being thin or fat, but I do want to be in shape and fit. I work out to keep that goal, and as long as I'm not eating ice cream twice a day my weight usually takes care of itself.
It matters a lot to me and I wish it didn't. I just always want to be thinner and I watch what I eat but don't exercise enough. I weigh more right now then I ever have and would like to drop about 20lbs. I want to be comfortable with my body the way it is but it's a big struggle for me.
My STBXH didn't seem to mind and he says he likes my curves. I was probably about 30lbs heavier from what I was when we married in 2007 so he has seen me much skinnier.
I'll admit it... yes, it is. And how I feel about that is SOOOOO obvious when you take a look at my ass ::eye roll::
As for H... no, I think H is completely blinded by love. I know at my heaviest, that he genuinely meant it when he would gush over how beautiful I was.
Post by lightbulbsun on Jul 10, 2012 13:51:16 GMT -5
Yes, it matters to me. I have to be really careful to eat right because I have a history of EDs. I probably shouldn't have followed that Kate Upton link because that stuff can act like a trigger to me. Now I'm trying to be healthy, and I work out 6 days/week and eat pretty well.
H doesn't really care, or if he does he's never said anything/acted like it mattered.
Simply being thin is not important to me. Being healthy and at a weight where I can comfortably be active and do things that I enjoy is very important to me.
I will admit that being at what society considers to be a "normal weight" is somewhat important to me. I feel blessed that I've never struggled with it too much, but I do think about it. I spend more time wishing I had bigger boobs than wishing I were thinner, though.
All this stuff TR said (waves hand around)
I do think my H would mind if I gained a significant amount of weight.
Post by litebright on Jul 10, 2012 13:53:29 GMT -5
I'm on the fence. I've always been pretty slender, but not so much as I've gotten older. When I get toward the top of the "healthy" range, I start feeling pudgy and bad about myself. DH, no matter my body shape, has steadfastly told me that he loves me and thinks I look great. He is a gym fanatic, though, and sometimes I feel worse because he's so in shape when I'm struggling.
A few months ago, I really buckled down on tracking calories and working out more than 1-2 times a week. I've seen a difference and I really like it. I've only lost about 7-8 pounds, but I'm stronger, more fit, I like how I look, and it's really motivating to keep going. I've also met a couple of new friends from exercise classes, which is another factor in continuing to go.
I try to work out at least three times a week now if I want to keep seeing improvements instead of backsliding.
I'd like to be a little thinner, but I don't want to be skinny. I like that I have curves. I don't want to lose them. I wish I didn't have a tummy, but nothing I do seems to decrease it, so I guess this is just how I'm supposed to look?
Thor doesn't like when girls are too thin, so there's no pressure there.
it is important to me to be about as thin as i am now. in a vague sense i'd like to be thinner (and less lumpy, which would also involve a ton of toning), but i'm willing to put almost no effort into it, so i'm not. i gained some weight several years back on top of already being bigger than i wanted, and working it off was some of the hardest work i'd ever done. i have no desire to work that hard ever again. that's a primary reason why it is important to me. a secondary reason is that i like clothes and i like how i look in clothes better now than i did when i was heavier. yes, i'm shallow.
i spend almost no time on it, talk about it almost never IRL, but i expend a lot of mental energy. and a LOT of mental energy thinking about how to make it such that my kid does NOT grow up spending mental energy on being thin.
my husband probably would care if i gained (or i guess lost) an absolute ton of weight, but i don't think a few pounds here and there faze him, if he notices at all. i feel the same about him.
I still have curves but I have worked hard to maintain the shape I have now. I just feel way better when I like my body and can wear all of my clothes comfortably. I am not a happy camper when I get out of shape, plus I just don't feel good physically when I don't eat well and excercise. I am pretty much in the best shape I have ever been in, and I am very ok with not being a size 2 or 4. This is the first time I really like my body and am comfortable in my own skin, it makes me happy enough that I can definitely say that I don't want to be out of shape again if I can help it.
Yes, it's important to both of us. Neither of us are "thin" really, but we're both only 10-15 lbs over where we'd like to be and it's getting us both down. I'm just better at hiding it than my husband. He's alot more vocal about how he wishes he were thinner.
Post by rupertpenny on Jul 10, 2012 14:01:48 GMT -5
Yes it matters to me to be thin. I have always been naturally think and I would like to stay that way. I am conscious of what I eat and try to work out regularly because of this. It is health related too, but really vanity is the overriding factor for me. I want to be hot.
My H feels the same way. He also wants to be thin and look good. Neither of us really cares what the other person weighs though, and we both are pretty open about our vanity.
Thin? No. In shape? Yes. I would like to be in better shape and feel better about the way I look right now, but it certainly isn't about being "skinny".
I once weighed 106 lbs. At 5'9". I was underweight, and thin, but I wasn't at all healthy. I actually got to that weight because I had some weird strain of mono which caused drastic weight loss. But even then, I had curves. I'm never going to be a size 0, and I am fine with that. An 8-10 is ideal for me, at my height and with my frame.
I am happy as long as my waist size is in a certain range. If I gain weight it all goes to my waist first then boobs. So I rarely ever weigh myself but I measure my waist rather often.
My husband eancourages me to eat more because I am very careful about what I eat and he thinks I can stand to gain a few lbs./be less cautious about what I eat.