Post by EnchantedSoul on Apr 2, 2014 7:47:31 GMT -5
We went through private speech for DS1 and it was very much like a drill. That approach did not work for him or us. We took him out after a few weeks.
There are plenty of other therapists who will mesh well with your family. I would look into a different therapist with a gentler approach. Sorry you guys had to go through that.
I'm sorry that it didn't go well. She sounds like she's not in the right age group for her temperament. Her approach would have made me cry too and we would not be back. What did she think the result of you sitting in there ignoring your baby would be? Of course it was upsetting for both of you! Argh. This makes me mad. Someone with that much "experience" should know better. Hugs.
The first one, we were in the room. 2nd one we weren't. 3rd one, jack was hysterical about 15 minutes in and they came and got me. We did the rest if the session with him on my lap. This past one, he screamed and grabbed for me as they took him back. They said they would come get me if he didn't calm down in a few minutes. He was fine, but if he wasn't, they would have come to get me.
This is an age when transition/separation anxiety is an issue again. We''ve never had (boys usually love people) so it's breaking my heart.
Is there another therapist at this office? Maybe give L a couple more sessions and then if it's still not working, ask to switch therapists. This is strike 2 against this one (the shushing your H being the first). It's not ok to tell you that she thought you let him manipulate you. It's still a new situation for him. It's not manipulation. It's him still sussing out the situation and he's looking to you to see if it's ok.
Big big hugs to you Regina. And to l. This is so hard, but keep your eye in the end goal. And he said Vicky! That's a new word to count!!
It was only the second session with this particular therapist. Besides the evaluation. She is the only one at the practice. I think i am going to give it a few more sessions, but request i not be in the room unless he is not settling down.
I just felt terrible because he was probably thinking, WHY THE HELL IS MY MOM NOT LOOKING AT ME OR PICKING ME UP? ugh.
Hugs, that sounds rough. What do her reviews online say?
She doesn't just teach young children. She teaches kids in all ages. Maybe that could be a problem? My husband found her through a guy at work who said she was amazing.
Oh hun I'm sorry that's rough. Is she the private hire SLP? If so I'd look for a new one. She doesn't sound like a good fit for you two.
Yup, private. We don't HAVE to keep her. Hes getting other therapies too. We went this way because EI is short on speech therapists right now, and he should be getting assigned one in a few months.
Since you already paid, I would keep going at least for those sessions but I would tell her that you are not ok w getting him that upset again. You can either wait outside or can slowly try to get him to focus on her - not completely ignoring him and ending up w both of you crying.
Since you already paid, I would keep going at least for those sessions but I would tell her that you are not ok w getting him that upset again. You can either wait outside or can slowly try to get him to focus on her - not completely ignoring him and ending up w both of you crying.
Yeah, i think this is what i am going to do. She wants me to bring him each time too so we can 'learn" together. But my husband brings him thursdays, and i bring him tuesdays.
Oh hun I'm sorry that's rough. Is she the private hire SLP? If so I'd look for a new one. She doesn't sound like a good fit for you two.
Yup, private. We don't HAVE to keep her. Hes getting other therapies too. We went this way because EI is short on speech therapists right now, and he should be getting assigned one in a few months.
Since she is private could you hire a different private SLP until he is assigned one through EI? Maybe he just needs to adjust to her and once he sees her a few times will develop trust and be ok. I'm sorry, hugs.
Yup, private. We don't HAVE to keep her. Hes getting other therapies too. We went this way because EI is short on speech therapists right now, and he should be getting assigned one in a few months.
Since she is private could you hire a different private SLP until he is assigned one through EI? Maybe he just needs to adjust to her and once he sees her a few times will develop trust and be ok. I'm sorry, hugs.
I could. Shes supposed to be the best in the area. Oh well, just because her rep is good doesn't mean she is a good match for Lou. I am still going to give it a few more sessions.
I haven't read all the responses, but I did want to offer you hugs. If that's manipulation, then A does it to me all the time - I would have done the same thing as you. I also would not go back to see her. If you're in the room, of course he is going to want your attention. If she wants to have the control, then she needs to leave you out of it. You're his mommy. To him, you are the main focus and of course he is going to be upset if you won't even look at him.
I haven't read all the responses, but I did want to offer you hugs. If that's manipulation, then A does it to me all the time - I would have done the same thing as you. I also would not go back to see her. If you're in the room, of course he is going to want your attention. If she wants to have the control, then she needs to leave you out of it. You're his mommy. To him, you are the main focus and of course he is going to be upset if you won't even look at him.
I don't like her.
lol this made me laugh.
My H and i both didn't like her from the start. But wanted to give it a shot. Shes not a friendly type of person, but we figured if she was good with Lou. I am hoping next session is better.
I want to give you both hugs, that sounds awful. I get she probably has a plan that she has followed for 40 years, but every child is different and obviously that approach was not working w/L. I hope the next session goes better, otherwise I would be looking elsewhere.
Big ol' side-eye at that therapist for that he's manipulating you and that he won comment. Sounds like she's trying to pass the blame that her "professional approach" isn't working. It appears to me like you had a curt stranger, and a little boy in unfamiliar surroundings whose mama wasn't reacting to him the way she usually does. He got upset, you comforted him like you are supposed to do.
I haven't read all the responses, but I did want to offer you hugs. If that's manipulation, then A does it to me all the time - I would have done the same thing as you. I also would not go back to see her. If you're in the room, of course he is going to want your attention. If she wants to have the control, then she needs to leave you out of it. You're his mommy. To him, you are the main focus and of course he is going to be upset if you won't even look at him.
I don't like her.
lol this made me laugh.
My H and i both didn't like her from the start. But wanted to give it a shot. Shes not a friendly type of person, but we figured if she was good with Lou. I am hoping next session is better.
Post by Regina Philange on Apr 2, 2014 9:27:00 GMT -5
She also said something about how parenting can make women feel insecure real fast. I think she was trying to make me feel better but at that point I had tuned her out.
My husband takes him Thursdays but I think I'm going to try to take him instead. Show her I won't back down and can do this and I am not insecure.
Violet's SLP is nothing like that. When I used to sit in sessions, we did things to give the SLP the "control" like you're mentioning, but it was always things like me and her playing with a toy and me acting super excited about what she was saying/doing so that Violet would follow.
This is how ours is. Our also only has a limit as to how much she pushes him to get a reaction and if we don't get it she just tries again next time.
IDK Regina it just sounds overly aggressive....I don't think you or Lou should feel that way after leaving speech.
She also said something about how parenting can make women feel insecure real fast. I think she was trying to make me feel better but at that point I had tuned her out.
My husband takes him Thursdays but I think I'm going to try to take him instead. Show her I won't back down and can do this and I am not insecure.
Wait WHAT?!?!
I'm going to need to process this a minute because my eyebrows just flew off my head again. Grrrrrrr.......
That sounds terrible I am so sorry it didn't go very well, and I agree with PPs that may exploring other options (if you can) would help. Love you long time mama (heart)
She also said something about how parenting can make women feel insecure real fast. I think she was trying to make me feel better but at that point I had tuned her out.
My husband takes him Thursdays but I think I'm going to try to take him instead. Show her I won't back down and can do this and I am not insecure.
Wait WHAT?!?!
I'm going to need to process this a minute because my eyebrows just flew off my head again. Grrrrrrr.......
I know. Now that I'm settled down I'm going over everything in my head and getting mad all over again.