Post by laurensmomma on Apr 2, 2014 10:07:48 GMT -5
I'm sorry she is not being professional with you. I agree with a PP that it sounds like she doesn't have children of her own, so she probably just doesn't know how to relate to you. I hate to admit it, but that sounds like something I would have said before kids. I tend to be blunt myself, but now that I have a kid, my attitude has changed.
I hope you can either talk to her about how you'd like to see things happen moving forward, or switch to someone else. This is such a hard thing emotionally already, you just don't need someone making it worse for you.
I just don't think all that's necessary. People do speech therapy all the time without the drill sergeant tactics.
Reading this upsets me.
This. My sister has been through speech therapy with two of her kids and they never had to use these type of tactics. I am so upset that she made you both feel bad! And I can't believe she said an almost two year old looking for comfort/assurance that things are okay was manipulation or that parenthood makes women insecure!
Post by thedahliharpa on Apr 2, 2014 11:29:05 GMT -5
I'm sorry Regina, I have not read the replies yet but I feel like she crossed some boundaries here. If you continue with her you should come up with a way to assertively state what you are comfortable with. Probies can help with this.
I think I would ask for a refund. I don't think her approach with either you or L sounds very professional and certainly was not effective. Asking for your money back would certainly get the point across that you don't believe you deserve to be treated that way. "Manipulation" is such a BS term purely to get a reaction out of you. If he wants a cookie and cries crocodile tears, sure that's manipulation. But being scared in a new situation where he wants comfort and reassurance from his mama -- that's not manipulation at all.
Omg. My stomach is in knots reading this thread. I am so sorry Regina. I honestly think this woman is burned out and should retire. Clearly 30 years is her limit and she forgot her audience. Wow. Such a rough session.
Also, where the fuck was she going with this "parenting makes women insecure" bs? Any mother would be upset seeing their child struggle, that makes you empathetic and loving, not insecure.
She also said something about how parenting can make women feel insecure real fast. I think she was trying to make me feel better but at that point I had tuned her out.
My husband takes him Thursdays but I think I'm going to try to take him instead. Show her I won't back down and can do this and I am not insecure.
Jesus she's blunt! I don't disagree with what she said (its definitely true for me!) but I can't believe her tone. It makes me wonder if her social skills are this horrible in adult social settings.
Yeah, I would tell her that she's the professional, but you're paying her for a service and this is how it's gonna go down. If she doesn't like that, she can give you a refund.
Ugh. I'm so sorry you had a session like that. Does this SLP typically work with this age group? I always tell parents that the first 4 weeks are about building a routine and establishing trust. Every therapist has a different style but not every therapist is a good fit for each family. I would have a direct conversation with her about your concerns and if the next session doesn't improve I would seek out a new therapist. I am so sorry this happened to you and Lou.
Post by chickenlittle on Apr 2, 2014 19:02:46 GMT -5
She may be an expert in speech and language development, but you are the expert on your child. If something doesn't feel right, trust it.
I had a tough time acclimating to N's physical therapist because she's pretty intense and it was hard for him and he got upset frequently. I talked with her about it, and we agreed to ten minutes of "work", followed by play, with the cycle repeated for the hour session. I'm always with him (although she does do once a month visits to his daycare), and I think it's well within your rights as a mother to insist on staying with your anxious two year old during sessions.
I'm sorry you're in this spot;it's such a hard place to be when you're trying to get your kiddo the help they need and things aren't working out.
I'm sorry that your experience sucks. I say ditch her and find someone new.
With regards to her not having kids of her own? I would have to disagree with that. She's 'been doing this for 40 years' so I think she's one of those older ladies who has been there, done that and hasn't grown with the times. She would probably side eye you for any of the 'newer things' we're doing these days like putting on the back to sleep, breast feeding, rear facing, etc. She probably thinks you can hold a newborn too much and spoil her. That's just the feeling I get.
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I'm sorry that your experience sucks. I say ditch her and find someone new.
With regards to her not having kids of her own? I would have to disagree with that. She's 'been doing this for 40 years' so I think she's one of those older ladies who has been there, done that and hasn't grown with the times. She would probably side eye you for any of the 'newer things' we're doing these days like putting on the back to sleep, breast feeding, rear facing, etc. She probably thinks you can hold a newborn too much and spoil her. That's just the feeling I get.
I think she has to have kids, because she made a new mom comment. Like trying to relate to me?
I definitely DEFINITELY think her teaching style is older. That has something to do with it.
We decided to go with her because she seems so confident that Louie would improve fast. We will see how tonight goes.....
Ugh. I'm so sorry you had a session like that. Does this SLP typically work with this age group? I always tell parents that the first 4 weeks are about building a routine and establishing trust. Every therapist has a different style but not every therapist is a good fit for each family. I would have a direct conversation with her about your concerns and if the next session doesn't improve I would seek out a new therapist. I am so sorry this happened to you and Lou.
She did say that she thinks kids Louie's age are generally too young for therapy, which i don't agree with obviously. She deals with adults too, so she doesn't JUST deal with kids. I am going to go for the sessions that i paid for, and see how it goes. If i don't think its working, i will definitely pull him out.
Ugh. I'm so sorry you had a session like that. Does this SLP typically work with this age group? I always tell parents that the first 4 weeks are about building a routine and establishing trust. Every therapist has a different style but not every therapist is a good fit for each family. I would have a direct conversation with her about your concerns and if the next session doesn't improve I would seek out a new therapist. I am so sorry this happened to you and Lou.
She did say that she thinks kids Louie's age are generally too young for therapy, which i don't agree with obviously. She deals with adults too, so she doesn't JUST deal with kids. I am going to go for the sessions that i paid for, and see how it goes. If i don't think its working, i will definitely pull him out.
I think kids Lou's age are too young for traditional therapy which includes sound drills, etc but they are certainly not too young for play based therapy! If she's been doing this for 40 years she may be more old school and not use the more current play based approach. Hopefully she'll settle down next week and definitely don't be afraid to speak up! Hopefully the EI process willove along quickly andaybe that therapist will be a better match.