I was breezy about it...we started ttc when DD1 was 7-8mo old. It took a year to get pg...I was not breezy about it at the end. We had sex everyday for over a month..no exaggeration. But it worked! . Now having the kids I have, the idea that I even thought about ttc 7mo post partum is nutso.
Pre-k decision letters. This doesn't sound reassuring. I just googled and our zoned pre-k school is one of the top rated and only accepted 8% of applicants.
Pre-k decision letters. This doesn't sound reassuring. I just googled and our zoned pre-k school is one of the top rated and only accepted 8% of applicants.
Oh wells.
Darn. Admittedly I haven't read up on this as much as I should have yet and pre-k enrollment in my borough doesn't appear to be a no-holds-barred cage match (yet).
Post by ginkgoleaf on Apr 24, 2014 18:38:32 GMT -5
Currently obsessing over here. I wanted a 3-3.5 year age gap, but we'll likely have a 4ish year gap if it happens anytime soon. I used to care about seasons, but now I'll take what I can get. We did avoid last month since it would've been a December due date and we needed a break anyway.
I think I am ultimately going to be in the "never fully ready" camp. To be honest, I adore DD but she still is not what I would consider an easy going child. She is extremely sensitive and in general high maintenance. I know my next child may be different... but if not. I am screwed. At least I will have lots of snuggles
I waited until I was fully ready. DD was a colicky mess and it took me a while to get past that. Plus, DH works a ton, as I've mentioned, so I really needed to be in a place mentally where I was okay with recognizing my limits, being the parent I wanted to be to DD and then figuring out if there was any energy left over for a second kid. I also had to think long and hard about how much outside--ie, paid--help I'd be willing to accept (I generally suck at asking for help and have made great progress in this area the last few years).
I was willing to accept that waiting to be fully ready might mean being OAD.
First, a plug for winter babies, which was not the timing we had planned for. You are stuck inside for the worst part of the year when you wouldn't be going out much anyway. I was in do much pain and having so many BF struggles that we couldn't have left the house much even if I had wanted to. By the time both of us we ready to star getting out, the weather was beautiful.
Staying cocooned inside with the baby doesn't seem like much of an option no matter the time of year if you already have an older kid. Sure, I spend more time outdoors with DD when it's nice outside, but I still had to trek out into the god-awful winter a heck of a lot more than I wanted to this year with her, to school, play dates, ballet class, etc.
Velar Fricative and 212, just to throw more school-related anxiety about spacing at you, I'll let you know that while I am happy about our age gap for many reasons, I am totally screwed on the school front. A 6-year gap means that baby #2 will not be guaranteed a sibling spot at the school DD currently attends because she will be moving on to middle school when #2 is applying to kindergarten. Which means I have to apply to kindergarten ALL OVER AGAIN.
Perhaps someone in the school administration will take pity on me and offer me a seat anyway.
Velar Fricative and 212, just to throw more school-related anxiety about spacing at you, I'll let you know that while I am happy about our age gap for many reasons, I am totally screwed on the school front. A 6-year gap means that baby #2 will not be guaranteed a sibling spot at the school DD currently attends because she will be moving on to middle school when #2 is applying to kindergarten. Which means I have to apply to kindergarten ALL OVER AGAIN.
Perhaps someone in the school administration will take pity on me and offer me a seat anyway.
I just had a mild panic attack for you. That sucks so bad.
But noted. As far apart as possible to be sane, but not so far that I have to deal with the school mess twice.
Velar Fricative and 212, just to throw more school-related anxiety about spacing at you, I'll let you know that while I am happy about our age gap for many reasons, I am totally screwed on the school front. A 6-year gap means that baby #2 will not be guaranteed a sibling spot at the school DD currently attends because she will be moving on to middle school when #2 is applying to kindergarten. Which means I have to apply to kindergarten ALL OVER AGAIN.
Perhaps someone in the school administration will take pity on me and offer me a seat anyway.