Oh, sister!!! I will flame you....which will also flame me. Okay. BIG confession: after I broke it off with Z I kind of continued to hang out with him and said the same thing: "Oh I know this won't work but I will just hang out with him this weekend." Or "Oh, I will just see him tonight and will break up with him for real tomorrow." and you know what?? He ended up continuing to be SUCH a DOUCHE that this past weekend I cried the entire damn weekend. I finally said to myself: "self, WTF are you doing??? You know that this IS NOT who you want to be with! Get some self respect and end this shit!" and I did. While it sucks, is sucks FAR less than dragging this BS out for months. END IT. NOW.
I hear you... and I leave for Vegas and the day I get back my son is back from spending the summer with his dad. So other than Vegas I really have less than a week of time to myself and I can "waste it" just having fun with him or I can actually spend time on myself. I think at this point it's also like a distraction from being alone.
Okay, but then you have to ask yourself why you are SO desperate to NOT be alone, kwim? Why are you so intent on distracting yourself?
Okay here we go...You guys know how gung-ho I was on waiting to sleep with Mars...getting to know him better, getting our STD tests back, birth control, etc. Well we went out to dinner the evening before I left for Miami. After dinner I told him I wanted to make out but NOT have sex he said "okay". I go to his house for the first time..before I know it I'm butt naked in his bed screaming his name What the hell happened to my will power!!! Oh and the story isn't over!!! The condom got stuck up in me!!!! WTF!Tthat has Never happened to me before! I freaked out SO bad! I started putting my clothes back on and he was like "what are you doing you can't leave the condom in you?!"..I just couldn't take it out so he calmed me down and he took it out I should of known better because only something like this would have happened to me since I was trying to be SO in control of everything! I ended up having to run to the drug store Friday morning to buy Plan B...uugh. And now I am the horniest I've been in years...after I got back yesterday we had more sex AND I want more today! I feel like I'm losing control because we still haven't taken our tests yet...we talked out it and told each other the last time we were tested...I don't see my GYN until Friday to get BC and get tested...it's going to feel like freakin forever when we do it again since I'm "trying" to hold off until we get our tests results back and I get on BC! Wooo got that off my chest...I feel better now
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I can't flame you, cuz I boned this dude on the second date. haha I did the same thing, I was like WE ARE NOT GOING TO HAVE SEX. What did I do? I had sex with him!
I was really trying to hold out for the third but damn. He's really hot. And my vagina was lonely.
I hear you... and I leave for Vegas and the day I get back my son is back from spending the summer with his dad. So other than Vegas I really have less than a week of time to myself and I can "waste it" just having fun with him or I can actually spend time on myself. I think at this point it's also like a distraction from being alone.
Okay, but then you have to ask yourself why you are SO desperate to NOT be alone, kwim? Why are you so intent on distracting yourself?
Because he is FUN! And I like fun. And affection. And attention. And sex. And someone to talk to.
Missbetty!! Yoo hoo!!! This post was for YOUR CONFESSION missy!!
OMG I started typing my confession after my first post when I finally clicked "post" I was on page 2 and I was like What the Fuck?! You all type too fast haaahhaaaa
Okay, but then you have to ask yourself why you are SO desperate to NOT be alone, kwim? Why are you so intent on distracting yourself?
Because he is FUN! And I like fun. And affection. And attention. And sex. And someone to talk to.
But you are selling yourself short by doing this with someone not worthy. You are NOT treating yourself with respect so how can you expect to meet a good guy who will treat you with respect??
Okay here we go...You guys know how gung-ho I was on waiting to sleep with Mars...getting to know him better, getting our STD tests back, birth control, etc. Well we went out to dinner the evening before I left for Miami. After dinner I told him I wanted to make out but NOT have sex he said "okay". I go to his house for the first time..before I know it I'm butt naked in his bed screaming his name What the hell happened to my will power!!! Oh and the story isn't over!!! The condom got stuck up in me!!!! WTF!Tthat has Never happened to me before! I freaked out SO bad! I started putting my clothes back on and he was like "what are you doing you can't leave the condom in you?!"..I just couldn't take it out so he calmed me down and he took it out I should of known better because only something like this would have happened to me since I was trying to be SO in control of everything! I ended up having to run to the drug store Friday morning to buy Plan B...uugh. And now I am the horniest I've been in years...after I got back yesterday we had more sex AND I want more today! I feel like I'm losing control because we still haven't taken our tests yet...we talked out it and told each other the last time we were tested...I don't see my GYN until Friday to get BC and get tested...it's going to feel like freakin forever when we do it again since I'm "trying" to hold off until we get our tests results back and I get on BC! Wooo got that off my chest...I feel better now
Eh, that's nothing. Don't be too hard on yourself! I have a gross condom story... once a condom broke, like literally burst in a ton of pieces and he thought he got them all. Then a couple of days later when I got my period a big clump came out and it was a piece of the condom. +o( And I had to take plan B on Friday for the first time too. It happens.
Because he is FUN! And I like fun. And affection. And attention. And sex. And someone to talk to.
But you are selling yourself short by doing this with someone not worthy. You are NOT treating yourself with respect so how can you expect to meet a good guy who will treat you with respect??
I've been waiting for a "good guy" for almost 3 years now, and I'm pretty sure that he's not coming
I had THE BEST weekend. I was in the Bay Area where my friend lives because I had a class all day long on Sunday to prepare for my CFP exam. I was debating driving back Sunday night because it's a five hour drive and it would've been hard after my class.
My friend gets a call from her FI that HIS friend needs someone to go to the Tim McGraw/Kenny Chesney concert and he has a free ticket-do I want to go on Sunday night? Hell yes I do!
So I went to the concert with him and had a BLAST. And he was HOT. And we made out pretty much the entire concert (well as soon as I got drunk enough to give him the sign) and we sang every song and danced. AND he stayed the night in my hotel with me and we did everything BUT have sex.
And I left the next morning at 6am. I felt kind of wild but good at the same time. We might see eachother again this weekend after my test and he's definitely coming up here for their wedding!
But you are selling yourself short by doing this with someone not worthy. You are NOT treating yourself with respect so how can you expect to meet a good guy who will treat you with respect??
I've been waiting for a "good guy" for almost 3 years now, and I'm pretty sure that he's not coming
But if you are willing to self yourself THIS short...maybe there is something in your life that needs fixing first. I am not trying to judge you but I read it in my therapy book (ADDICT, lol).
I had THE BEST weekend. I was in the Bay Area where my friend lives because I had a class all day long on Sunday to prepare for my CFP exam. I was debating driving back Sunday night because it's a five hour drive and it would've been hard after my class.
My friend gets a call from her FI that HIS friend needs someone to go to the Tim McGraw/Kenny Chesney concert and he has a free ticket-do I want to go on Sunday night? Hell yes I do!
So I went to the concert with him and had a BLAST. And he was HOT. And we made out pretty much the entire concert (well as soon as I got drunk enough to give him the sign) and we sang every song and danced. AND he stayed the night in my hotel with me and we did everything BUT have sex.
And I left the next morning at 6am. I felt kind of wild but good at the same time. We might see eachother again this weekend after my test and he's definitely coming up here for their wedding!
Post by bullygirl979 on Jul 17, 2012 16:07:42 GMT -5
Okay...one more confession. Then I am done.
I may have stalked Z's XW and gotten her address, phone number and email address. I was his first relationship after his split. I am *really* trying to talk myself OUT of contacting her to see if Z was as big of a douchecanoe when he was with her as he was with me. I know it would do anything but I really, really want to contact her.
I may have stalked Z's XW and gotten her address, phone number and email address. I was his first relationship after his split. I am *really* trying to talk myself OUT of contacting her to see if Z was as big of a douchecanoe when he was with her as he was with me. I know it would do anything but I really, really want to contact her.
Okay WTF? Throw away this information! Who cares if he was a douchecanoe then or not. MOVE ON!!!!!!
I may have stalked Z's XW and gotten her address, phone number and email address. I was his first relationship after his split. I am *really* trying to talk myself OUT of contacting her to see if Z was as big of a douchecanoe when he was with her as he was with me. I know it would do anything but I really, really want to contact her.
Do not do this.....do not dooooo thiiiisss....doooo nooootttt doooo thiiisssss!!!
You don't need this verification, you know the truth, my dear!
I've been waiting for a "good guy" for almost 3 years now, and I'm pretty sure that he's not coming
But if you are willing to self yourself THIS short...maybe there is something in your life that needs fixing first. I am not trying to judge you but I read it in my therapy book (ADDICT, lol).
I feel like I'm in a pretty decent place. I mean I wish I were thinner but I look pretty good. And I probably drink too much but I'm not an alcoholic. Or maybe I am. IDK
I may have stalked Z's XW and gotten her address, phone number and email address. I was his first relationship after his split. I am *really* trying to talk myself OUT of contacting her to see if Z was as big of a douchecanoe when he was with her as he was with me. I know it would do anything but I really, really want to contact her.
Do not do this.....do not dooooo thiiiisss....doooo nooootttt doooo thiiisssss!!!
You don't need this verification, you know the truth, my dear!
I don't really understand feeling bad about not waiting to have sex.
If I am interested in a guy for a potential relationship, I'll usually wait because then if things don't work out it's easier to pick up and move on because you aren't as invested. Also guys typically tend to stick around longer if they are still trying to get in your pants.
I had THE BEST weekend. I was in the Bay Area where my friend lives because I had a class all day long on Sunday to prepare for my CFP exam. I was debating driving back Sunday night because it's a five hour drive and it would've been hard after my class.
My friend gets a call from her FI that HIS friend needs someone to go to the Tim McGraw/Kenny Chesney concert and he has a free ticket-do I want to go on Sunday night? Hell yes I do!
So I went to the concert with him and had a BLAST. And he was HOT. And we made out pretty much the entire concert (well as soon as I got drunk enough to give him the sign) and we sang every song and danced. AND he stayed the night in my hotel with me and we did everything BUT have sex.
And I left the next morning at 6am. I felt kind of wild but good at the same time. We might see eachother again this weekend after my test and he's definitely coming up here for their wedding!
Hot guy. You were both drunk. He stayed the night. And no sex. C'mon now Achase...not even sure you have that much will power!! hahahahahaha...just busting your chops!!
Post by riverpestie on Jul 17, 2012 16:21:15 GMT -5
I pawned off all my remaining work on my CW, so for the next 3 1/2 weeks, I literally have NOTHING to do. HA HA. My files were a mess, she is going to have to clean them up. At least I sort of told her this and she willingly took them all from me this morning.
I had THE BEST weekend. I was in the Bay Area where my friend lives because I had a class all day long on Sunday to prepare for my CFP exam. I was debating driving back Sunday night because it's a five hour drive and it would've been hard after my class.
My friend gets a call from her FI that HIS friend needs someone to go to the Tim McGraw/Kenny Chesney concert and he has a free ticket-do I want to go on Sunday night? Hell yes I do!
So I went to the concert with him and had a BLAST. And he was HOT. And we made out pretty much the entire concert (well as soon as I got drunk enough to give him the sign) and we sang every song and danced. AND he stayed the night in my hotel with me and we did everything BUT have sex.
And I left the next morning at 6am. I felt kind of wild but good at the same time. We might see eachother again this weekend after my test and he's definitely coming up here for their wedding!
Hot guy. You were both drunk. He stayed the night. And no sex. C'mon now Achase...not even sure you have that much will power!! hahahahahaha...just busting your chops!!
Hey, maybe this weekend...or the wedding weekend. There's time!!!!
I don't really understand feeling bad about not waiting to have sex. If I want to have sex I use protection and I do it. I would not go to someone's house and say I want to make out but not have sex?
I would also be really annoyed if a guy came to my house and didn't want to have sex and only wanted to make out
I slept with the tattoo guy on our second date... We had talked about sex and we both knew it was going to happen. I invited him in and loved it... not sure what the big deal is. I guess I can't imagine hooking up and not having sex as an adult.
This!
Not sure what the point of proclaiming to the guy/girl...I am waiting to have sex after X amount of time/dates/whatever.
Women have said this to me in the past and I just laugh inside my head. They all slept with me way sooner than they initially told me, and it had nothing to do with them being easy or any sleezy persuastion on my part. We slept together because we enjoyed each others company, we felt comfortable with each other, and were sexually attracted to each other.
I don't really understand feeling bad about not waiting to have sex. If I want to have sex I use protection and I do it. I would not go to someone's house and say I want to make out but not have sex?
I would also be really annoyed if a guy came to my house and didn't want to have sex and only wanted to make out
I slept with the tattoo guy on our second date... We had talked about sex and we both knew it was going to happen. I invited him in and loved it... not sure what the big deal is. I guess I can't imagine hooking up and not having sex as an adult.
This!
Not sure what the point of proclaiming to the guy/girl...I am waiting to have sex after X amount of time/dates/whatever.
Women have said this to me in the past and I just laugh inside my head. They all slept with me way sooner than they initially told me, and it had nothing to do with them being easy or any sleezy persuastion on my part. We slept together because we enjoyed each others company, we felt comfortable with each other, and were sexually attracted to each other.
Yeah, I've come to realize it really doesn't matter to me. Of course my 3rd date goal wasn't grand, but really, fuck it, who cares, if you both want to bone just do it.
I don't really understand feeling bad about not waiting to have sex. If I want to have sex I use protection and I do it. I would not go to someone's house and say I want to make out but not have sex?
I would also be really annoyed if a guy came to my house and didn't want to have sex and only wanted to make out
I slept with the tattoo guy on our second date... We had talked about sex and we both knew it was going to happen. I invited him in and loved it... not sure what the big deal is. I guess I can't imagine hooking up and not having sex as an adult.
This!
Not sure what the point of proclaiming to the guy/girl...I am waiting to have sex after X amount of time/dates/whatever.
Women have said this to me in the past and I just laugh inside my head. They all slept with me way sooner than they initially told me, and it had nothing to do with them being easy or any sleezy persuastion on my part. We slept together because we enjoyed each others company, we felt comfortable with each other, and were sexually attracted to each other.
This is kind of my motto now. I am too tired of trying to do the "right" thing. If you want to and your safe, go for it!
I may have stalked Z's XW and gotten her address, phone number and email address. I was his first relationship after his split. I am *really* trying to talk myself OUT of contacting her to see if Z was as big of a douchecanoe when he was with her as he was with me. I know it would do anything but I really, really want to contact her.
Okay WTF? Throw away this information! Who cares if he was a douchecanoe then or not. MOVE ON!!!!!!
LISTEN TO YOUR OWN DAMN ADVICE. LMAO....I love this.
Post by missbetty1 on Jul 17, 2012 17:44:52 GMT -5
I agree with you ladies and jm regarding the waiting part. I just wanted to wait until I was ready and I wanted to be clear about it...my body was ready but I wanted to make sure my mind was too thus getting the tests and BC..because I REALLY freaked out when the condom got stuck...had we already taken care of the tests and the BC I wouldn't have freaked out the way I did when the condom got stuck...