Post by laurenpetro on Jul 10, 2014 9:05:35 GMT -5
yesterday i found out about a trade show at citifield in a few weeks. it's nothing crazy but there will be tours of the stadium and some random non-trade show things to do which i thought were neat. neither H nor i have been there yet (sorry, velar) and i've heard it's a great stadium so i want to go but i don't want to go by myself. H has a shitton of vacation days to burn through so i asked if he wanted to go.
this morning as i was walking out the door he told me that he's not really interested in going with me because it's not a game and because of that you can't go to the shake shack. he's not a mets fan. he's never actively tried to go to a game (because let's face it, it's the mets. it's not that fucking hard to get a ticket if you want to go). he's only ever mentioned wanting to go when i've mentioned wanting to go. but he's not interested in it because the one place that has another location where we can go to at any time won't be open while this thing is going on.
he doesn't plan anything. ever. anything that we do ultimately gets planned by me (see my randoms post yesterday) and i am getting really sick of it. i've told him he has to step up but it hasn't happened.
i want to tell him all of this but i'm having a hard time formulating something that doesn't sound like i'm a total bitch. i want to text it so i don't go off the handle but nothing sounds right. all i have right now is "For what it's worth I thought the bigger draw to the CitiField trip wuld be hanging out together doing something unique" after that i get into bitchout territory.
We're going to a "free wine" event at a friend's bar tonight. I don't know anything about it but those two words were enough to guarantee my attendance.
Post by ChillyMcFreeze on Jul 10, 2014 9:11:51 GMT -5
DH is going out of town from Sunday-Wednesday and I'm already planning all the yummy meals I'll make that he wouldn't eat! I love my husband, truly, but every now and then I love having full control of the TV and kitchen MORE.
I think what you have about it being a unique thing to spend time together doing is good. Maybe say something like, "with having kids, and busy schedules, it seems like we don't really ever get time to do something just the two of us, so I thought this would be nice. From my perspective, you don't seem to be motivated to plan anything, so I'd appreciate it if you at least didn't piss all over my suggestions." <---- I'm bitchy, too.
MH got another HVAC award and letter. This time it was from our governor. He's FAMOUS! Just kidding. Not famous at all.
Today is the beginning of the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale! It's my favorite day of the year.
I got a news alert that there was a black bear like 3 exits down from our area (so just a few miles). Kind of cool, but scary also.
My MIL keeps talking about all of us going on a cruise in Hawaii and I think this is ridiculous. why would I fly across the country to go on a cruise in Hawaii? I don't get it, and the stupidity of it (at least my perception is that it is stupid based on who would be going and where they live) is really irritating me.
laurenpetro - my husband is a bit like this. He bitches about never using his vacation days, but then he never plans anything and isn't enthusiastic about some of my ideas. Basically he wants to sit quietly and read for days on end. LOL
In any event, I can usually persuade him if I make an issue of it being together time for us. If he still resists, I make an issue of it being something *I* would like to do and I'd like him to come along. I find much of the presentation depends upon the volume and tone of my voice. Personally I would prefer to address this in person because tone is lost in text/email, but that is going to be individual, obviously.
I think what you have about it being a unique thing to spend time together doing is good. Maybe say something like, "with having kids, and busy schedules, it seems like we don't really ever get time to do something just the two of us, so I thought this would be nice. From my perspective, you don't seem to be motivated to plan anything, so I'd appreciate it if you at least didn't piss all over my suggestions." <---- I'm bitchy, too.
i just sent the 1 text with no add-on because the only thing i could think of was "i cannot believe you're holding out because you want to stand in line for 2 innings (at a game you'll never actually go to) for food you can get on the highway" i know he won't reply to my text. he doesn't reply to anything ever, even when it's important.
instead i will be spending a weekend with my HS friends down the shore. i'll leave on friday and i'm not coming back until monday. it was potentially going to be the 2 of us going down but a reunion-ish thing came up so i'm taking the opportunity to just go. i brought up the weekend last night and he basically forgot about the whole thing so whatever.
i'm trying. i really am. all he does is work, or talk about work, or keep his phone on him in case he has to work. i told him he has to start carving out family time and he did it for about a week and then it started up again.
i think i'm PMSing because i don't usually get this upset about this shit.
laurenpetro - my husband is a bit like this. He bitches about never using his vacation days, but then he never plans anything and isn't enthusiastic about some of my ideas. Basically he wants to sit quietly and read for days on end. LOL
In any event, I can usually persuade him if I make an issue of it being together time for us. If he still resists, I make an issue of it being something *I* would like to do and I'd like him to come along. I find much of the presentation depends upon the volume and tone of my voice. Personally I would prefer to address this in person because tone is lost in text/email, but that is going to be individual, obviously.
we do things together but i always have to be the one to plan them. and i have to get the sitter. even if it's a movie that he wants to see i have to be the one to do it or it doesn't get done and then he bitches that he didn't get to see it. i've pointed out to him numerous times that i'm not his mother and if he wants to do something he should fucking do it but it doesn't stick.
ETA: i suspect my tone would come across much better via text where i can retain the appearance of calm as opposed to calling him and eventually crying.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
I think what you have about it being a unique thing to spend time together doing is good. Maybe say something like, "with having kids, and busy schedules, it seems like we don't really ever get time to do something just the two of us, so I thought this would be nice. From my perspective, you don't seem to be motivated to plan anything, so I'd appreciate it if you at least didn't piss all over my suggestions." <---- I'm bitchy, too.
i just sent the 1 text with no add-on because the only thing i could think of was "i cannot believe you're holding out because you want to stand in line for 2 innings (at a game you'll never actually go to) for food you can get on the highway" i know he won't reply to my text. he doesn't reply to anything ever, even when it's important.
instead i will be spending a weekend with my HS friends down the shore. i'll leave on friday and i'm not coming back until monday. it was potentially going to be the 2 of us going down but a reunion-ish thing came up so i'm taking the opportunity to just go. i brought up the weekend last night and he basically forgot about the whole thing so whatever.
i'm trying. i really am. all he does is work, or talk about work, or keep his phone on him in case he has to work. i told him he has to start carving out family time and he did it for about a week and then it started up again.
i think i'm PMSing because i don't usually get this upset about this shit.
Good for you for getting away for a few days - I hope you have fun! I find I usually am more zen about my husband's addiction to work and being a homebody after I've had a break myself. Sometimes I think the availability of work at home/connectedness is such a double edged sword. For us, it gives MH some flexibility with traveling to family or being able to go in late or leave early and work from home if needed, but it also feels like he then is working all.the.time.
So I just got asked to record the short safety message that we hear while standing in the explosive detector at work. Why me? Because apparently he's gotten feedback from several people (i.e. men) that they don't like men "whispering in their ear".
I told him no on the phone, but didn't address the obvious sexist issue there because I just wanted him to go away. How would you address it after the fact?
I'm retaking pictures of my house, because the ones my realtor took are just not good. I'm annoyed I'm having to do this.
I just want to sell this house. We're not looking for a huge payout, breaking even will do just fine, and even that's going to be hard.
Do you have a wide angle lens and a way to adjust lighting? Can you find a pro house photographer in your area? The one who did ours charges less than $200 with 24 hour turnaround on the lighting/retouching. I think that might be worth it for you if it moves it faster.
So I just got asked to record the short safety message that we hear while standing in the explosive detector at work. Why me? Because apparently he's gotten feedback from several people (i.e. men) that they don't like men "whispering in their ear".
I told him no on the phone, but didn't address the obvious sexist issue there because I just wanted him to go away. How would you address it after the fact?
Yikes. The best response would be, "I don't want to be distinctive here because I'm a woman; I want to be distinctive because of the quality of my work. Please don't single me out for tasks because of my sex." But I don't know how your boss would respond to that.
So I just got asked to record the short safety message that we hear while standing in the explosive detector at work. Why me? Because apparently he's gotten feedback from several people (i.e. men) that they don't like men "whispering in their ear".
I told him no on the phone, but didn't address the obvious sexist issue there because I just wanted him to go away. How would you address it after the fact?
i know it's terrible but i'm loling at the visual i'm getting in my head of a safety message literally being whispered by some creepy dude who hangs out in his basement.
So I just got asked to record the short safety message that we hear while standing in the explosive detector at work. Why me? Because apparently he's gotten feedback from several people (i.e. men) that they don't like men "whispering in their ear".
I told him no on the phone, but didn't address the obvious sexist issue there because I just wanted him to go away. How would you address it after the fact?
i know it's terrible but i'm loling at the visual i'm getting in my head of a safety message literally being whispered by some creepy dude who hangs out in his basement.
Post by laurenpetro on Jul 10, 2014 10:03:54 GMT -5
goddamnit.
i just got finished registering my nephew for the tradeshow (he, by the way, was all "yeah i'll go! i hate the mets but i want to see the stadium!") so i was very happy to not be going alone.
H just called that he got the time off. i'm almost MORE pissed at him now.
So I just got asked to record the short safety message that we hear while standing in the explosive detector at work. Why me? Because apparently he's gotten feedback from several people (i.e. men) that they don't like men "whispering in their ear".
I told him no on the phone, but didn't address the obvious sexist issue there because I just wanted him to go away. How would you address it after the fact?
Yikes. The best response would be, "I don't want to be distinctive here because I'm a woman; I want to be distinctive because of the quality of my work. Please don't single me out for tasks because of my sex." But I don't know how your boss would respond to that.
It's not my boss, it's the safety lead. I was suggested first because I do have an assertive voice that would likely carry in the machine over the background air noise. So I guess I am standing out there for the "quality of my work". I'm sure a good percentage of the site would recognize it as me.
I'm retaking pictures of my house, because the ones my realtor took are just not good. I'm annoyed I'm having to do this.
I just want to sell this house. We're not looking for a huge payout, breaking even will do just fine, and even that's going to be hard.
Do you have a wide angle lens and a way to adjust lighting? Can you find a pro house photographer in your area? The one who did ours charges less than $200 with 24 hour turnaround on the lighting/retouching. I think that might be worth it for you if it moves it faster.
I don't, but trust, anything is better than what she has up there now. I just looked at the pictures again, and got all annoyed.
I'm not sure if DHs is, I just know it's fancy. If it's not, I'll talk to him about looking for a pro.
Do you have a wide angle lens and a way to adjust lighting? Can you find a pro house photographer in your area? The one who did ours charges less than $200 with 24 hour turnaround on the lighting/retouching. I think that might be worth it for you if it moves it faster.
I don't, but trust, anything is better than what she has up there now. I just looked at the pictures again, and got all annoyed.
I'm not sure if DHs is, I just know it's fancy. If it's not, I'll talk to him about looking for a pro.
You can also try the panoramic on an iphone, but it's hard to do really well without a tripod.
So I just got asked to record the short safety message that we hear while standing in the explosive detector at work. Why me? Because apparently he's gotten feedback from several people (i.e. men) that they don't like men "whispering in their ear".
I told him no on the phone, but didn't address the obvious sexist issue there because I just wanted him to go away. How would you address it after the fact?
Yikes. The best response would be, "I don't want to be distinctive here because I'm a woman; I want to be distinctive because of the quality of my work. Please don't single me out for tasks because of my sex." But I don't know how your boss would respond to that.
I like Chilly's response, but I would re-order it a bit because I worry he'll be defensive by the 3rd sentence and not be listening. So, "Please don't single me out for tasks because I am a woman. I want to be distinctive because of the quality of my work, not my gender."
For years and years, H and I would go running or biking or whatever exercise in the evenings together after work at least 3 evenings a week (plus always weekends). Then we both got busier and busier with work and have not been doing a good job with it in the last year or so. I finally realized that if I'm going to be more consistent about daily exercise and not fall into the weekend warrior mode I'm going to need to switch things up. So, I took the dog for a 4-mile run this morning. She was thrilled. I would prefer to run with both H and the dog, but at least this way I ran.
OUR TREADMILL IS GONE! OUR TREADMILL IS GONE! OUR TREADMILL IS GONE!
DH was sad to let it go but its going to his BFFs house so it's "safe" for now. I told them that if it goes to treadmill heaven during it's stay there its OK with me.
Post by NewOrleans on Jul 10, 2014 10:50:20 GMT -5
There is a Groupon for a local painting service. I thought I could avoid having to paint shit myself by buying it, so I looked up the company to see if it was reputable. It has a 1 star rating from someone complaining about scheduling difficulties with the company that dragged on and on and then they came but wouldn't paint. So the painter responded to it himself by saying he refused to paint her house because of the roaches and because she lives in filth. I am still cracking up over this exchange.
I tripped last night and fell I to my full length mirror and it broke. I'm really bummed because it's a $200 mirror that I got on super secret clearance for $30.
When I woke up this morning, my iPad screen was cracked! It was cracked before, but it magically grew overnight? I bet DH dropped it....