Post by underwaterrhymes on Jul 24, 2014 14:48:07 GMT -5
I cannot imagine how I would react in this situation. I do think that nothing good would come out of a conversation with the other woman. I think it would only prove to be more hurtful to me.
My dad cheated on my mom throughout their marriage and when he broke things off with one of the women, she called my mom. Granted, she was the initiator, but it absolutely devastated my mom. She was broken for a long time.
Post by RoxMonster on Jul 24, 2014 14:48:10 GMT -5
I don't know. I'm not sure how I would actually react if I was really in that situation.
My first instinct is, no, I would not contact her. But who knows? I think it's one of those situations where you really have to be in it to know what you'd do.
My DH had an affair last winter. I did not contact her, didn't see the point. I didn't care about her at all--it was DH that broke my heart, not her. She didn't put a gun to his head.
I have been in this situation before and I refused to contact the other woman, b/c this was OUR marriage and she had intruded far enough into already and she was not going to be brought in any further. It was between myself and my husband, fuck her though, I did wish continuous smelly diarrhea on her ass though, she knew he was married. I don't know if I spelled everything right.
I didn't but she knew I hated her for sticking herself in my marriage.
The other woman sucks but I put most of the blame on the husband. He's the one that would feel my wrath. Now if she turned out the be married also, I would probably tell her husband.
Post by trixiedicksnatch on Jul 24, 2014 14:52:53 GMT -5
I have no idea.
I would lose my shit on fi for sure and as much as I would like to think I could be mature and composed I can also picture myself confronting her and telling her what a two bit trashy cuntface she is.
The first 2 I didn't do it in a "I am accusing you!" type tone because they both told me they had no idea.
The one he admitted to me had an issue that we were living together, I laid into her.
ETA: I did it because I wanted him to see how hurt I was (and wanted details of when/what/where) and that I was going to get to the bottom of it. I didn't care about them. As my MIL put it "you can go searching for answers from the women but it won't make you hurt any less. They are details that don't do anything productive" and she is right.
Probably not. But if it ever happened to me, I can say with 100% certainty that I would probably not be able to think calmly and rationally so who knows?
Post by juliette21 on Jul 24, 2014 14:56:04 GMT -5
Only if the Other Woman was someone close to me, like a sister, friend, cousin, etc. I would feel in that situation like she betrayed me in a way as well, so I would lay into her.
Otherwise, no I wouldn't say a word and if I ever saw the Other Woman or had to interact with her I would keep my head high and be the bigger person. Because she didn't owe me anything, it would be my H's fault completely.
Oh gosh, I'm sorry. I don't know what I would do. It would probably depends on a lot of factors, none of which I can really guess at without them happening.
I'm sorry. I don't know what I'd do. Does she know he's married?
I think it would feel really good at first to confront her, but I think after I'd feel sick that I did. I wouldn't want her to feel like she got to me in any way.
Post by thelurkylulu on Jul 24, 2014 14:58:32 GMT -5
If she knew he was married, then hell yes I would.
If she didn't know, then idk. I tend to be "nail the mutha fucker's balls to the wall" in these types of situations though, so I more than likely would confront in either circumstance.
If I had reason to believe she didn't know he was married, I probably would. Other than that, I probably wouldn't because I wouldn't want to give her the satisfaction of seeing me crazy (which I assume I would be at that point). If it were a friend or someone I trusted, I'd probably have a hard time not saying anything.
While I agree that the person I should be most angry with is my spouse, I don't think that because the OW did not make a commitment to me, she doesn't deserve some scorn (assuming she knew he was married). We live in a society, people. You don't get involved with a person who is already in a (not open) relationship.