I don't see my mom much, but she was here for a 2 week visit. She tried to pay all the time, but I'm faster to it. She ended up paying a few times for the smaller amounts, which is OK. I'd feel weird if she paid for us all the time, because she still works, but she won't be able to work much longer because she is old. I know she pays for some stuff for my older siblings (paying for their plane tickets, etc).
Both of my parents always pay. We offer to pay our bill but they've never let us. I expect we'll do the same for our kids.
Oh, IL's have paid the few times we have gone out with them I think. We rarely went out with MIL when we lived near her because money has always been tight for them.
Post by ralphlauren on Jul 24, 2014 23:09:09 GMT -5
Yes always. They are very generous.
I met my parents in Vegas a few months ago and wanted to treat my dad to a very nice dinner for his bday. I gave the server my cc before so there would be no issue when the bill came. I did it without my dad even seeing. Well the bill came and the server brought me the bill to sign and my sad was so pissed at me. He wanted to pay and did not want me to spend a dime with him.
He actually put cash in my suitcase so he could pay me back for the dinner. Ugh. I found it when I got home.
Post by birdistheword on Jul 24, 2014 23:22:39 GMT -5
Both of our sets of parents pretty much always pay. Occasionally we will insist on paying if we were the ones who invited them out, but we lose the battle most of the time.
Post by mrsukyankee on Jul 25, 2014 2:09:31 GMT -5
My parents do let us pick up the check but only in certain circumstances. They will be taking us out to dinner when we visit them this summer - they will pay. But we'll take them out to dinner or my DH will cook some Indian dishes for them as a thank you. When they visit us, the same happens - one night they pay and one night we pay. I like it as it makes us more like equals and less like 'children'.
We see my in-laws twice a week but mainly cook for each other. When we go out, whoever suggested it pays. Again, fair.
With my mom and IL's we either pay for everyone or we split and just pay for us.
We paid once for my dad and we heard about that for a long time. He always paid.
I don't see us having the kids pay for us. Maybe every once in a while b/c I know how much I wanted to/liked to do that for my dad; but not on a regular basis.
Both sets of parents always pay unless we are taking them to dinner for a specific reason.
My in-laws are very much "do you need money? Here's some money" people, and my parents are very much not, but paying for meals is their common ground. I imagine we'll do the same for our children. I'd like to, anyway.
Both parents & in-laws almost always pay. I'm chiming in b/c I saw a couple 'they'll let us pay if we're taking them out for a birthday.' Last time we went out with my parents was to celebrate Mother's Day & my dad's birthday. (Yikes that kinda makes me think it's been too long! Nonetheless, my mom insisted on splitting the bill- we covered their dinners & they covered our's b/c weeks before, she'd been the 1st to mention the restaurant so she did the 'inviting.' I was a bit, 'Really, Mom?!?' but saw how much it meant to them, so obediently complied.
We don't go out to eat very often. We live close, so most dinners are family dinners on Sunday nights. When we do go out, it's usually for a birthday and then my parents usually pay as a part of the gift.
My parents always want to, but we know they're on a fixed income and can't afford it, so it makes us really uncomfortable. We try to pick it up when we can or let the server know it'll be separate checks. We go Dutch with the in-laws 80% of the time.
Post by fivechickens on Jul 25, 2014 6:53:20 GMT -5
My mom always picked up the tab when we went out to dinner. My mom died five years ago and my aunt (her SIL) has sort of filled her spot especially with my girls. She also always picks up the tab when we go out to dinner. My grandma (mom's mom) was the same.
My in laws never do. Saying that, We rarely go out to dinner with them because my FIL is always smoking/grilling/frying something.
Post by karmasabiotch on Jul 25, 2014 6:54:57 GMT -5
H's parents always do.
My Mom never would for some reason. My Sister and I used to joke that we could ask her for a check for $50,000 and she would give it to us without asking a question but she would never pay for our lunch.
My parents are on a fixed income and have no problem with us picking up the check as long as they can leave the tip. My ILs don't like to eat out but when we get take out usually everyone chips in a little unless we tell them ahead of time that we're bringing dinner.