We take turns with my parents, but bigger expenses they usually insist on picking up. So if we are out for the weekend, we might cover lunch or breakfast but my Dad gets dinner.
We take turns treating each other with my MIL. My FIL and his wife are kind of stingy when we go out, which is annoying because they are swimming in money. But whatever. I like eating out when we visit them because it means I get to eat. Which is not guaranteed when we are at their house.
If my parents are both there or just my dad, they pay. If it is just my mom, we pay. My mom used to always pay too but I gradually managed to make her let me pay. They don't have much cash but are very proud and old fashioned.
Post by Captain Serious on Jul 25, 2014 7:45:00 GMT -5
We pay all the time with my in-laws. My parents try to pay all the time, but my mother finally convinced my father to let my husband pay, under the guise that it was insulting to my husband to treat him as a child. We are significantly better off than both our sets of parents, and I wish my folks would let us pay for more without making it be such a big issue.
My parents never let us pay, unless we really force the issue (if we take them out for a birthday or something). This may change as we get older and aren't poor anymore.
ILs never seem to go out to eat, so I don't know how that would work. It would probably be more like 50-50.
Both sets like to slip us money from time to time for different things. It makes them happy and they know we don't have the income with two small kids to be doing much fun stuff with our money.
I always look at it as they remember what it was like to be young with small kids. They have moved on from that part of their life and it makes them happy to make things a bit easier for us.
My mum used to pay most times. She's gone stingy in the last couple of years and will "let" us pay (ie not reach for her purse) most times. Come to think of it, she only pays when she's taking us out for a birthday nowadays.
My parents rarely pay. Money is, and always has been, tight for them. We always pick up our portion of the bill.
My in-laws used to INSIST on paying every time, which was fine until my SIL got married and we both had kids. Paying for 3 people (DH, SIL and me) is a little different than 6, LOL. We can usually convince my ILs to let us pick up our portion of the check about 50% of the time.
My dad pays about 50% of the time, my ILs always pay (unless we treat them for mother's day, father's day, a birthday, etc.) and my mom pays about 50% of the time. My parents aren't very well off so I always try to be sure we get the check split (it's usually us and my siblings) before a parent grabs the check to pay.
We take turns and it kind of depends on the occasion. Like F-Day, M-Day, no, they don't pay. My brother and I take turns. If they invite us out to dinner and want to pick up the check, that's cool.
Oh, and with my IL's, it's usually separate checks. On occasion, my H will slip the server his CC ahead of time and treat them. But then in turns into them thinking they need to treat us and blah, blah, blah. Separate checks is easier with them. My family would never think to do separate checks.
My parents always pay, even when we offer. I think they let us pay one time, for an anniversary dinner for them. We rarely go to eat with my in-laws, but I'd say it's half and half on paying with them.
My parents always pay unless we let it be known we're treating them. I always offer but my mom says it's something that my dad likes to do for his (grown) girls. So I let it go.
My ILs have financial problems so we pay 9/10. They usually treat us to a meal once when they visit to thank us for letting them stay with us.