Ok, I'm fascinated by what other shit this sister has pulled.
One time in HS, Friend was nominated for Homecoming Court and won (It wasn't Homecoming Queen, it's whatever title you get as a junior). Sister was on the student council and staged a vote recount because she couldn't believe people would vote for her sister. It was a big ordeal at the time and full of wtf.
Sister would tell everyone that Friend was a slut, etc.
When Friend was planning her wedding, Sister flipped out at the color choices Friend and her H picked because she said she wanted those colors. Sister wasn't even dating anyone. She cried and cried and then told everyone that Friend "stole" her wedding.
Friend is really involved in a certain charity, has been for years. Sister joined a smaller chapter secretly, then came to the big regional meeting and accused her sister of funneling funds or something like that. Friend doesn't do anything with the money, and her sister was asked to not come back.
There are 5 siblings total, the normal 4 get along great, this Sister has been on the outs when all of this continued outside of hs and was obvious she wasn't going to just "grow out of it".
I know the parents paid for Sister to go to counseling for a bit when she was younger and on their payroll. I know the rest of the family also did group counseling to figure out how to deal with it when it was obvious things weren't changing. I know it started early enough that the parents never even had them in the same activities even in early elementary school to try to squash the whole green eyed monster thing.
Idk, man. She's always just kind of wanted to take down/skin suit Friend.
Lol, I can't believe so many people would be breezy over this. I'd be straight up "what the fuck is wrong with you, you quack?!"
I'm guessing that sister #1 is used to this kind of bullshit from her sister, and knows that getting spun up is exactly what insane sister wants to happen. I'd bet that insane sister ends up giving her baby a different name, simply because her plan to get a reaction out of sister #1 didn't work.
Although, if I were sister #1, I'd be tempted to get insane sister a monogrammed gift for the baby shower. That way, even if insane sister gives the baby a different name, there is always the reminder of this.
What are my thoughts? I'd assume monogram sister had chosen that name long ago, told new baby sister who decided she liked it. Now monogram sister is super pissed and is doubling down. I wouldn't touch that mess with a ten foot pole.
Ok, I'm fascinated by what other shit this sister has pulled.
One time in HS, ....
Idk, man. She's always just kind of wanted to take down/skin suit Friend.
You know what amazes me about this the most? Sister has found a husband who willingly (I supposed) reproduced with her. My grandmother WAS right. For every pot, there's a lid. She just didn't mention the part about how sometimes the lid is a festival of insanity.
Sister has never done anything physical, but they're never really around each other. Maybe twice a year, at most. Obviously, Friend has good reason to not seek out spending more time with her.
Holy crap at your update. What a nutter. I would seriously never allow my child around this chick.
I'm pretty sure they were at this point even before the whole name thing, but I can't say for certain because really her sister hardly ever comes up in conversation. Sister hadn't had an incident in the past 2 years or so (since she got married), but I think if someone has been gunning for you regularly for 28 years or so you don't really forget that. I think the name thing just proved she's really not any different.
ETA: I know they would never consider leaving the kid alone with her, even in another room if they were all at a family event.
WOW. That's tacky. My sister ended up using my dad's first name as her son's middle, which is something I wanted to do but obviously it's off the table now. I'm fine with it. She got knocked up first therefore, I have no right to claim anything. Shouldn't this be fucking common sense to people?!?
I don't see why you couldn't still use it. It's a middle name and obviously meaningful to you as well.
I suppose so but I've got plenty of other options from my side of the family and H's. It's no biggie but just would have been nice. And I'm not going to be one of those four-namer parents.
Bil and SIL "stole" our ds's middle name for a first. The kids' birthdays are 6 days apart. They are really really close with us. We had stated we would often call Ds by both names.
It was a fucking drama show. I was embarrassed by my behavior but I was nine months pregnant. Not my finest hour.
Two years later it is still weird. And a sore spot in my relationship with them.
WOW. That's tacky. My sister ended up using my dad's first name as her son's middle, which is something I wanted to do but obviously it's off the table now. I'm fine with it. She got knocked up first therefore, I have no right to claim anything. Shouldn't this be fucking common sense to people?!?
My middle son and my nephew both have the same middle name. It is my grandpa's name, my dad's name and also my brother's (nephew's dad) name. We gave all of my kids family middle names and nobody thought it was weird. Sharing a middle name (or even a first name in some cases) isn't weird. The crazy weird part here is the ripping off of the entire, uncommon, name.
Post by emoflamingo on Jul 29, 2014 11:51:12 GMT -5
LOL @savestheday, I have 2 friends from high school who were in that same situation. Out of all the names in the world, Friend B chose the name of Friend A's stillborn child. It wasn't even years and years, IT WAS MAYBE WEEKS. And my cousin has 2 cousins who are all pretty close to the same age on her Dad's side (her mom is my aunt) and they are all named very similar versions of the same name. Like Danielle, Dani and Daniella.
Oy. I cannot imagine thinking this was a good idea, let alone selling my spouse on it. I am impressed with your friend's zen attitude-- I guess she's had nearly 3 decades to develop it.
My dad has an Uncle David and an Uncle John (brothers). Uncle John had a son before Uncle David, and named him.... David. Then Uncle David had a son, and named him... David. Now each cousin David has their own son, and each carried on the tradition. So now there are 5 David Lastnames. All in the same relatively small community.
I would love to have been a fly on the wall in Uncle David's house when Uncle John originally announced his kid's name.
I agree with whoever said CrazySister is just trying to divert attention away from the new mom. She'll change her mind as soon as the new baby excitement wears off.
I can't imagine how exhausting it must be to feel like your sister is forever competing with you in every way. I've had "friends" like that; and the friendships never last long. But at least I wasn't stuck with them.