I like it here these days. GTKY poll.

[MyName]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?

What are you currently looking forward to?

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.

Favorite drink

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you?

[1confused1]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Divorced but still dealing with custody. Back in the world of dating.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? My kids and running.

What are you currently looking forward to? Honestly, we have had the best summer (the kids and I did everything xh said we couldn't "afford" to do before). I'm just happy right now.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. I have so many, right now I'm watching Party Down South.

Favorite drink vodka/diet 7-up

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you? No, but I'd like to (although I will be nervous as hell). Northern California.

[MyName]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?  together 12 years, cheated a lot, over it, but still apprehensive about new guys.  

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?  I love cooking, so it's been nice to do it without a dinner "deadline".  I've always focused on myself, but I'm going out with friends, traveling, and accepting my "hippy-ness" more.

What are you currently looking forward to?   So much!  Aruba w my parents and sister, camping with all my siblings, two bnotb gtgs in October, visiting bff who just moved to Colombia.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.  All time, Seinfeld or 30 Rock.  I love sitcoms, pretty much all of them.  I will probably start binge watching Breaking Bad this weekend.

Favorite drink  I love beer and wine, but for calorie reasons I drink a lot of vodka/club soda

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you?   Yes, all bnotb-ers.  Hoping to meet @blueyes623 after our vacations.  I'm in NYC.

[glitzyglow]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?
Divorced and dating.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?
How to be an independent person. I've spent my entire life putting others before myself and I realize how much I elevated my exH over my own wants. Since focusing on me I've moved to an amazing city, work at an historic site, and am about to finish up my M.A.. It's been a great journey with myself.

What are you currently looking forward to?
My sister is visiting next weekend!! Also, my bff is flying in come mid-August. We are spending the day together and then driving to our hometown for our 10 year class reunion. I'm just excited about seeing him. I also adore his family and I can't wait to spend the weekend with them!

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.
One of my most favorite shows ever is Arrested Development. I also love the British comedy Peep Show (on Hulu). It's dark comedy, but I love it.

Favorite drink
Alcohol: Daiquiri
Non-alcohol: A good vanilla Coke

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you?
I've met lookingup, alicenelson, FormerlyRR, and cuddlyevil...they are all so awesome. I definitely want to meet more! I'm in Nashville.

[1confused1]

Aug 1, 2014 23:24:58 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you?
I've met lookingup, alicenelson, FormerlyRR, and cuddlyevil...they are all so awesome. I definitely want to meet more! I'm in Nashville.

I am DYING to go to Nashville.  It will happen within the next year.

[glitzyglow]

Aug 1, 2014 23:28:59 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Aug 1, 2014 23:24:58 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you?
I've met lookingup, alicenelson, FormerlyRR, and cuddlyevil...they are all so awesome. I definitely want to meet more! I'm in Nashville.

I am DYING to go to Nashville.  It will happen within the next year.

Let me know when you come!

[WinterIsComing]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?
Separated in May after I found out my STBXH was cheating. He has been a total ass since which has been a pain but has made it easier to start moving forward. Divorce papers have been filed and it should be final in late September or early October. I have told myself I shouldn't date for 6-8 months so I am trying not to think about that.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?
Trying to make new friends and cultivate my own interests. Most of my friends were couples who my STBXH was friends with first so I figured I needed some new ones. I have been trying to go to meetups and saying yes whenever anyone asks me to do something. So far this has led to skydiving, signing up for a half marathon, and taking golf lessons.

What are you currently looking forward to?
Upcoming vacations. Getting away is a great distraction!

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.
The Americans, Game of Thrones, Good Wife, and any reality tv (the trashier the better).

Favorite drink
Sauvignon blanc, fruity lambics, or vodka sprite

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you?
Nope but I would be interested if I was around some. I'm in Utah and very few gbcners seem to be here.

[Deleted]

Aug 1, 2014 23:10:35 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?  
Divorced 2+ years ago.  living with bf

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?
becoming myself again


What are you currently looking forward to?
Vacation 

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.

i tend to watch a lot of random stuff.

Favorite drink

Rum & diet coke 
 

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you?
looking forward to meeting @myname sometime soon.NYC

[moonlight]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Divorced. I left after years of being neglected. I walked away from my house, my dog and my extended family in order to take back my freedom and control of my life. I'm still grieving the loss of another complex relationship with the one I should have married instead of XH and trying to get over my past mistakes. Surviving.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? My health and body

What are you currently looking forward to? Saving up for a vacation. And a kitchen remodel.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. I don't have a TV

Favorite drink Currently a Bloody Mary

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you? Never have

[winecat]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Divorced

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?  I started a business.  Learning a lot about myself. 

What are you currently looking forward to? My new website, bus, and branding.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. I like The Blacklist.

Favorite drink Wine or anything really. I'm a bit of a lush.

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you? Yes. Yes. Colorado.

[alleinesein]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Single and not loving it.  Meeting up with a missed opportunity next week to see what happens

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? I lost my money, my job and my marriage all in a 6  month period.  I've just been focused on getting by this past year

What are you currently looking forward to? My internship/volunteer position in Bangalore.  I leave on Tueday

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. None.  I dont really watch tv (well i did watch Sharknado 2 b/c its SHARKNADO!)  I dont really stream anything. 

Favorite drink Rum and coke made with Cuban rum

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you? I've met crashgizmo, mrschicken, iamali and a few others from TK/TN days (pitabread and most of the 2006/2007 San Diego girls).  I have no issues meeting new peeps.  Im in the north part of San Diego County (about 30 miles north of downtown SD)

[Deleted]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?
Divorced almost 4 years. In fact I realized I left my husband exactly 4 years ago today! So crazy. Been single pretty ever since

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?
My friends and career

What are you currently looking forward to? My trip to sandals!

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.
This is like Sophie's choice. I'll say Mad Men and any and all trash reality TV

Favorite drink
Sauvignon blanc

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you? Yes! I'm IRL friends with many including redredwine and met a bunch at the Seattle GTG last weekend. Live in PDX

[bullygirl979]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? In a long term relationship. Moving in together

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? Knowing that it is okay to have my needs be a priority

What are you currently looking forward to? a 50 mile charity bike ride. I should also plan a vacation, lol.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. Um, I really don't watch tv.

Favorite drink. I don't have one fav. I love a good craft brew or glass of wine.

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you? A lot! I love GTGs. I'm in Western NY. Oh, and @pdx18? P might be coming your way on business in the fall. If he does, I may tag along for part of the trip!

[cuddlyevil]

Aug 1, 2014 23:10:35 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?

What are you currently looking forward to?

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.

Favorite drink

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you?

Filing soon and it will be final by mid-september.

I have focused on rebuilding old friendships and making new ones.

I am looking forward to the premiere of season 8 of dr who.

I play no favorites with booze.

I have met gbcners and they are awesome.

I live in. Ohio

[jellymankelly]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?
Was with my XH for 9.5 years, had 2 kids, he cheated a lot, and left us for someone else in 2011. I am in a relationship now, but very happily UN-married and not interested in changing that. Just went back to full time work after 8 years staying at home/working part time at home.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?
Lately, nothing. I did run for awhile, though, and it was the absolute BEST thing for my physical and emotional well-being. If I could trust my kids not to parachute off the roof if I went to run around the block for 30 minutes, I would. Hopefully I can get back to it soon!

What are you currently looking forward to?
I'm hoping to put my house on the market this year and downsize. The thought of moving makes me VERY excited.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.
Hart of Dixie, The Mindy Project

Favorite drink
Everything but gin. Give me all the drinks!
I usually drink vodka tonics.

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you?
I haven't. I'm open to it whenever my schedule allows.
I'm in the Triad area of NC.

[liubot]

Aug 1, 2014 23:10:35 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Single with a 14 month old daughter. Ex and I are friendly with custody.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? Being happy living alone.

What are you currently looking forward to? Getting my car back from the shop...

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. OITNB, House

Favorite drink. Diet Pepsi.

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you? I have, I like to. I'm in NEPA.

[Wanderista]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Metamorphosis.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? I didn't separate or divorce. I had a couple of LTRs that didn't pan out including some cohabitation and quasi-cohabitation. Before that I spent a while alternating between playing the field and singledom. Now I'm dating someone new as of a few months. I'd say the best thing is working on developing myself in many ways. I'm expending energy productively instead of trying to fix broken people who need to fix themselves.

What are you currently looking forward to? Many things. Right now, it's really new career opportunities that are finally coming together. I've found new challenges and that makes me happy. I am looking forward to lots of good times with good people and also learning/experiencing new things.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. Err, I do not really watch much tv at all tbh. I like Anthony Bourdain's various tv shows. He's my idea of a hot older man (physically he was a bit hotter when he was more salt-and-pepper than totally white, mentally still hot though). I have seen him live and gotten his autograph.

Favorite drink - Tough one. I like fruity drinks. I really like various ciders, fruit beers (especially Belgian) and some lemonade beers that I tried in Central Europe. I'd say that what I drink varies based on my mood. I'd probably get bored with just one signature drink. I'd never turn down Magner's though.

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you? Yeah to both of the first two questions. I live in the DC area. I do love traveling but work right now is a bit intense. I also have an active social life.

[Deleted]

bullygirl979 that's awesome! I would love to meet you if you come along!

[kanga1]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Waiting for a messy divorce to be finalized, hopefully in the next few months

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? Rocking high heels and wedges and cowboy boots with skirts. STBX always told me I looked like a whore if I wore shoes like that. Didn't realize how terrible of him that was until I got out of the relationship. Eating healthier, I am not turning to food for comfort as I used to do when I was with him.

What are you currently looking forward to? Getting out of my parents house! Either getting back into our house or getting a new place of my own

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. Mistresses, RHOC, Teen Mom 2, Keeping up with the Kardashians (maybe that answer should have gone in FFFC!)

Favorite drink Lately it's been Blue Kinky with diety 7up

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you? Back in TK days I did...like 2003/2004 when we all we could talk about was wedding planning!

Read more: pandce.proboards.com/thread/354187/days-gtky-poll#ixzz39FPNjBlE

[llh0211]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?
Divorced 2 years (also including separation) dating YG.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?
Doing what makes ME happy. Living life, staying active

What are you currently looking forward to?
New Orleans next month with a girlfriend.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.
Hooked on the Killing at the moment

Favorite drink
It depends rum & coke with lime is my go to. But I'm an equal opportunity drinker. Beer, wine, liquor. I like it all!

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you?
I'm in the Seattle area. I've met a couple local girls, and I'd love to meet more. It just hasn't worked out

[GilliC]

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?
Amicably divorced. Dating SO for 2½ years.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?
My career. I spent a lot of time in XH's shadow at work.

What are you currently looking forward to?
A barbecue with some old friends tomorrow.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.
The Amazing Race

Favorite drink
Imperial stout

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you?
I've met a handful of the international GBCNers, mostly in London and Scandinavia.
I'm in Oslo.

[redredwine]

Aug 1, 2014 23:10:35 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Divorced almost 4 years. Single for about 1.5, then went on ALOT of first dates. Apparently one worked out. Getting hitched again in about 2 weeks, so officially starting over. 

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? BEING SINGLE! Learning where my passion is in life, doing things for myself, setting goals for myself. I truly learned what I am capable of and it's pretty awesome. 

What are you currently looking forward to? I'm in a good place at work and really looking forward to how my career develops. SO related, being in a happy and healthy marriage where communication is our strength, not our weakness. 

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. Currently, Sherlock! Though I've loved Sons of Anarchy, Dexter, True Detective in the past months. OH, 30Rock is probably one of my top faces!

Favorite drink: Sauvingnon Blanc. @pdx18 is a girl after my own heart. 

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you? Yes! I've met quite a few!! Even in The.knot./ Nest days...been around for a long time! Quite a few have even become some of my closest friends!  

[redredwine]

Aug 2, 2014 9:57:02 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

bullygirl979 that's awesome! I would love to meet you if you come along!

Um, bullygirl979 -me too!!! I'll even wear my Garmin (used it this morning on my ride and thought of you!) 

[locarb]

Divorced and single...not currently dating anyone

im focused on my kids, fitness and having fun alone

looking forward to cancun vacation over t-gigiving 

botched and RHONJ current faves

ill drink any alcohol

no, but willing to meet others. I live in N Tx

[bullygirl979]

Aug 2, 2014 15:26:14 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Aug 2, 2014 9:57:02 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

bullygirl979 that's awesome! I would love to meet you if you come along!

Um, bullygirl979 -me too!!! I'll even wear my Garmin (used it this morning on my ride and thought of you!) 

Definitely! I will let you and @pdx18 know for sure.

How is the garmin working out for you??

[starrieskies]

Aug 1, 2014 23:10:35 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? Recently divorced. Dipping my toes in the dating pool every now and then, but not really trying to date.

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? My mental health and making new friends.

What are you currently looking forward to? Moving out of my parents house and having a space of my own.

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something. I don't really watch much tv, and when I do is usually something someone else is watching.

Favorite drink. Whisky and coke is what I usually stick to, but I like to branch out and try other things too. It depends on my mood.

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you? Yes and yes. I'm in Washington state. 

[blanca]

Aug 1, 2014 23:22:08 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible? 

Divorced x 7 yrs and 1 failed engagement. Not really dating currently, trying to work on myself

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce? 

Probably just getting out and doing stuff with friends

What are you currently looking forward to?   
Disney w/ DD in November. 

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.  

I love nurse Jackie, homeland

Favorite drink  I can't drink as much as I used to but probably a good margarita

Have you met gbcners? Would you want to? Where (about) are you?

not yet, but I would really like to. I'm in central mass

[redredwine]

Aug 2, 2014 18:40:36 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Aug 2, 2014 15:26:14 GMT -5 redredwine said:

Um, bullygirl979 -me too!!! I'll even wear my Garmin (used it this morning on my ride and thought of you!) 

Definitely! I will let you and @pdx18 know for sure.

How is the garmin working out for you??

Great, despite one day when the darn thing kept trying to locate satellites! But loved it this morning and SO much easier and more accurate than Map My Ride on my phone since i can just look at my wrist and BAM! I see how fast I'm going!

I just discovered the Garmin Connect website, which is much better than the Training Center software they have you download! It's exactly what I wanted! 

[sweetchix]

Aug 1, 2014 23:10:35 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?

What are you currently looking forward to?

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.

Favorite drink

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you?

SO deal: divorced and FWB'ing it.
Best thing focused on: making sure DDs adjust well, which they have. Tremendously well.
Currently looking forward to: a bunch of family, including my sister and her family and my brother and his kids, are all coming in to town for our family reunion next weekend. Oh, and the corn. We eat so much corn then.
Favorite TV show: probably Law & Order SVU
Favorite drink: alcoholic is Bud Light Lime, non-alcoholic is caffeine free Diet Pepsi (although I'm trying to cut back on pop)
Met any GBCNers: yep. I've met chalupa, bullygirl979, and doriswe.
Where are you: in bed. In NY.

[gozf]

Aug 1, 2014 23:10:35 GMT -5 MyName said:

What's your SO deal [now] , in as few words as possible?

What's the best thing you've focused on for yourself, post-separation or divorce?

What are you currently looking forward to?

Favorite TV show, since we're all streaming something.

Favorite drink

Have you met gbcners?  Would you want to?  Where (about) are you?

1. I'm living with my boyfriend of 3 years. My divorce was final three years ago, but I was separated for a year prior.

2. The best thing I did for myself was taking therapy seriously, and taking time out to cultivate interests I'd previously neglected.

3. Looking forward to? Lots of stuff! A party for a friend who is moving (though I'm sad he's going so far away), my birthday on Wednesday, my next bass lesson. I try not to get too far ahead of myself.

4. Favorite tv show of all time is Twin Peaks. Six Feet Under is a close second.

5. These days, it's diet coke. If we're talking booze, I was always partial to gin and tonics, extra dirty martinis or stouts and porters.

6. I've met a bunch of MLers and a small handful of SOers. I live in PA, in the Lehigh Valley, about an hour from Philadelphia.