You aren't supposed to go back and forth right? So do you do EITHER butt or reg sex? Are they equally enjoyable? Do you like one better? I'm quite curious. I would be interested in working my way up to this. lol
I don't go butt to vag, but I will go vag to butt. But generally, if H wants it, he just asks for it. He might bang me doggy style for a bit to get things going and then move to butt. But I also like to use a vibrator (same rules, no butt to vag) to help thing along too.
Oooh why? (This is not said judgey, I just rarely hear of men refusing to stick it in somewhere warm and tight - LOL!)
He's generally very game, but he thinks it is gross. Lol.
My H feels the same, which is perfectly okay with me because I don't really have an interest in working my way up to fit him. As pantsparty said - too much work! lol
He thinks that if he massages my butt I won't notice his hand getting closer to the hole. I know you are trying to warm me up. Its not happening H. Give it up.
This is the result of me giving in ONCE (maybe twice).
omg. This is my H. "get away from the hole bud, it's not happening."
Didn't we have a mortician do an AMA here? I'm betting there's a strong correlation between "needs asshole sewn up" in death and asshole stretching in life.
People. If you put something in your butt and your butt hole stays stretched out for any appreciable amount of time afterwards, then there's something wrong.
With your butt hole.
Don't misunderstand, I'm not trying to convince anyone that they should try it if they don't want to. Not interested? Worried it hurts? Just plain think it's icky? That's cool. But the "omg I don't want to get STRETCHED OUT!" reactions are a little silly. No, you don't remain gaped open shitting yourself for the rest of eternity due to anal play.
Also, for what it's worth, my BMs were the most perfect they've ever been when we were regularly putting things up the butt. Circulation/massage is apparently good for you no matter the location LOL!
People. If you put something in your butt and your butt hole stays stretched out for any appreciable amount of time afterwards, then there's something wrong.
With your butt hole.
Don't misunderstand, I'm not trying to convince anyone that they should try it if they don't want to. Not interested? Worried it hurts? Just plain think it's icky? That's cool. But the "omg I don't want to get STRETCHED OUT!" reactions are a little silly. No, you don't remain gaped open shitting yourself for the rest of eternity due to anal play.
I will say that some of the anal surgeries I've seen have made me even more uninterested in butt sex. I donn't cringe easily but participating in those procedures had me clenching the whole time lol. Plus how they described their recovery, not fun :/
Not saying that everyone who has butt sex will have complications but I'm trying to avoid any possibilities, ha.
I just recommend people take it sloooow with a lot of lube
Didn't we have a mortician do an AMA here? I'm betting there's a strong correlation between "needs asshole sewn up" in death and asshole stretching in life.
Unless you walk around for an entire year with a dildo up your ass, your anus shrinks back down to size with no problem.
Is this like the oral thing? "Maybe you're just never had GOOD oral..."
I do not understand even a little people that hate oral. I understand not loving butt play.
I think many people's heads get in the way of enjoying something really pleasurable, which I find unfortunate. (Not to say that it is pleasurable for everyone, different strokes etc.)
We all have our things.
Listen, I don't care what people put in their orifices. As long as everyone's having fun and no one's getting hurt, KOKO. I don't have a desire to have anal sex, though, and I always think it's weird when people trying to talk me into liking things. I'm good with not liking it, okay?!?
I do not understand even a little people that hate oral. I understand not loving butt play.
I think many people's heads get in the way of enjoying something really pleasurable, which I find unfortunate. (Not to say that it is pleasurable for everyone, different strokes etc.)
We all have our things.
Listen, I don't care what people put in their orifices. As long as everyone's having fun and no one's getting hurt, KOKO. I don't have a desire to have anal sex, though, and I always think it's weird when people trying to talk me into liking things. I'm good with not liking it, okay?!?
I originally read that as offices and was scratching my damn head. That makes so much more sense now. Lol.
This is the stuff that makes people get defensive in threads like this. Stop. Don't offer this like anyone here deserves to be pitied. It's condescending and dumb.
This is the stuff that makes people get defensive in threads like this. Stop. Don't offer this like anyone here deserves to be pitied. It's condescending and dumb.
I thought it was more of a "YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU'RE MISSING OUT ON!"
I guess I am an SS. I have never tried it, nor do I really have the desire, but it's on the list of things I'd consider doing if a partner I cared about really wanted to. I have not yet had a serious relationship where this has been something they asked me to do, so I've managed to avoid it up to this point.
For the record, I love a good spelunking session. But unless it's your dick heading in there, I give no fucks whether you're into it or not. Everyone just KOKO. I hate that these discussions always end up with someone being smug about it and someone getting on the defensive.
That's the best part! So you just hush up and let it happen.