I haven't done this since a drunken night in college, but (hehe) I'm considering giving it another shot. lol, you all already know everything else about me, so why be shy now?
It's not bad at all if you can get past the point of being anxious and tensing up. Once you relax mentally, the, erm, rest of you relaxes too. Getting to that point can be painful though, and I just don't have the desire to put myself through that anymore. It's been probably 5 years; I would do it again if H requested it for a special occasion or something, lol.
He thinks that if he massages my butt I won't notice his hand getting closer to the hole. I know you are trying to warm me up. Its not happening H. Give it up.
This is the result of me giving in ONCE (maybe twice).
XH bugged me about it non fucking stop the entire 12 years we were together. I attempted twice. Both times it was a no-go. It just wasn't happening and I think it's something you have to REALLY want to do and I just don't have ANY desire. I don't even like watching it happen in porn; I fast forward until they get back to p in v.
So- based on people's fears here- if you like it, do you prep in some way or just go for it?
Wash well, use the best lube you can (NO NUMBING LUBES!), work up to it over the course of a couple weeks. You'll have super hot sex for those couple weeks, guaranteed.
You aren't supposed to go back and forth right? So do you do EITHER butt or reg sex? Are they equally enjoyable? Do you like one better? I'm quite curious. I would be interested in working my way up to this. lol
Yes, no back and forth - bad bacteria and all that.
If I'm doing it, we'll start with regular sex and end with anal.
Post by pantsparty on Aug 14, 2014 14:06:49 GMT -5
Ugh, it sounds like so much work. Working your way up to it fitting in? NO THANKS. I'm totally cool with it going in the hole that, you know, lubes and stretches itself.