Being a widow is a real mindf@$%, I'm lonely, AMA

[bubblywater]

Quick facts:
widowed suddenly after almost a decade together, have a kid, sex was not part of marriage so been sowing some wild oats, I don't really know how to do this dating thing well, and I've been lurking/seldom posting for over 8 years.  

[stephm0188]

How do you feel about dogs?

[Jermys]

You can say fuck here. We like it.

Also, hi!

[bubblywater]

Aug 18, 2014 23:43:20 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

When did your husband die? I'm sorry you're having a tough time. How old is your kiddo?

And because you threw it out there, what do you mean that sex wasn't part of your marriage?

he died less than 6 months ago...it's wildly inappropriate for me to be dating someone else already but I'm in a real f-it place right now. My kid is five.  He had ED and never did anything to make it better.  I took vows, took them seriously and was willing to concede that for all the wonderful parts of our relationship, I had to give up on sex.  

[bubblywater]

Aug 18, 2014 23:44:33 GMT -5 stephm0188 said:

How do you feel about dogs?

this is going to make you feel really shitty for asking this, I love dogs...my dog died of bone cancer three weeks after my husband. Life is a real bitch sometimes.  

[bubblywater]

Aug 18, 2014 23:45:02 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

how old are you
what do you do for fun
what is your kid like
Do you work outside the home?

old enough  I'm in my mid-thirties
lately I've been having sex with a hot guy for fun, but that isn't my usual hobby.  I love being social and find fun in all kinds of things.
my kid is awesome, and amazingly resilient, and the best thing I've ever done in my life and that's all I will say about my kid
I was a stay at home mom, living off life insurance until I finish my master's degree and help my kid transition into our new life

[TrickyBob]

I'm so sorry.

[bubblywater]

Aug 18, 2014 23:47:13 GMT -5 Jermys said:

You can say fuck here. We like it.

Also, hi!

shhhh...this is supposed to be a safe place, pretend you don't know me and don't judge me for what you learn here  But, I know you are cool like that and this might make you like me more  

[mudslide]

How did you get pregnant without sex? Treatments?

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine.

[sparkythelawyer]

Hey, go get some, lady!

Sorry about your loss.

[bubblywater]

Aug 18, 2014 23:57:28 GMT -5 mudslide said:

How did you get pregnant without sex? Treatments?

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine.

divine conception?  Actually adoption was the route I chose.  

[Deleted]

What happened to your husband? My worst nightmare is that mine would die. You don't have to answer this, obviously, if you don't want to. i'm really sorry for your loss. You sound like you are doing pretty well, all things considered.

[JayhawkGirl]

What's your favorite summer drink?

If you had 20 minutes to yourself, what would you do?

[bubblywater]

Aug 18, 2014 23:57:38 GMT -5 intentionalsnarkshark said:

Hi there!

I wholly support you getting some bonage. What is your degree program?

Standard questions: who is your favorite, your least favorite? Do you prefer to *blow cocaine off the coffee table or the cock?












* HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan MWOS

Right now you are my favorite for now throwing a pity party  I was always fascinated by the major turnabout that stumpy made (that goes back far) and creepy internet lurker that I am, think about her sometimes.  I always enjoy Lucy and as someone with a strange autoimmune disease, I have a kindred fondness for RIP (I've been drinking beer so I'm blanking on her current name).  

I'm going to go with cock, definitely cock

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 0:02:06 GMT -5 @courtneyloves said:

What happened to your husband? My worst nightmare is that mine would die. You don't have to answer this, obviously, if you don't want to. i'm really sorry for your loss. You sound like you are doing pretty well, all things considered.

I'm going to go with the short answer...car accident

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 0:02:29 GMT -5 JayhawkGirl said:

What's your favorite summer drink?

If you had 20 minutes to yourself, what would you do?

I'm in a whiskey phase right now, so this summer I've been drinking a lot of Gold Rushes which is whiskey, lemon, honey and a little bitters.  I don't like sweet stuff.  I also am digging moscow mules.  But it gets fucking hot where I live so I drown myself in lots of ice cold water.  

Right now I'm talking to strangers on the internet.  Lately I've been doing that a lot via OKCupid, it's like my new hobby.  

[Deleted]

Why did it take you over eight years to post?

Why now?

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 0:15:57 GMT -5 intentionalsnarkshark said:

Oh man, OKCupid is so addictive isn't it? I always felt like I was a few clicks away from landing on the profile of the man of my dreams. Er, well, okay so I was actually aiming for wicked hot and somewhat coherent. But still. Love that place.

If you hit a run of creepers and it starts to bum you out, then I highly recommend Instagranniepants on IG. The way she handles douchebags is glorious.

it is addictive!  Then I met this guy and he wanted to be exclusive and asked me to shut down my profile.  He is turning out to be kind of an ass with baggage so I'm missing my random man conversations right now. 

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 0:18:57 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Why did it take you over eight years to post?

Why now?

I have been posting all along (this is a more recent screen name), I am just always a day late and dollar short on the conversations so I have been easily overlooked.  

[TrickyBob]

Who were you before?

[sonrisa]

Aug 18, 2014 23:55:13 GMT -5 bubblywater said:

Aug 18, 2014 23:47:13 GMT -5 Jermys said:

You can say fuck here. We like it.

Also, hi!

shhhh...this is supposed to be a safe place, pretend you don't know me and don't judge me for what you learn here  But, I know you are cool like that and this might make you like me more  

Do you know Jermys? Really, honestly, met in person know jermys? Because that would overcome my deep seated skepticism. 

[Jermys]

Hey girl hey (heart)

Also, FUCK YES to getting some strange. Sometimes you need some hot and dirty in your life!

[Jermys]

Aug 19, 2014 0:34:20 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Aug 18, 2014 23:55:13 GMT -5 bubblywater said:

shhhh...this is supposed to be a safe place, pretend you don't know me and don't judge me for what you learn here  But, I know you are cool like that and this might make you like me more  

Do you know Jermys? Really, honestly, met in person know jermys? Because that would overcome my deep seated skepticism. 

She is legit.

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 0:34:20 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Aug 18, 2014 23:55:13 GMT -5 bubblywater said:

shhhh...this is supposed to be a safe place, pretend you don't know me and don't judge me for what you learn here  But, I know you are cool like that and this might make you like me more  

Do you know @jermys? Really, honestly, met in person know jermys? Because that would overcome my deep seated skepticism. 

I for reals know Jermys, we live on opposite sides of the country so it has been a virtual friendship but we go way back and even exchange Christmas cards every year I'm legit

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 0:35:36 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Hey girl hey (heart)

Also, FUCK YES to getting some strange. Sometimes you need some hot and dirty in your life!

I'm so sad we missed our opportunity to hang out!!  Damn my complicated life

[Jermys]

Aug 19, 2014 0:39:02 GMT -5 bubblywater said:

Aug 19, 2014 0:35:36 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Hey girl hey (heart)

Also, FUCK YES to getting some strange. Sometimes you need some hot and dirty in your life!

I'm so sad we missed our opportunity to hang out!!  Damn my complicated life

We were no fun anyway.  Although my sickies are fully recovered now that we're home.  Jerks.

[trixiedicksnatch]

Hi.

I'm sorry about your your losses.

Not to be crass but get all the booze and dick you can, it sounds like you deserve it.

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 0:46:36 GMT -5 trixiedicksnatch said:

Hi.

I'm sorry about your your losses.

Not to be crass but get all the booze and dick you can, it sounds like you deserve it.

Thanks!  I do deserve it, I just make sure it only happens when my kid spends a weekend with the grandparents.  

[Mrs.Rad888]

Man, sorry about your losses. You definitely deserve some good dick.
Are you comfortable telling us the general area you live in? 

[bubblywater]

Aug 19, 2014 1:47:16 GMT -5 Mrs.Rad888 said:

Man, sorry about your losses. You definitely deserve some good dick.
Are you comfortable telling us the general area you live in? 

I live in Northern California