Well I have 3, but it was two pregnancies lol. I know we are done for several reasons, H is even having a vasectomy next week, and yet, I still sometimes wonder if I am done. But when I really sit back and think about our lives and what we want for the future I know we are done. I have said this several times on here, I think the issue is that I get a little sad that I will never experience the excitement of pregnancy and birth and a tiny baby again. And for me, it was all over in less than two years, so very quickly. I always thought I would have 4 or 5 kids too. But then I grew up and realized life is expensive and if we want to do all that we want with our children and provide for them as we want we need to be done with 3.
Post by pierogigirl on Aug 20, 2014 11:38:54 GMT -5
We have 2 boys. If we weren't so old (in our 40's), we would have considered a third. However, the terrible twos have hit DS2 hard, and right now 2 is all I can handle. A third would cause some financial strain, also.
We are two and done, even though we have an "imperfect" combo of two girls. Physically I don't think I could deal with another pregnancy (I get migraines for months on end--not an exaggeration--when pregnant), and two kids will be much easier than three for us financially. I also look forward to having a family with two elementary/middle school aged kids (no babies or toddlers who need to nap, are in diapers, etc. etc.) so we can go out and do activities and take vacations that we wouldn't want to do with a younger child. Having two instead of three will give us a few more years to enjoy that time in our family (before we have ornery teenagers who don't want to be seen with us in public, lol).
H has a vasectomy scheduled in just over two weeks. So we are really REALLY done.
Post by blueberry10 on Aug 20, 2014 12:23:27 GMT -5
Pretty sure we'll be done with 2. I think H always pictured having more (he's one of 4), but it would be tough financially, and I'm not sure I'd be good at handling a third. Also, I'm not quite AMA yet but a third pregnancy would push me into that territory - nothing wrong with it, but it's probably not what I want.
I produced an heir and a spare, so I am officially done.
I thought that I would like to have three children. Then I had one and barely survived his first colicky six months of life. I finally felt emotionally ready for another child and just knew that I was done at two.
I gave away all of my baby gear and clothes to my brother this spring and haven't looked back. I did have one good cry packing up the itty bitty clothes, but I feel free and 110% sure in my decision.
Post by Velar Fricative on Aug 20, 2014 12:28:58 GMT -5
Well, since we're talking about it, I'd love the chance to be a mother to a son so that's a big reason I'd be happy if #2 is a boy, but then DH mentioned he'd like #2 to be another girl (I damn near fell out of my chair when he said that) so that they could share a bedroom and bedroom #3 could be their playroom until they decide they want their own rooms. Then I said, um, we could have that arrangement if #2 is a boy too but he thinks it's really weird for a brother and sister to share a room. My brother and I shared a room until we were 8/10 so it doesn't phase me at all.
But he also doesn't like his sister, so there's that too lol.
I'd be thrilled with another girl though. I didn't have a sex preference for #1 and it does look like ultimately I won't have one for #2 either.
I have two boys and part of me is done. The other part of me always imagined having a daughter. It's weird to miss a person who was never born. I know that's flammable on here. MH definitely wants one more. We are going to wait until DS2 turns 2 and discuss then.
I get this. I always imagined having three, but now that I know how much work only one child is, I think we'll be done with two. It makes me sad sometimes that I'll never meet the #3 I'd always imagined, even though the child doesn't and probably won't exist. Lol How's that for convoluted?
Post by formerlyllizzyb on Aug 20, 2014 13:04:37 GMT -5
Provided all works out with this pg (currently 19w with a girl), I'm done. I'll have a boy and a girl, about 3 years apart. That just seems perfect to me.
In my dream world I have more, but logistically I just don't see more than two.
Absolutely, unequivocally, 100% done at two. I have ZERO doubts. I wasn't sure I even wanted a second, but am thrilled to be PG. I do not like the idea of being outnumbered by my kids LOL. Plus we would "need" a bigger house and car. We juuuust bought the house! Regardless of whether baby #2 is a boy or girl, we ARE DONE.
I knew I wanted 3 and I didn't feel even close to being done after 2. I did feel 100% done after #3 though. I had a little moment last month where I wished we would have had 4 (that ship has sailed), but it only lasted for like a day and then I was back to being 100% done with 3. I think it was just because my youngest turns 3 this year and I've never had a child turn 3 without also having an infant.
We will be two and done. My doctors have recommended no more children and I am perfectly fine with that. However, upon learning that I am having another boy everyone who doesn't know my medical condition has immediately said oh, I guess you'll have to have a third and hope for a girl. Grrrr.
I'm about 99.98% sure I'm done with two. I have a boy and a girl and I think that's enough. However every once in a blue moon I get a quick thought in my head about how it would be neat to have a 3rd. Usually it goes away when I think of being pregnant for 9 months and all the fun that entails.
See, I'd like to be pregnant and give birth again. I'd even like to do the first year again. It's the part where I have to help them be functional members of society that I don't want to (probably) do three times.
Post by iheartbanjos on Aug 20, 2014 14:17:12 GMT -5
We're 2 and done. DH could easily be talked into a 3rd, but I'd rather quit wanting more than thinking that we had too many, lol.
I missed the posts yesterday about going from 1 to 2 kids, but adding a baby into our mix was a great fit for our family, so fun and a bigger blessing than I could have imagined. Maybe a third would be even better, but no way will we chance it.
We are two and done. I had my tubes tied. I get annoyed when people say something that indicates it was ok for me to stop because I have one of each, but if I had two boys, I would have kept going. We didn't know what DD was until after I signed the consent form for the tubal.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Even before we were married we were settled on two kids (except of course if number 2 was twins). My brother said well now you have the "perfect family" (boy and girl) so you don't have to have anymore. My mother in law said she was "disappointed" that number 2 was a boy because she wanted us to "keep going". Either way we were done at 2, neither one of us could have cared any less about the sex of the kids.
The only way I would ever consider a third is if I had two boys first. I know people hate that and I would NEVER ask anyone with two boys if they would try for a girl, but I so deeply feel for me personally that I was meant to be a mother to a daughter. Luckily this is moot since DD was first so now we're 100% done at two!
Yeah, I am the same way. Probably flameful, but if hypothetical #2 is a boy I will push harder for #3. I know people hate the "one of each" comments but FOR ME that's ideal (I would never say it to anyone though!)
We have 5yoDD and 2.5yoDD. DH goes for his vasectomy consult on Monday. Whee! As much as we'd love to have a boy (or a third girl), we just can't start over. These two are kicking our butts over here!
I already feel guilty dividing my time between the two. Plus I'm 35, which is approaching my personal age limit. Add in college, activities, summer camp, travel, skiing, etc. I can't fathom having a third. I know there can still be "oops" babies with vasectomies, but I suppose we'll cross that bridge if we come to it. I'll probably leave my iud in for a few more years just in case!
Post by teatimefor2 on Aug 20, 2014 15:11:14 GMT -5
We think we are done with two, but sometimes we think about a third. I have ten weeks left in this pregnancy and we agreed that we would discuss it again when this baby is six months, so next April/May.
I would love a daughter and if we end up with one of each, I think we will stop. If we end up with two boys, we may think about it more. Honestly, we just aren't sure. If time and money were not an issue, I think we might have four!
The only way I would ever consider a third is if I had two boys first. I know people hate that and I would NEVER ask anyone with two boys if they would try for a girl, but I so deeply feel for me personally that I was meant to be a mother to a daughter. Luckily this is moot since DD was first so now we're 100% done at two!
Yeah, I am the same way. Probably flameful, but if hypothetical #2 is a boy I will push harder for #3. I know people hate the "one of each" comments but FOR ME that's ideal (I would never say it to anyone though!)
Growing up I always told people two kids, a boy then a girl. It's my ideal!
I waffle between being OAD and wanting 2. Prior to having kids, we wanted 2. Now after seeing how difficult (and expensive!) one is, I'm not sure I want to have more. I'm counting the days until he's in school full time so I can go back to work, and I wouldn't want to have to start that all over again. (I don't make enough money to cover daycare/nanny, so it makes sense for me to stay home with the kid(s) for now)
I'm done with two. We never even entertained three. Part of it is resources (we can't live the life we want to live with another kid, plus I really feel strongly that you replace yourself in the world and don't add more stress to the resources), part of it is sanity. I'm happy with my two girls, don't feel like I need a boy to be complete and am thrilled to be moving into the next stage of life
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”