Only a few times, like once or twice. I remember one time for certain. I was 8 I think so my sister was 6. My sister and I were being complete assholes in the back of our van. Fighting, throwing stuff, screaming. My dad was driving (mom in the passenger seat) said if we didn't stop he was going to spank us. Then one of us threw a random object and hit him in the head. He pulled over and spanked us on the side of the road.
Post by teatimefor2 on Sept 16, 2014 20:28:27 GMT -5
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That I remember once and I was older, 13 or 14. My dad was so upset he spent the rest of the night in the garage. His dad use to hit him with a belt and he swore he would never do it to his children.
We had a huge argument, I remember it clearly. I was so mouthy with attitude. Not saying he was right, but that neither one of us was right. It was more of a push on my bed and I will never forget his face, he was mortified with himself. It just shows how hard the cycle is to break.
I remember overhearing him telling my grandparents (his parents) that if they touch one of us or hit us with the wooden spoon they would never see us again.
Yes. Spanked by my dad for being "sassy" and other transgressions. My mom slapped me a few times. Last time when I was 15 maybe? MH was never spanked and we don't spank our kids. Though it scares me sometimes how my first reaction is to spank or react physically when my toddler does something like spit on me. I have been able to control myself but I'm angry that my parents instilled that in me. It's frustrating to be the one who has to break the cycle. Whereas MH doesn't have the same impulse.
Post by humpforfree on Sept 16, 2014 20:31:54 GMT -5
Nope. Swatted on my hand once when I was like 3. Still remember it.. My dad would just threaten it later on, knowing full well he wouldn't "have" to do it. I was a goody two shoes
Very occasionally, it didn't bother me and I distinctly remember telling my mother that as she was whacking me. ha.
My dad smacked me on the face once as a teen when I was hysterical. That had a much bigger impact. I must have been out of my mind, because he is totally argument adverse.
Post by lauralala on Sept 16, 2014 20:34:23 GMT -5
Yes, with a belt, a paddle, a hand, whatever was around. Spanking was my parents go-to discipline, and it definitely edged into what would be considered abuse now.
Yes. Spanked by my dad for being "sassy" and other transgressions. My mom slapped me a few times. Last time when I was 15 maybe? MH was never spanked and we don't spank our kids. Though it scares me sometimes how my first reaction is to spank or react physically when my toddler does something like spit on me. I have been able to control myself but I'm angry that my parents instilled that in me. It's frustrating to be the one who has to break the cycle. Whereas MH doesn't have the same impulse.
My sister and I have been talking about our childhood a lot lately. Just tonight we spoke about how difficult it can be in the heat of the moment, when you know your parent's ways were wrong, and you have to really pause and reflect on what's right. Following their path, IMO, is the easy way out, but not the right path. I don't want to hit, but man, not seeing appropriate behavior modeled can cause an internal struggle because we have so much to learn.
No. My mother is deeply opposed to all forms of physical discipline. My father likely could have gone either way, but it is a hill to die for my mom, and I don't think he fought it (he would have lost).
My H was never spanked either, so it never even occurred to us to use it as a form of discipline for our kids. None of our siblings that have had kids thus far spank either. But my mom is already worried that my brother's wife (who was spanked herself) will want to spank their (not yet conceived) children. She says it is the one thing she knows she won't be able to keep her mouth shut about.
Post by imojoebunny on Sept 16, 2014 20:39:27 GMT -5
It is interesting to read people's definitions of spanking. To me, spanking is a swat on the but with an open hand, though I was spanked as a kid with a belt, but not hard, not enough to leave a welt/mark.
No wonder some of you get all up in arms about spanking, breaking a wooden spoon, slammed against a wall. That's not spanking, that's child abuse.
Yes, but rarely. The worst was the soap in mouth. I will never ever ever do that to my kid(s).
My mom typically employed the punishment-fitting-the-crime technique. So when I scratched my sis because I was mad at her, my nails were trimmed super short (to the quick). When we siblings fought, we were forced to stand there hugging for 5 minutes or whatever.