I'm not sure. My H had had some issues is the past with alcohol and doesn't drink anymore. When we dated we both drank socially, but his progressed to a problem after we were married. 2 DUI's later, he is now been sober for 3 years. It's an ongoing struggle and takes a toll on everyone involved. Now, if I met my husband while he already had the DUIs and his issues with alcohol, I'm not sure how I would have approached it. It's a tough call.
He seems to have his life in order and hit his rock bottom. It really depends on what kind of person you are and if this is something you can get past. It's good that he has acknowledged it and talked to you about it instead of hiding it. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
Post by shopgirl07 on Sept 20, 2014 12:00:55 GMT -5
I don't think so. People make mistakes and it sounds like he's learned from them and turned his life around, which is admirable. But I just don't want to be with a recovering alcoholic or addict. I would always be waiting for the other shoe to drop.
In my younger days I would say yes (and I did date men with colorful pasts and at the time lives)
Now, I could not date someone with criminal past and has done time in jail. The older I get, the more choosy I get. I believe it's very easy to get back in that lifestyle.
It's good that he's being open and honest about it BQQ. At least you know and aren't led in blind.
I say no but in reality if I became friends with this guy and really liked him I would probably rationalize it and date him. Then if he ever reverted back(he probably wouldn't) I would kick myself for not listening to my gut feeling.
Ik I'm over analyzing it but it has happened to me before where I have gotten mad at myself for giving someone a chance and it ended with me getting hurt.
This is possible in any relationship.
Of course, but clearly his past is giving her a pause. If she looks past it and he ends up having a relapse if it were me I would be extra upset with myself for getting involved with him.
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Post by speckledfrog on Sept 20, 2014 13:50:11 GMT -5
I'm sure there was a time in my life where I would have said yes because I wanted to show how breezy I was, but at this point I would want something much easier for myself. My dad has been sober since I was 10 and he is an admirable man. It can certainly be done, but I don't want to put on the time or effort. How old is his kid? What is his relationship with his ex like?