Do you feel like you have to pick up the tab for friends and family? We make more than a lot of our friends and I feel like we pick up the tab a lot - not for normal dinners out, but we will visit and bring take out and not have them pay us back. I'm glad we can do it, for the most part, but sometimes get annoyed that I feel like I "have" to. I realize this probably makes me an asshole.
Ohh, another question if you are still taking them. What do you do for yourself (like alone/me time) since your husband works crazy hours and you don't have help?
Like post-bedtime? I have friends over for dinner or wine. Or I binge watch trashy tv. Or I I'm a pretty active member of another mom's group. Or I took around here. Normal stuff. Or sometimes I'll get a sitter and I'll go out with friends. I want to get back into yoga to try to carve out regular time for myself.
Ohh, another question if you are still taking them. What do you do for yourself (like alone/me time) since your husband works crazy hours and you don't have help?
Like post-bedtime? I have friends over for dinner or wine. Or I binge watch trashy tv. Or I I'm a pretty active member of another mom's group. Or I took around here. Normal stuff. Or sometimes I'll get a sitter and I'll go out with friends. I want to get back into yoga to try to carve out regular time for myself.
Thanks! It seems like we are in very similar situations (well, minus a zero or two) and I have a hard time with what to do with myself when my husband works so much. I keep saying I would get into yoga when I got the kids in preschool.....last year.
Ok, so I read the post on page 2, Ugh, I had no idea that would make this kind of money. For what age group? Is this a charge hourly type of thing? This requires 12-16 hour days? For rich kids? grad students?
All age groups, but typically starting in high school. It's hourly, not salaried. Very, very rich kids. Yes, grad stuff too.
My BIL just started doing this. His co (DC based) charges $250/hour. I presume that's peanuts compared to your H's. He's making in 20 hours/week more than his FT teacher job paid.
Now if he starts making $$$$ like your H (highly doubtful), I know my H will have an aneurysm.
Ohh, another question if you are still taking them. What do you do for yourself (like alone/me time) since your husband works crazy hours and you don't have help?
Like post-bedtime? I have friends over for dinner or wine. Or I binge watch trashy tv.
I have no idea what your H does but can you please share some professions of your equally wealthy friends ?
I need to push my kids into those. Starting now at 6 months.
Hahaha. This made me laugh! Most of my neighbors are in finance-- hedge funds or private equity. Big law partners. Ummm what else. Physicians-- a ton of doctors in private practice here don't accept insurance.
Hahaha. This made me laugh! Most of my neighbors are in finance-- hedge funds or private equity. Big law partners. Ummm what else. Physicians-- a ton of doctors in private practice here don't accept insurance.
So do people pay 100% cash then? People actually choose to see someone who doesn't accept their insurance? When they could see someone who does? This boggles me. Yowza.
All age groups, but typically starting in high school. It's hourly, not salaried. Very, very rich kids. Yes, grad stuff too.
My BIL just started doing this. His co (DC based) charges $250/hour. I presume that's peanuts compared to your H's. He's making in 20 hours/week more than his FT teacher job paid.
Now if he starts making $$$$ like your H (highly doubtful), I know my H will have an aneurysm.
Thanks for sharing!
One of my BFFs from college used to teach at a fancy prep school in CT. Since having a baby she has tutored rich kids and helped them with their college applications on a part-time basis, and she still makes more then she did teaching. Not 212 level money, but six figures.
So do people pay 100% cash then? People actually choose to see someone who doesn't accept their insurance? When they could see someone who does? This boggles me. Yowza.
Yes, then submit to their insurance in an attempt to receive the standard out of network reimbursement rate.
You choose that because of the level of service. Immediately returned phone calls, smaller practices (read: fewer patients), more one-on-one time with your doctor. My OB and pedi don't accept insurance-- but my OB is my friend, so that is a different setup. I chose my pedi after interviewing so many and he was just the one I clicked with the most, and he happened to practice close to our old apartment. It sucks that he doesn't accept insurance, but he's been an invaluable resource for me, so no regrets.
My BIL just started doing this. His co (DC based) charges $250/hour. I presume that's peanuts compared to your H's. He's making in 20 hours/week more than his FT teacher job paid.
Now if he starts making $$$$ like your H (highly doubtful), I know my H will have an aneurysm.
Thanks for sharing!
One of my BFFs from college used to teach at a fancy prep school in CT. Since having a baby she has tutored rich kids and helped them with their college applications on a part-time basis, and she still makes more then she did teaching. Not 212 level money, but six figures.
In the right market, it's a hidden gem of potential. Such a random job-- except that with the right set up it pays, yo.
Like I said before, I love that H's profession makes us fly under the radar. When I sit around mommy and me class, no one is counting our money when I say what he does.
So do people pay 100% cash then? People actually choose to see someone who doesn't accept their insurance? When they could see someone who does? This boggles me. Yowza.
There are a lot of doctors that are going to "concierge" service - in DC too.
Ok, so I read the post on page 2, Ugh, I had no idea that would make this kind of money. For what age group? Is this a charge hourly type of thing? This requires 12-16 hour days? For rich kids? grad students?
All age groups, but typically starting in high school. It's hourly, not salaried. Very, very rich kids. Yes, grad stuff too.
Interesting! So does he concentrate on certain subjects? or is it everything?
Also, does he make $$$$ because he owns a company that does this or is he doing this all himself and just charges a $$$$ hourly rate?
So do people pay 100% cash then? People actually choose to see someone who doesn't accept their insurance? When they could see someone who does? This boggles me. Yowza.
Yes, then submit to their insurance in an attempt to receive the standard out of network reimbursement rate.
You choose that because of the level of service. Immediately returned phone calls, smaller practices (read: fewer patients), more one-on-one time with your doctor. My OB and pedi don't accept insurance-- but my OB is my friend, so that is a different setup. I chose my pedi after interviewing so many and he was just the one I clicked with the most, and he happened to practice two blocks from our old apartment. It sucks that he doesn't accept insurance, but he's been an invaluable resource for me, so no regrets.
Wow- I didn't even realize this was a thing/possible! Thanks!
I lost. He thought it was "tacky" and it was insanely expensive. He also says I'm fickle about house stuff, so I'd hate it in a year. LIES. We got a Sputnik Elliptical Chandelier from RH instead. I only like it. My heart was really in the gummy bears.
I've never heard of Chihuly, but I'll check it out!
There's a Chihuly exhibit at our botanic gardens (Denver) right now. It is SO cool! You should really consider his work. It's amazing stuff.
Is the gummy bear chandelier made out of real gummy bears or is it glass/some other material?
Post by badtzmaru22 on Sept 23, 2014 19:16:30 GMT -5
I keep coming in here, and it's still going. You rock, 212. My favorite part was you saying you and your H grew up together in your relationship. You sound like good people.
I feel creepy reading all this though. Lol. But whatever. I like wine. Come up to the Finger Lakes, and we'll hang.
I keep coming in here, and it's still going. You rock, 212. My favorite part was you saying you and your H grew up together in your relationship. You sound like good people.
I feel creepy reading all this though. Lol. But whatever. I like wine. Come up to the Finger Lakes, and we'll hang.
We really did! I could tell you stories of the insanity of the early years. Thankfully we turned out all right.
I’m joining the chorus of appreciation for this thread. Thank you! This is all so fascinating to me.
If I haven’t missed the boat, forgive me if anyone asked this already, but do you and your husband ever fight about the time he spends [doesn’t spend] with you and your son? My husband and I bicker about how much he works, and his hours aren’t nearly as bad as your husband’s! I realize we all have different needs, tolerances, etc.; but this is really an extreme. When I read that he also runs marathons, my eyes grew to the size of dinner plates. I really don’t see how there are enough hours in the day for that, let alone a wife who’s okay with it.
I see you call him names, but it appears to be in jest. And I understand you’re looking for PT help. But that’s only about relief for yourself. Do you ever just lose it over the fact that he chooses to spend his time as he does? I’m feeling a little guilty for ever giving my husband a hard time! Eek.
OK, I'm calling it. Your H is a super human. Dang! He is definitely a driven, focused guy. I love that he loves what he does and clearly works very hard. It sounds like you are incredibly supportive of him, too. Cheers to you both, and I mean that with all sincerity.
I try. But between you and me and an entire message board of strangers, fuck the marathon. It's hard to watch him walk out the door to train, but I know it's what he needs. But fuck. Sucks.
I'm just coming in here again to say fuck the marathon, indeed. But hey, hooray for husbands who take care of themselves.
I’m joining the chorus of appreciation for this thread. Thank you! This is all so fascinating to me.
If I haven’t missed the boat, forgive me if anyone asked this already, but do you and your husband ever fight about the time he spends [doesn’t spend] with you and your son? My husband and I bicker about how much he works, and his hours aren’t nearly as bad as your husband’s! I realize we all have different needs, tolerances, etc.; but this is really an extreme. When I read that he also runs marathons, my eyes grew to the size of dinner plates. I really don’t see how there are enough hours in the day for that, let alone a wife who’s okay with it.
I see you call him names, but it appears to be in jest. And I understand you’re looking for PT help. But that’s only about relief for yourself. Do you ever just lose it over the fact that he chooses to spend his time as he does? I’m feeling a little guilty for ever giving my husband a hard time! Eek.
I'm not perfect. I definitely have moments of extreme frustration-- but those typically come during times he says he's free, then changes his plans last minute. Or on the rare occasion that we get to eat dinner at a normal hour and he takes a phone call. We bicker about it sometimes, but honestly, we've been together for 14 years. I knew when we spoke of having children that I'd be largely solo-parenting. I've lived this life for a long time. It's not normal, but it's my normal, you know? If he was suddenly around all the time it would be a major adjustment because we're both so accustomed to this life. Like I said, the coming years and the possibility of more children may change things. He is really, really taken with our son in a way that I didn't... expect? If anyone can get him to slow down, it's that kid.
The marathon is a different beast. I hate it and I'm most snippy around this time of year when training and work are just insane. He knows this, which makes it even more frustrating when year after year, he ignores my pleas. But objectively, he really needs it. It's his mental break, his release, his bottle of wine and trashy tv. So I try to not be a total asshole about it. But man, it is so fucking hard.
I try. But between you and me and an entire message board of strangers, fuck the marathon. It's hard to watch him walk out the door to train, but I know it's what he needs. But fuck. Sucks.
I'm just coming in here again to say fuck the marathon, indeed. But hey, hooray for husbands who take care of themselves.
I just read a book about a teacher in Manhattan who tutored rich kids. She got paid $250 an hour. Then $2000 for random reading books and helping out kids with their homework. It was a fiction and I assumed it was exaggerated. There was a mention of someone getting paid $750 an hour.
Manhattan is a special place. There is really no such thing as exaggeration. No absurdity is too absurd.
Post by rugbywife on Sept 23, 2014 20:33:34 GMT -5
Honestly, mostly I just think that you seem WAY more down to earth than some other GBCN posters who have lots of money (but likely less than you) …I mean, I don't give a shit how people spend their money, you just seem more 'with it' in terms of how the rest of the world lives in the same world as those of you who are rolling in it, which is refreshing.
edited TWICE for poor syntax…this is why I am not an educator who makes as much as your DH, lol.
I'm not perfect. I definitely have moments of extreme frustration-- but those typically come during times he says he's free, then changes his plans last minute. Or on the rare occasion that we get to eat dinner at a normal hour and he takes a phone call. We bicker about it sometimes, but honestly, we've been together for 14 years. I knew when we spoke of having children that I'd be largely solo-parenting. I've lived this life for a long time. It's not normal, but it's my normal, you know? If he was suddenly around all the time it would be a major adjustment because we're both so accustomed to this life. Like I said, the coming years and the possibility of more children may change things. He is really, really taken with our son in a way that I didn't... expect? If anyone can get him to slow down, it's that kid.
The marathon is a different beast. I hate it and I'm most snippy around this time of year when training and work are just insane. He knows this, which makes it even more frustrating when year after year, he ignores my pleas. But objectively, he really needs it. It's his mental break, his release, his bottle of wine and trashy tv. So I try to not be a total asshole about it. But man, it is so fucking hard.
But the marathon story where you tell him you are pregnant is my favorite. That was so cute. Not everything about a marathon can be bad if it made that story.
I understand what you are saying though. I am married to a workaholic who also wants to have activities. His is golf.
You're right. That was a great memory. Thanks for reminding me in the midst of my rage! (heart)
Golf. Not only a time suck, but a major money suck. :N:
So do people pay 100% cash then? People actually choose to see someone who doesn't accept their insurance? When they could see someone who does? This boggles me. Yowza.
Yes, then submit to their insurance in an attempt to receive the standard out of network reimbursement rate.
You choose that because of the level of service. Immediately returned phone calls, smaller practices (read: fewer patients), more one-on-one time with your doctor. My OB and pedi don't accept insurance-- but my OB is my friend, so that is a different setup. I chose my pedi after interviewing so many and he was just the one I clicked with the most, and he happened to practice two blocks from our old apartment. It sucks that he doesn't accept insurance, but he's been an invaluable resource for me, so no regrets.
Yes this is totally a thing now. Some docs are just frustrated with insurance companies and some just cater to higher end clients. See:
I'm not perfect. I definitely have moments of extreme frustration-- but those typically come during times he says he's free, then changes his plans last minute. Or on the rare occasion that we get to eat dinner at a normal hour and he takes a phone call. We bicker about it sometimes, but honestly, we've been together for 14 years. I knew when we spoke of having children that I'd be largely solo-parenting. I've lived this life for a long time. It's not normal, but it's my normal, you know? If he was suddenly around all the time it would be a major adjustment because we're both so accustomed to this life. Like I said, the coming years and the possibility of more children may change things. He is really, really taken with our son in a way that I didn't... expect? If anyone can get him to slow down, it's that kid.
The marathon is a different beast. I hate it and I'm most snippy around this time of year when training and work are just insane. He knows this, which makes it even more frustrating when year after year, he ignores my pleas. But objectively, he really needs it. It's his mental break, his release, his bottle of wine and trashy tv. So I try to not be a total asshole about it. But man, it is so fucking hard.
But the marathon story where you tell him you are pregnant is my favorite. That was so cute. Not everything about a marathon can be bad if it made that story.
I understand what you are saying though. I am married to a workaholic who also wants to have activities. His is golf.