I so want to be a fly on the wall during this weekend trip with everyone. My husband is fairly livid with this kid and he is NOT afraid of saying anything or hurting the kid's feelings. My husband does have fun pushing people's buttons so it would be quite amusing to watch.
Ask him to do it before they go so you can enjoy it. And then post the conversation here, word for word. Because as I've been reading these updates, all I want in life is for someone to tell him in no uncertain terms what a selfish, lazy asshole he's being, and how unspeakably rude he's being to his friend. That poor girl. She's so lucky you're there to save this from being the worst vacation she's ever had. I hope she never speaks to him again after this.
Ha. The man child is already gone. He went with his daddy to another country yesterday morning......after again refusing to speak to his friend or make up with her after treating her like shit on her birthday. I seriously think he's mad that she hasn't fallen deeply in love with him since you know, he took her to London. And then got even madder when she finally got some balls and did what she wanted instead of waiting for him to stop pouting.
Oh, and she really didn't want to share a room, but he told her he wasn't sure he was allowed to sleep on my couch, so just let him sleep in the room (on a very small not even a double bed) that first night and he would ask me the next day. Yeah, I had already told her that either one of them was welcome to the couch and the living room even has door. And he never asked me anything.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 17, 2014 2:04:24 GMT -5
Oh, and I forgot to say that I wouldn't be able to post the play by play of the weekend because I bailed out of this horrific trip weeks ago. I knew it was going to be a clusterfuck even before I met the man child so I said I wasn't going. They had over two months to plan this weekend trip and just planned it Monday.....therefore costing my husband about 150 GBP more than it should. I will be at home (with the kids) brunching with Rock-n-Voll. It will be lovely.
I hope that the girl (really - woman if she is 27! i have been mentally picturing a 17 year old for some reason) comes out of this experience a bit less timid and more worldly. And, I can NOT believe your MIL lied to you about her coming along!!!!!! WTF is up with that!?
Oh, and she really didn't want to share a room, but he told her he wasn't sure he was allowed to sleep on my couch, so just let him sleep in the room (on a very small not even a double bed) that first night and he would ask me the next day. Yeah, I had already told her that either one of them was welcome to the couch and the living room even has door. And he never asked me anything.
OMG. Pressuring her into sleeping with him in basically a twin bed, with his parents in the other room, because he "wasn't sure". What a creep. So who has been sleeping on the couch?
They slept in the same bed until her birthday when SHE slept on the couch. He then left so we washed the sheets and she slept in the bed. He will be sleeping on the couch when he returns for two nights next week.
Set up MAC filtering so only your device secretly connects and his iPad won't. If you PM me I'll be happy to walk you through the setup.
Oooohh, can you send me instructions? I would want my iPad, macbook air and my husband's iPad to connect, but not the rest of the clan. Can I do that?
Yup, basically you get to pick and choose which specific devices have the right to connect to the router, so even if they have the network password it won't work. Plus it'll look like it's their device malfunctioning since yours still connect.
I'll send you PM instructions in a few hours once the baby is sleeping, but first can you send me the make of your router and Mac operating system version? You'll also need to find the MAC addresses on those devices (there might be a sticker with network card information on your macbook). On the iPad you want to go to settings - general - about, and look for "WiFi address" if I remember correctly.
ETA: also I can't believe man child is such a jerk to the guest HE invited to YOUR house.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 17, 2014 17:20:29 GMT -5
So the latest update. I'm in bed, but I can hear my MIL upstairs talking to the girl basically telling her that's just the way men are and she should get over it and go off with the man child on their excursion alone. Yeah, because all men are supposed to treat everyone around them like crap.....hhhmmmm, who has the messed up view here?
So the latest update. I'm in bed, but I can hear my MIL upstairs talking to the girl basically telling her that's just the way men are and she should get over it and go off with the man child on their excursion alone. Yeah, because all men are supposed to treat everyone around them like crap.....hhhmmmm, who has the messed up view here?
So the latest update. I'm in bed, but I can hear my MIL upstairs talking to the girl basically telling her that's just the way men are and she should get over it and go off with the man child on their excursion alone. Yeah, because all men are supposed to treat everyone around them like crap.....hhhmmmm, who has the messed up view here?
omfg. This poor girl is traveling with a group of crazies. I hope she isn't too scarred for life by this experience.
Next week should be quite interesting. I may need a large quantity of alcohol to get through the rest of the visit.
You need to counteract your MIL who apparently gives terrible advice! You are quite actually eligible for sainthood after this houseguest disaster, too!
Next week should be quite interesting. I may need a large quantity of alcohol to get through the rest of the visit.
You need to counteract your MIL who apparently gives terrible advice! You are quite actually eligible for sainthood after this houseguest disaster, too!
Yeah, I was telling the poor girl that she doesn't need to put up with him as a friend or anything. She just needs to make it back to the States and then doesn't ever have to speak to him again. My MIL doesn't have the best track record for dealing with dysfunctional relationships.....and I told the girl as much. I can't wait to hear how today went. All I heard was that they made it to their destination and that the man child was being nice.......to whom, I don't know. My husband sucks at responding to texts.
Post by tacosforlife on Oct 18, 2014 14:35:22 GMT -5
You are awesome for taking her under your wing during this trip.
I went to college far from home and often relied on friends' parents for help with various things. I have never forgotten their generosity. I guarantee you this girl will remember you fondly for years and be grateful someone so wonderful crossed her path.
You are awesome for taking her under your wing during this trip.
I went to college far from home and often relied on friends' parents for help with various things. I have never forgotten their generosity. I guarantee you this girl will remember you fondly for years and be grateful someone so wonderful crossed her path.
Your ILs, OTOH, are fucking nuts.
Yes, I am just doing what I would hope people would have done for me in this situation. She was lied to also as she was told they asked my husband and I if she could come (before they booked their tickets) and we said it was fine. She did say she wondered why I was a little cold to her when she arrived. Ooops. Didn't really mean to be like that. I hope that she does remember it as an overall good experience.
Yes, my MIL and the clan are nuts. Hence why we live so very far away from them and generally don't go back. I flat out told my husband I would divorce him before moving back to his hometown.
The best part is that my MIL is the most sane of the in law bunch.
That is not good news. We need a support group! LOL.
Yeah, the only reason I don't have FIL stories to match your stories are because we don't have a whole lot of contact with him. Plus, my husband has a brother and sister who live within 15 minutes of him so he gets out the crazy on them instead of us.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 20, 2014 9:45:19 GMT -5
So no great stories from this weekend. My husband did make the stupid comment that the girl was a little cold to the man child even after he was carrying her bag. Yeah, husband, carrying one bag for not even a whole day does not make up for several days of asshole behavior.
Oh, but he did go up the Eiffel Tower.....wasn't afraid of heights on that one....get this......because its an iconic landmark. Yeah, that makes a whole lot of sense. And he keeps texting his dad about hockey all today. I'm guessing the girl isn't having much fun if he is spending all his time texting.
I kept wondering why this thread was still going. So glad I read it to find out what a saint UnderProtest is dealing with these folks, and taking the girl under her wing. I hope she hops on a train to Scotland or ferry to Ireland or something for the rest of her trip. Good luck to her!
And my money says the man-child gets back to the states whining about how boring Europe was. Either that, or he is a lying liar and sells it to his friends as the best thing ever and how cool he was bc he went to Europe. I almost married a guy who would have done b.
Post by UnderProtest on Oct 20, 2014 11:50:48 GMT -5
And just when I thought I was done. So the MIL and fiance are here and things are going fine.....until the kids go down for their nap. Then my MIL and the fiancé plop themselves on my couch, turn on the tv (the only one in the house) to some stupid news program, and promptly fall asleep. I mentioned going upstairs to nap, but no, they have to take up the whole couch in the family room and the only tv in the house. So now, I'm hiding in my room watching netflix and playing on the internet.