Some dumbass lady asked if Auberge was the nanny, implying that she did not appear "appropriate" whether in age or skin tone to be the children's mother.
Both are offensive, but the second one is offensive and racist.
I'm not trying to be an ass but I have no idea what you are looking for with this question? I'm not even sure I understand the question.
It's my whole point, LLL. The arbitrement was made that if it is a white mother with a black baby, the speaker could have been complementing the mother's age, but in the case of a black mother with a white baby, the only thing that could have been meant was that she was the help, and therefore the comment was racist.
If you don't get it after alllllll this, I don't know that there's anything that could make you understand
I'm not trying to be an ass but I have no idea what you are looking for with this question? I'm not even sure I understand the question.
It's my whole point, LLL. The arbitrement was made that if it is a white mother with a black baby, the speaker could have been complementing the mother's age, but in the case of a black mother with a white baby, the only thing that could have been meant was that she was the help, and therefore the comment was racist.
and the point everyone else is trying to make is that the OP and others felt as though the comment was racially insensitive. regardless of intention, there is background, experience and history to make OP feel the way she did about the interaction. Others have chosen to validate, commiserate or support. You have chosen to provide an alternate explanation or argue intent. Not helpful.
It's my whole point, LLL. The arbitrement was made that if it is a white mother with a black baby, the speaker could have been complementing the mother's age, but in the case of a black mother with a white baby, the only thing that could have been meant was that she was the help, and therefore the comment was racist.
are you trying to imply that we are racist for thinking that woman's comment was racist?
What the what? No. Stop reaching and trying to turn this into something it's not.
Then your grandma is a racist. Because she is asking inappropriate questions based solely off of her racially distored lens of assuming black women don't have light babies based on her own assumptions from being surrounded by same race families. There, ends fucking meat.
No. It's not racist to not imagine an interracial family. It is racist to assign a lesser worth/standing to a family because it is interracial.
Say what now? Not being able to imagine an interracial family isn't racist?
I'm not trying to be an ass but I have no idea what you are looking for with this question? I'm not even sure I understand the question.
It's my whole point, LLL. The arguement was made that if it is a white mother with a black baby, the speaker could have been complementing the mother's age, but in the case of a black mother with a white baby, the only thing that could have been meant was that she was the help, and therefore the comment was racist.
But there's a whole cultural/societal context in which the comment was made. You can't ignore that. Like, at all.
Which is WHY it was racist directed at a black mother and wouldn't be directed at a white mother. As has been explained ad infinitum.
It's my whole point, LLL. The arbitrement was made that if it is a white mother with a black baby, the speaker could have been complementing the mother's age, but in the case of a black mother with a white baby, the only thing that could have been meant was that she was the help, and therefore the comment was racist.
and the point everyone else is trying to make is that the OP and others felt as though the comment was racially insensitive. regardless of intention, there is background, experience and history to make OP feel the way she did about the interaction. Others have chosen to validate, commiserate or support. You have chosen to provide an alternate explanation or argue intent. Not helpful.
Just one last thing, my first post was offering support, and suggested the same response Miso did many posts later, turning it around with a response if, "Why do you ask?"
It was only when this turned into a discussion on racism that I continued with that topic.
Some dumbass lady asked if Auberge was the nanny, implying that she did not appear "appropriate" whether in age or skin tone to be the children's mother.
Both are offensive, but the second one is offensive and racist.
I'm not trying to be an ass but I have no idea what you are looking for with this question? I'm not even sure I understand the question.
It's my whole point, LLL. The arguement was made that if it is a white mother with a black baby, the speaker could have been complementing the mother's age, but in the case of a black mother with a white baby, the only thing that could have been meant was that she was the help, and therefore the comment was racist.
From a societal and historical standpoint, the comment, to a black woman specifically, is racist because it implies a black woman is "less than." You're right in that maybe this specific woman didn't mean it that way, but that doesn't change the fact that the comment itself is racist. Just like "I jewed him down" is racist. My dad said that, just the other day. Do I think my dad is a racist asshole? No. But he did make a racist comment. Did I jump all over him, accusing him of being a racist asshole? No. But I did tell him, "Uh, dad? You really shouldn't say that," and explained why. He had no idea; had never really thought about the phrase and where it came from. Ok, that's fine, but the comment is still racist and he shouldn't say it.
Some dumbass lady asked if Auberge was the nanny, implying that she did not appear "appropriate" whether in age or skin tone to be the children's mother.
Both are offensive, but the second one is offensive and racist.
Is there any drama you are capable of avoiding?
RIGHT? If everyone gave her the side-eye on the epic catfish thread , think folks are going to forget in here? Please.
Post by meshaliuknits on Oct 21, 2014 12:29:05 GMT -5
Dude. No. People aren't asking if I'm my baby's nanny after they've heard her yell "MAMA!" across the park to me because I look young. They are asking because this black woman cannot possibly be the mother to that darling blue eyed ginger child.
This whole conversation is kind of like, "I don't see color." On another day I'd jump in with both guns blazing, but I can't today. I don't have the energy for this today.
Girl I'm taking my happy black ass to Mickey D's. In the esteemed words of GrandmaNugget, she ain't never gon' learn.
Some dumbass lady asked if Auberge was the nanny, implying that she did not appear "appropriate" whether in age or skin tone to be the children's mother.
Both are offensive, but the second one is offensive and racist.
Some dumbass lady asked if Auberge was the nanny, implying that she did not appear "appropriate" whether in age or skin tone to be the children's mother.
Both are offensive, but the second one is offensive and racist.
Some dumbass lady asked if Auberge was the nanny, implying that she did not appear "appropriate" whether in age or skin tone to be the children's mother.
Both are offensive, but the second one is offensive and racist.