Post by mellimel19 on Oct 22, 2014 12:05:14 GMT -5
I don't think I'd want to go on a trip that long without DH & DD, but I'd certainly do it for a shorter amount of time. I know DH'S family would have A LOT to say about it (they told me I was so lucky that DH "babysat" V while I went to a concert. *cue eye roll from me*), but we'd both be fine with it.
I took 10-day work trips before DD was born, and will probably do so again when she is older. I also took a 10-day leisure trip with my mom last year, but I probably wouldn't do that again now that we have DD.
Post by electricmayhem on Oct 22, 2014 12:16:55 GMT -5
I couldn't do 10 days, b/c even with daycare, DH's work schedule doesn't work with their dropoff / pickup hours. The max I could probably get is 6. But I have no problem traveling alone and he's taken one (4 day) leisure trip in the past that we handled just fine.
ETA: I should add that I would only take this hypothetical vacation during the summer months, b/c the time I accrue during the school year is strictly enforced as "sick" only.
Logistically I think it would be really hard to make this work. I SAH with DD and she only has preschool 9-11 on Tu/Thu, so H would have to find care for her the rest of the time. My mom could help, but then it's putting a burden on him and my mom.
Emotionally, I'd have trouble with it. I've done a few girls trips (with friends or my mom/sister), but they've all been one night. I could definitely do 3-4 and be ok with that, but 10 seems... excessive for us.
Not that I would bat an eyelash or judge people that do do this.
No, I wouldn't want to. It's not that I can't be away from H or my kid that long, but I'd rather spend the time/money for that long of a trip with my family. We have each enjoyed a long weekend away with friends, no problem.
Yes but not with one of the kids being an infant. I did leave DH for a week with a 15mo old & 4yr old...I was semi annoyed his entire family flew out to CO from VA to help him. I mean, he's a big boy...on the other hand it was nice of them. Now they live here & he still gets help (dinner cooked, kids watched) when I'm gone. I think it's all well meaning but it'd be nice if he for once got a taste of what it's like to be me for more than a couple hours...I take all the kids alone for 2-4+ weeks a year damn it. No one really even helps me as much as he gets even when I give birth. :::bitter, party of 1::::
I absolutely plan on doing this to go to India once DS is weaned. This is DH's birthday present to me for my 40th next year, although the weaning issue means I may not take it the minute I turn 40.
DH has zero interest in ever going to India and while I've traveled a lot with DD solo, this just isn't the kind of trip I can picture doing with kids. I will, however, be traveling with both children solo (no DH) for a month next summer.
Post by leonard131 on Oct 22, 2014 13:15:20 GMT -5
For work it isn't really a thought. If I have to go I have to go. Thankfully I haven't had a trip that long but H is fine with it. It would be hard but doable.
I also would for pleasure if the right opportunity came up. We have talked about me going on a Safari with my dad (H has all ready been on one) in the next year or two as this is his dream trip and my mom isn't physically able too.
On the flip side we also talked about H doing a trip to Ireland and Scottland with his Dad and brothers and I am fine with it.
Of course as of yet none of the trips have actually happened. We do have good friends whose H takes an annual trip somewhere exotic for his hobby and he is gone 2 weeks and has always done it. It is an individual thing and what you are comfortable with.
Sure I would, when the kids are older. Right now, DS2 is all about me, and DH has a hard time wrangling them together (not because he's not competent; because they are a toddler and a preschooler and DH has a limited number of go-to activity options that he's comfortable with. These totally work for 2-3 days, but not for 10).
Post by ilikedonuts on Oct 22, 2014 13:20:17 GMT -5
We could both do this because both sets of parents are around the corner and our moms SAH (and I SAH), but neither of us would want to.
I could see myself doing a 3-4 day trip with friends, but never by myself. DH wouldn't want to do it either way. I would be fine if he did a 3-4 day trip.
Post by stacyb1983 on Oct 22, 2014 13:27:01 GMT -5
I voted no because I am still breastfeeding. I could see maybe for work, but not a vacation. Maybe a long weekend on my own, but not 10 days at this point. The last solo trip I took was when my grandmother past away and I traveled to CA on my own for the memorial. I was gone for 3or 4 days. DS was 2. I could see myself taking a longer trip away when they are older.
I don't hate my H enough to make him solo parent our kids and their eleven billion activities for that long.
We haven't discussed logistics, but I assume my H would outsource whatever he needed to in order to get through the week, much as I do when he's not around.
Post by stealthmom on Oct 22, 2014 13:36:39 GMT -5
Absolutely!
We both take the kids to visit our respective parents and leave the other at home. I'd do the opposite too. 10 days would be long for me but I'd LOVE a week. That would be perfect for me at this point.
Some of you have reading comprehension fail... I sure hope no one is still breastfeeding their child when they're 16 The poll asks if you'd ever take such a vacation. The variety of answers are interesting!
I don't hate my H enough to make him solo parent our kids and their eleven billion activities for that long.
We haven't discussed logistics, but I assume my H would outsource whatever he needed to in order to get through the week, much as I do when he's not around.
We have my parents helping out and still have spots where there isn't enough adult help to go around.
No. DH can't get off that long, and getting back up child care for 3 is extremely difficult. I don't think either of us would want to. DH has talked about certain work trainings that are OOT, but he has said he would want to wait until the kids are older.
Post by jeaniebueller on Oct 22, 2014 14:46:03 GMT -5
While they are under age 8-10? Nope. I wouldn't want to leave them that long--even with my H, mostly because I don't want to be away that long. I have no issues going away for a girls weekend or a shorter period of time.
I voted yes, but like @this I was considering it a solo vacation in that I am without H or C, but not completely by myself. H would easily have it covered, probably more easily than I would! That said, I doubt I would actually plan anything that long without him/them, but a few 3-4 day trips? Hell yes.
I went to Vegas (SIL's bachelorette) for 3 days when DD was 7 months and am going to China for work for ~9 days next month (she will be ~9 months). I would not take a personal vacation longer than a weekend without my family because I would miss them too much and don't want to spend the $$$ without them. My h has never traveled without me and he doesn't want to travel without dd either. It's just not his thing and I'm the planner, etc. He has no problem with me going though. My parents stay with us and help watch dd so he wouldn't be solo parenting anyways. That would be a totally different beast.
I've done 7 days, in Europe, for a conference. It was long, and about the max I would do. I don't think I'd do a long vacation without them (maybe a weekend?) but this was work related
Oh we do the tit for tat "owing" thing over everything, not just vacation. It's both ridiculous and awesome. lol
I get a HH after work one night? DH gets a night off even if it's just a home. I watch her for two hours while DH goes to lunch with a friend on Saturday, he watches her for two hours on Sunday while I can get a pedicure.
Our memories are steel vaults full of tallied up IOU banks. LOL
I totally do this, but unfortunately DH doesn't. I offered to take the girls to the park so he could have some quiet time. He told me that he appreciated it, and I said No biggie - I like to be owed. Then I got a lecture about how that's not what a relationship is about. Yada yada. Whatever buddy.
It would not be okay for either of us to go on a 10 day solo vacation right now, absent very extenuating circumstances, like going on a last wish sort of trip with a dying parent or something. I don't know how we will feel when the kids are older.
Either of us would make do if the other had a necessary 10 day work trip. H takes 2-5 day trips pretty much every week, but rarely 10 days at a time.