If you don't want to report her, then talk to her privately and be up-front about it. Tell her that what she said to you was disrespectful, and you expect more courteous communication from her in the future. Tell her that if it continues to be a problem, you will report it to her supervisor. That way, she has warning and you won't feel as bad if you do have to report her in the future.
I had to do this with a subordinate recently, and he's been pretty respectful ever since.
Post by aussiecrush on Oct 23, 2014 11:00:49 GMT -5
There's no reason for her to act like that and you haven't done anything to deserve it. Period. Being nice to clients is only half her job, and you aren't the one responsible for her keeping it.
My head is spinning for you on this, and yet I almost want you to send the email so that cville comes to kick your ass. I'll pick her up from the airport.
To be fair, I would not save you a bagel either. But I also wouldn't have been a snatch about anything.
Really? I would have. I would have bought her a special one and kept the cream cheese cold for her. Why? Because I've never had a job without having my eye on a better job higher up the chain and it never hurts to grease the wheels. People need to learn that going above and beyond for your own benefit doesn't make you a hopeless ass kisser.
But what if someone else, a peer of Farmville's, also wanted the bagel? Or if another person wanted the last sesame one and asked her to hold it for her.
I would prefer to say, I can't really hold it for you but I can give you a quick call when the bagels get here so that you're able to get your favourite.
To be fair, I would not save you a bagel either. But I also wouldn't have been a snatch about anything.
Really? I would have. I would have bought her a special one and kept the cream cheese cold for her. Why? Because I've never had a job without having my eye on a better job higher up the chain and it never hurts to grease the wheels. People need to learn that going above and beyond for your own benefit doesn't make you a hopeless ass kisser.
I wouldn't eat a special bagel with cream cheese of questionable origin from a coworker. Not when there are other bagels available for the group.
Really? I would have. I would have bought her a special one and kept the cream cheese cold for her. Why? Because I've never had a job without having my eye on a better job higher up the chain and it never hurts to grease the wheels. People need to learn that going above and beyond for your own benefit doesn't make you a hopeless ass kisser.
But what if someone else, a peer of Farmville's, also wanted the bagel? Or if another person wanted the last sesame one and asked her to hold it for her.
I would prefer to say, I can't really hold it for you but I can give you a quick call when the bagels get here so that you're able to get your favourite.
Right. But you wouldn't have gone full SnotFace with "It's bagels."
But what if someone else, a peer of Farmville's, also wanted the bagel? Or if another person wanted the last sesame one and asked her to hold it for her.
I would prefer to say, I can't really hold it for you but I can give you a quick call when the bagels get here so that you're able to get your favourite.
Right. But you wouldn't have gone full SnotFace with "It's bagels."
God. I really want a bagel for lunch now.
Oh no I would not have. Her delivery makes her a douche.
Also, let me say this. The aggressive jerkwads like this are always, ALWAYS the first to back down if you give them the staredown of death. Seriously. One well-placed "excuse me?" with a raised eyebrow and they backpedal like a mofo.
People like this only do this shit to test the waters. They're hollow.
I'm not sure on reporting her. What would that accomplish, exactly? It seems like it is a problem directly between you and her. You already said you don't want her fired, so, again, what is the point of reporting versus directly handling the situation?
This thread is annoying the crap out of me. Buck up little camper. She was an asshole, call her out. Even if you don't report her, I would definitely let her know that she was unprofessional and you expect her to be courteous and professional in your future dealings.
I am breezy and pansy now. Previously I was a real asshole as a “boss” (at last firm).
You guys are getting me all confident again lol! I’m going to tell my boss and see what he says. He’ll prob just say to leave her alone and ignore her.
We are both non-confrontational but also super passive aggressive.
Farmer, dude, not only was she rude, unprofessional, and out of line, but she did it IN FRONT OF A COWORKER. Like, "Look how big my shitty balls are." Fuck her and the bitchy horse she rode in on. Email her supervisor.
I'm not sure on reporting her. What would that accomplish, exactly? It seems like it is a problem directly between you and her. You already said you don't want her fired, so, again, what is the point of reporting versus directly handling the situation?
You report petty bitches through proper, documented channels. To confront a petty bitch is to validate her petty existence. These are people who earnestly believe they have haters, and say things like, "people either love me or hate me." They're only to be engaged by the most basic of individuals. Or HR I suppose.
I would have taken the stuff out of the envelope, handed it all to her, and said get this in the mail for me, please. Next time just hand her what needs to go out with the address on a post it note. Then she can ship the stuff and knows exactly what envelope to use.
If I report her and she loses her job (which I don’t think she would) I’d feel like a shitbag. I really cannot risk that.
I think I will just ignore her. =X
DO NOT feel bad. Everyone knows I work HR and am therefore heartless but I am being objective here when I say she needs to be reported. First I SERIOUSLY doubt she is going to get fired over that, especially when her boss loves her and she is nice to clients. This ho needs some coaching ASAP. Additionally if she does get fired , it's a life lesson for her. We can all benefit from life lessons.
You report petty bitches through proper, documented channels. To confront a petty bitch is to validate her petty existence. These are people who earnestly believe they have haters, and say things like, "people either love me or hate me." They're only to be engaged by the most basic of individuals. Or HR I suppose.
Very good point :Y:
They also wear hats that say "Hi Haters!" (without irony, of course).
I am breezy and pansy now. Previously I was a real asshole as a “boss” (at last firm).
You guys are getting me all confident again lol! I’m going to tell my boss and see what he says.have a nice conversation with her boss He’ll prob just say to leave her alone and ignore her.
We are both non-confrontational but also super passive aggressive.
I'm a pansy but I would still go to her desk and say "is there some sort of problem you have that needs to be aired out?" She will likely say no and act sweet as pie and then never act like that again.
I was an executive assistant and shipped shit all the time. I never would get this kind of attitude with the architects. It's just senseless bitchery.
There was another executive assistant that decided she hated me so when she would be a bitch I would raise my eyebrows and laugh at her with at "whatever you say!" Like i thought she was BSC. It was eventually noticed that she was such a bitch and she ended up on the layoff list and I did not. I would do that. You have nothing to be embarassed about and you did nothing wrong that she has to explain. She's crazy and should be treated as such.
This girl is jealous of you Farmer. Clear and simple. She also has an issue with being your subordinate and by "knowing more" about shipping she felt superior for one fucking millisecond. Same thing with the bagels. She has a complex and needs to be called out.
Also, Fed Ex and Fed Ex Ground ARE two separate things yes, but she should have arranged a pick up for you the second that box landed on her desk. Because ya know.....that's her fucking job.
Post by nonsensetomfoolery on Oct 23, 2014 11:36:58 GMT -5
Totally Team Farmer.
But, don't you bet that she is telling her people something like- OMG! This one chick at work always wants special treatment. She pouted when her favorite kind of bagel was gone and then actually asked me to SAVE it for her next time- like I have time to be the bagel police- AND this morning she was acting all confused about how to fedex something so I would do it for her. Please!
She is such a bitch and people like that never see how their behavior comes off to others. I usually find you have to confront them and let them no they can't talk to you any sort of way and then they are fine.
Previously I was a real asshole as a “boss” (at last firm).
I highly doubt that! But I'm glad you're summoning your confidence. I bet having a little chat with her will solve the problem. Serenity9 and CurlyQ284 phrased it better than I did.
I don't think you've heard about farmer's toast preference