I'm trying to decide my level of rage. Please help.

[bania]

How upset would you be, if your DH decided to transfer the last year's worth of photos from your computer to his computer; but lost ALL OF THEM while doing so?  That's what happened.  Sure there were lots of selfies (who cares), random photos of things but there were things like puppy photos and TONS of photos of last Christmas spent with my ENTIRE family which hasn't happened in approx 10 years. Of course, all of the holidays and random photos with friends also.  

I understand it was a mistake but it's hard for me to be forgiving when he BLAMES ME for taking too many photos.  He says he "had to transfer them because I was running out of memory."


 

[Eagles]

For me? Level Set His Hair on Fire.

[Deleted]

Level Blinding Rage for sure.

[waffletime]

Pretty pissed. This is why you copy them over, not drag/cut/whatever, and make sure they've transferred before you delete them. 

[cuddlyevil]

Oct 24, 2014 11:34:55 GMT -5 Eagles said:

For me? Level Set His Hair on Fire.

This. Only stbx is bald, so it'd have to be leg hair.

[zoomzoom]

Oh shit I'd be pissed. Why couldn't he have just put them on a thumb drive?

[wambam]

I would be super upset.

[sequins]

That's terrible. I would be really upset.

[cereal K]

Oh. Oh no.

I would be so, so pissed. And upset.

It would probably be cold-shoulder for a couple days, but then what do you do? If they're gone, they're gone. I'm sure he didn't do it on purpose.

I would also suggest to him that he buy you a back-up hard drive with a nice bow on it. And maybe a new camera for good measure.

[bania]

Oct 24, 2014 11:35:42 GMT -5 waffletime said:

Pretty pissed. This is why you copy them over, not drag/cut/whatever, and make sure they've transferred before you delete them. 

Right? This is what I would have done.  Simple. Or better yet, don't fuck with my photos.  

[Deleted]

I'm super hoardish with photos because of my childhood and I would probably make him pay for a long time.

[Serenity9]

I would be sad but not pissed about losing them - mistakes happen - but not being apologetic and blaming you? Yeah, that's where I'd lose it.

[Deleted]

Can you take your computer somewhere to see if they can recover the images for you? They might not be gone gone.

[BaliHai]

Level Silent, which is almost the deadliest.

Oh, and this would be due to his blaming me more than the loss of the photos. Oh buddy. Ohhh buddy.

[dexteroni]

I would be fucking livid that he did it without telling me first so I could make a backup. But really, you should have had a backup system in place anyway. You never know when a hard drive will suddenly shit the bed. But the lack of backup doesn't excuse your DH in any way. Why is he futzing with your computer anyway? You can handle your own memory issues.

ETA: And blaming you for his fuckup? No fucking way.

[jinkies]

Earlier this year I thought I lost about 500 pictures from my phone. I don't think it's overstating to say I was devastated.

If it had been someone else's fault, my rage would have been swift and blinding.

[WOT?*]

Oct 24, 2014 11:37:46 GMT -5 Serenity9 said:

I would be sad but not pissed about losing them - mistakes happen - but not being apologetic and blaming you? Yeah, that's where I'd lose it.

This, except I'd start at pissed and raging, ramp down to highly upset and then eventually calm to sad and weepy. But he sure as heck better be apologetic and NOT blaming me for his lack of care and regard.

[bania]

Oct 24, 2014 11:36:55 GMT -5 cereal K said:

Oh. Oh no.

I would be so, so pissed. And upset.

It would probably be cold-shoulder for a couple days, but then what do you do? If they're gone, they're gone. I'm sure he didn't do it on purpose.

I would also suggest to him that he buy you a back-up hard drive with a nice bow on it. And maybe a new camera for good measure.

Yes! I'm going to get myself an external hard drive where I can put all the photos I want on it and he can't touch it.  He fucks around with things all the time and this is the last straw.  

[zoomzoom]

Oct 24, 2014 11:38:05 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Can you take your computer somewhere to see if they can recover the images for you? They might not be gone gone.

My mom accidentally deleted a bunch of photos from her SD card and they were able to recover a lot (not all) of them.

[bania]

Oct 24, 2014 11:38:05 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Can you take your computer somewhere to see if they can recover the images for you? They might not be gone gone.

It's a new laptop  We gave the old laptop away.  I didn't notice the photos were gone until last night when I was searching for one on his computer.  

[revolution]

I'd be mad, but not super pissed. I would be pissed he was blaming me.

Any chance your favorites are on FB or instagram?

[bania]

Oct 24, 2014 11:38:05 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Can you take your computer somewhere to see if they can recover the images for you? They might not be gone gone.

It's a new laptop We gave the old laptop away. I didn't notice the photos were gone until last night when I was searching for one on his computer.

[bania]

Oct 24, 2014 11:42:22 GMT -5 revolution said:

I'd be mad, but not super pissed. I would be pissed he was blaming me.

Any chance your favorites are on FB or instagram?

Yes, thank god for instagram. I don't use facebook much anymore but there are a few on IG.  

[dexteroni]

Oct 24, 2014 11:38:05 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Can you take your computer somewhere to see if they can recover the images for you? They might not be gone gone.

That's a really good way for her DH to attempt to make this up to her. He can take it tomorrow!

[Deleted]

See, my H does that shit where he fucks up and blames me. I hate hate hate it. That makes him deleting your pics doubly bad. He owes you.

[dexteroni]

Oct 24, 2014 11:42:16 GMT -5 bania said:

Oct 24, 2014 11:38:05 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Can you take your computer somewhere to see if they can recover the images for you? They might not be gone gone.

It's a new laptop  We gave the old laptop away.  I didn't notice the photos were gone until last night when I was searching for one on his computer.  

Wait, what? He lost all your photos and didn't tell you? You just had to find out yourself? omfg.

[grayskies]

Oct 24, 2014 11:36:44 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

OMG

I live in fear of losing my photos.

This. Ugh, I would cry. I hope there is some way to recover them.

[berbles]

Oct 24, 2014 11:38:27 GMT -5 BaliHai said:

Level Silent, which is almost the deadliest.

LOL I see what you did there.  

[Mrs.Rad888]

Oct 24, 2014 11:45:51 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

Oct 24, 2014 11:42:16 GMT -5 bania said:

It's a new laptop  We gave the old laptop away.  I didn't notice the photos were gone until last night when I was searching for one on his computer.  

Wait, what? He lost all your photos and didn't tell you? You just had to find out yourself? omfg.

And then blamed her for having too many photos!

[pagas]

Are you sure they aren't somewhere else? I would be so rage filled.