I was the second girl, and my baby book is all full of letters that are like, "We're SO SORRY, we know how much you wanted a boy this time!" Partially for that reason, I knew my mom was overjoyed when she was "finally getting a boy" in her grandson. Otherwise no one seemed to care. :-)
Post by gibbinator on Oct 24, 2014 17:05:30 GMT -5
I know Mil was mildly disappointed both times because she's always wanted girls and ended up with 3 boys herself. She knows we're only having 2, and her other sons live on the other side of the country. She's never said anything and loves my kids, but I know she wishes one of them had been a girl.
I think both MIL and FIL were slightly disappointed. Now that DD is here, they are thrilled. My parents were so excited we were having a girl, and DH stated from the beginning he wanted a girl first. I wasn't sure I believed him, until the a/s, when he started happy crying.
my dad was really pulling for a granddaughter, i think mostly because he loved having me and i'm an only child so girl is all he really knows. but when i called to tell them it was a boy he was elated and hasn't stopped spoiling the kid since. no one else has spoken a word of preference either way.
My parents and ILs made no secret of the fact that they hoped my second would be a boy. This is one of many reasons I was team green. Lots of random strangers also compliment me on now having a girl and a boy. I find their comments very strange.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Oct 24, 2014 19:49:54 GMT -5
People are weirdos about everything. We have one of each, and still got all manner of comments ranging from "good for you! You got the million dollar family!" To stuff like "one of each! You're done now!" Yeah, we are probably done, but it has nothing to do with having one of each.
I do think SIL was jealous we had a girl though. And I think my own sister is jealous we "got" the first boy on our side. Whatever. I'm not walking around like farmvillelover 's relative, going "neener neener!!" to people. That's messed up too!
No disappointment over the sex, but I know I've mentioned before that my mom's response to "I'm pregnant!" was "Wow. I need to digest this."
She didn't get excited about it for a long time, and I didn't even tell my parents the sex until they finally asked.
Sometimes I forget how she acted because I'm quick to forgive and forget, and then I remember it. And now that I"m a mother, it is more mind-boggling than before. I can't understand why she behaved that way. I could cry all over again thinking about it.
Today she goes on for hours and hours about how beautiful, sweet, and perfect my daughter is. Oh yeah? You like her? Maybe you should try digesting it some more.
That's horrible! Did she ever say why she needed to "digest" it?
Post by cricketwife on Oct 24, 2014 21:06:01 GMT -5
Several family members made comments that they were disappointed. It was hard b/c we were trying to get over our own disappointment and then had to deal with their comments on top of it.