I just got my oldest dd a dress for her Sadie Hawkins dance. She loves it and it cost me $4.50. I refuse to get carried away on fancy dresses until she her high school prom.
I ask because a few posters on CEP seem to think that wearing thrift-store clothes means your child will be teased "probably mercilessly" and will essentially resent you for it. I'm trying to imagine KHC being able to even remember where I got his clothes. He doesn't even ask.
I asked my dd about that. I told her she could just tell people I picked it up for her. If you don't tell them where you got it they won't know. She said she doesn't care. She likes a bargain as much as I do. She had one friend pick on her about it and imply that we were poor. Eventually that same friend apologized.
I just got my oldest dd a dress for her Sadie Hawkins dance. She loves it and it cost me $4.50. I refuse to get carried away on fancy dresses until she her high school prom.
My girls love the goodwill.
According to CE&P, they only say that to make you happy while they cry themselves to sleep at night. I bet you only have one ply tissues in the house too.
Well, I guess that could be true. But she was taking pictures and sending it to her friends. I do buy two ply tissue though. LOL
I don't know how the thrift stores are in your area, but in my area there aren't really name brand things and you can definitely tell you bought them second hand (for the most part).
If people are buying things that look obviously used and second hand, IMHO, they're doing thrifting wrong.
Good quality and name brand things do exist in thrift stores, trust me, they make up like 70% of my wardrobe lol. It does take some effort finding them, no denying that.
I have no issues with buying second hand items in good condition. When I have kids I'm sure I'll buy them previously owned/worn clothing. They go through stuff so quickly, it just makes sense. And I do think thrift stores/consigment/discount retailers are a bit different than back in the 80's when I was a kid. There more focus today on reduce, reuse, recycle while the 80's was very much about conspicuous consumption.
That said, I'm also not going to judge a (formerly homeless) woman who comes into some money, for spending it on new stuff instead of only buying second hand. Shopping at thrift stores can take a lot of time sifting through to find the good stuff. And sometimes kids want something new. I don't see anything wrong with that either. Contrary to what a few judgy people in that other thread think, $300 on clothing per month for a family of four is not a crazy amount of money to spend when they're basically starting with nothing.
Yes. Not so much now because preschoolers wreck/wear out clothes, but definetely before. I'm actually going this weekend to find myself a winter jacket for this pregnancy. Judge away!
Shunning people for clothing labels seems very after school special to me. I'm not saying it doesn't happen in other regions, but it doesn't happen where I live. Maybe it happens more with girls? The median income where I live is about $48K. Nobody is wearing fancy clothes. This season's blue t-shirt looks exactly like last season's blue t-shirt.
Yeah, I really don't think labels matter all that much anymore. When I was a kid/teenager, I was teased a lot because of my second hand clothes. Hell, they even teased kids for wearing Request brand from Zellers (canadian brand). But I mean, my kids are still super young, so maybe I'm just out of touch. My SIL is 16 and she wears thrifted stuff constantly. It's never been a problem, and believe me, she'd let everyone know of it was. Lol.
I have to admit though that I don't dress the boys in shirts with writing or cartoon characters or sweat pants. If I did, I would never need to buy anything new. I'm picky.
Yeah, I really don't think labels matter all that much anymore. When I was a kid/teenager, I was teased a lot because of my second hand clothes. Hell, they even teased kids for wearing Request brand from Zellers (canadian brand). But I mean, my kids are still super young, so maybe I'm just out of touch. My SIL is 16 and she wears thrifted stuff constantly. It's never been a problem, and believe me, she'd let everyone know of it was. Lol.
We were poor when I was young, my clothes all came from Goodwill, or my mom would sew something simple. There was this bizarre girl, at church, that no one liked (mean kids), and one Sunday we showed up in the same dress. I still remember that feeling today.
Also, when I was about 4/5 my mom sewed me some sundresses for summer. My grandparents had found some sale and bought me a few dresses from a store. I apparently got really excited, then felt bad, and told my mom not to worry, I would wear the ones she made to play in the yard.
Aw, haha. Sometimes I still feel such shame for the way I treated my mom and grandparents when it came time for school clothes shopping. My poor grandma, omg. Lol.
Actually, apparently my mom was a major horsebeast as a teenager when it came to clothes, so my grandma was an expert at dealing with snotty girls by the time my shiny ass rolled around telling her what I would and would not wear.
I love to buy my own clothes at a consignment store. I tarely buy new clothes for myself. There isn't much around for kids, but I love when I can get some used stuff.
They can be. Is this a real question? It is definitely the age group where they start to divide. And you have to have a reason to exclude people from your group. So if they don't wear name brand close that seems like an easily identifiable reason to kick them out. Hell, I have even seen that behavior in elementary school.
Are you (collective ML) really trying to say that kids don't make fun of each other because of their clothes?
My boys' goodwill clothes consist of North Face, Under Armour, Ralph Lauren, Gap, etc. I have about 10 pairs of 7FAMK jeans from my Goodwill. My best heels, Stuart Weitzman, were purchased brand new for $10 with the Nordstom info still on the box. The Goodwill does sell name brand stuff. My most recent find was $8 Coach flats. Seriously, I have the best Goodwill.
I used to all the time, but not anymore. Not only could I not find cute boy stuff but I didn't think the price was worth it. I'd rather spend a couple more dollars and buy what I want.
Hmm. Maybe I should start looking again.
There is a seasonal consignment store this weekend in Yorba Linda where the old Steinmart used to be. Its called up up and away. Went there today and picked up hanna pajamas for 8 dollars.
Post by lilafowler on Nov 20, 2014 20:17:40 GMT -5
No, but only because I buy very few clothes for her. Between my mom and H's family she constantly has new clothes.
Also my parents' next door neighbor has 2 girls and sends a ton of stuff over to my mom. I have no issue with thrifted clothes, but I'm always being given new ones/great condition handle downs so there's no need (at least now).
My boys' goodwill clothes consist of North Face, Under Armour, Ralph Lauren, Gap, etc. I have about 10 pairs of 7FAMK jeans from my Goodwill. My best heels, Stuart Weitzman, were purchased brand new for $10 with the Nordstom info still on the box. The Goodwill does sell name brand stuff. My most recent find was $8 Coach flats. Seriously, I have the best Goodwill.
You're in the Philly area, right? Where is this magical Goodwill?
I have some hand-me-downs but don't shop secondhand. I know we have a Goodwill drop-off near us but I have no idea where the closest store is.
I also would like to know where the magical Philly Goodwill is We have a thrift store near me called Second Ave. They have great tag sales on top of ridiculous prices. It's gross inside but there are deals to be had. I can't even stomach Marshalls and TJ Max and I can tolerate this place, because it's pretty easy to flip through and find good stuff because it's organized so well. I've gotten 7s for less than $5. I see Kut From Kloth, Paiges, Citizens etc. all the time for $7 or less. Just last week my friend snagged a 100% cashmere Vineyard Vines cable knit sweater for $6.
I used to buy a lot of consignment for DD1. But my friend worked at the store and would let me know when something good came in so I got a lot of first dibs. She is in a uniform now so "cool" clothes at school is a moot point.
Most clothes are fairly subtle, right? It's not like there's a big NORDSTRAM/WALMART/THRIFT STORE brand across the chest.
Ever walked into a middle school? It's all A&F and Hollister up in there. In huge letters.
Middle school kids judge everything.
I think there is a disagreement here between "thrift shops" from our childhood (where the quality was crappy and everyone knew you weren't wearing new clothes) and "consignment shops" today when you get designer clothes for (slightly) cheaper.
But you're kidding yourself if you don't think kids judge other kids based on what they are or are not wearing.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Post by badtzmaru22 on Nov 20, 2014 21:39:10 GMT -5
I haven't done the thrift stores really, but in not opposed to them. I've bought and sold a bunch of stuff on FB swap pages though. I got DS a bunch of rompers and the cutest sweater ever for around $2 a piece. I've also done well for him on the gap clearance rack when they do an extra 40% off the clearance price.
I rarely buy clothes for DD. My mom and SIL keep her pretty well dressed, and I supplement with the occasional $5 Hello Kitty t shirt and Target jeggings.
My boys' goodwill clothes consist of North Face, Under Armour, Ralph Lauren, Gap, etc. I have about 10 pairs of 7FAMK jeans from my Goodwill. My best heels, Stuart Weitzman, were purchased brand new for $10 with the Nordstom info still on the box. The Goodwill does sell name brand stuff. My most recent find was $8 Coach flats. Seriously, I have the best Goodwill.
You're in the Philly area, right? Where is this magical Goodwill?
I have some hand-me-downs but don't shop secondhand. I know we have a Goodwill drop-off near us but I have no idea where the closest store is.