Post by Booze Raccoon on Dec 5, 2014 7:44:10 GMT -5
How shitty. I'm sorry. You are enough, he's just being a douche. Don't worry about taking help from your family. We all need help in one form or another. Hugs.
I am so sorry. How horrible and horrifying for you and your DD. Ditto everything carrotsmakemefat said. And you are *more* than enough. Don't let him or anyone else ever let you doubt yourself. I just want to hug you right now.
I'm so sorry, jules. Is this behavior similar to what happened when you separated before? It's unfair and immature for him to up and leave and put it on you when clearly the issues are with him. I sincerely hope you both can work it out. Big hugs.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
I'm so sorry. I hope he comes to his senses and you guys at least get to talk it out all the way. Don't feel badly for taking help-- people want to give it. Your family is there for you. So are we.
It seems to me the issues are with him and rather than work on himself, he just puts the blame on you and runs away like the little boy it sounds like he is.
You deserve a million times better but my heart breaks for you and your DD.
I would not assume all hope is lost at this point it sounds like there is room for help from a therapist if you are both interested and a lot of issues could be corrected. And possibly that he may be depressed and need some help himself. Good luck.
I'm so sorry this is happening. You are absolutely enough, and you should never feel bad about asking for help. It sounds like there are people that love you and have your back. They just want the best for you. It also sounds like he has things that he isn't dealing with, and unfortunately he's laying the blame on you. Know that this is not your fault, he didn't communicate to you how he was feeling, and this is so unfair.
I'm so sorry. This isn't because of anything you did or didn't do. It's on him. And do not feel any shame in accepting help from your family. There is nothing wrong with leaning on them when needed.