So, my husband walked out on us tonight

[mrsjuleshs]

KWe've been together almost 11 years, and he is my daughters "dad" as she had always had a strained relation with her real dad, Dh has always been there for her . Now he Hates work and home life has been crazy since March. Oh and did I notice how often he goes out (well neighbors wife died in March and Neighbor is his bf so yes go out). Well apparently now we are not enough. He hates that dd and I argue, hello she's 15 we are going to argue. But apparently I am in the wrong for letting him watch sports on the tv when he is gone every other week but he's never relayed that I could Change the channel and wants me to come hang out wit him and watch my shows. He deserves a break cause he works his ass off. I'm not enough to not have any expectations on house work or what he watches. I went to pick up my kid from the gym after we had a heart to heart and we will continue this when I get home and we both say I love you and u told him how I can't imagine ever living my life without him by my side. We get home and his truck was gone. Dd asked me where he is and I don't know but told her we had a brief discussion and I don't know where his heart lies. She found his note that said can't do this anymore. I'm at a loss because he sends me flowers and I get texts every day as does she about how much he loves us. My kid is beyond devastated as am I. He's been her dad for over 10 years and I love him with all my heart. I just don't get it. I hate waking up and not having him hear. My brothers lease is up next month and he's volunteered to move in (his snores will have dd in my bed every night) and my parents are paying for dd to go to her cheer nationals competition but I hate being 35 and asking for help. All I have ever done is be here for Dh. And now? I'm totally lost.

Update. Wow I was definitely really emotional last night. He didn't say any of it meanly and was crying while basically telling me he is lonely and miserable because we've all totally checked out on each other. I didn't realize just how much he was hurting. I am definitely at partial blame and yes dd and I's arguements have at times been completely over the top (she and I are working at it and it is getting better). So after he had time to cool off he came home and we both cried and had a good long talk. We both do want to work on it because we do love each other. He broke down and had a good talk with dd and he knows that he's got a road ahead of him to get all of our relationships back in line. We really never spend just us time and hadn't had a date night in probably almost a year which is ridiculous. Spent the day talking and just being together. We finally had a date night and just talked and so we are going to see how we can work on things. It was great just getting back to "us" because our lives have revolved so much around dd and that happens to even the best couples. It's going to be a long road and he's open to therapy for all of us. I didn't go into any details with dd last night other than things have been rough and he was really upset and I don't know how things are going to go. He is considering a few different career options and may just see about changing crews/rigs. So it's a baby steps wait and see. Almost 4 years ago it was my doing mostly because of his work schedule (he immediately quit that job and found this one which does have a better schedule) and I admit I am the worst at communication. So fingers crossed.

[Deleted]

Oh honey. You are definitely enough. ((Hugs)))

[killercupcake]

I'm so sorry.

[imhischeeseburger]

I'm so sorry. ((Hugs))

[Deleted]

I am so very sorry

[Deleted]

We all need help sometimes and shouldn't feel bad for asking.

Much love to you and your daughter.

[renna]

This must be so hard for you and your family. I hope you two can talk things through, regroup and get on a new path. I am so sorry. Your post sounds so painful. I wish I could give you a hug. ((((mrsjuleshs))))

[textbookcase]

I'm so sorry

[G22]

((Hugs))

[aussiecrush]

Holding good thoughts for you and your daughter. I'm so sorry.

[nsuhomer]

Oh man. I am so sorry to hear this. Hugs.

[Deleted]

((Hugs))

I'm so sorry.

[sassycat]

So very sorry.

[runforrest]

I'm so sorry.

[onomatopoeia]

I'm sorry. I wish I had something more helpful to say. sending (hugs) your way.

[ralphlauren]

I am so sorry

[gogadgetgo]

I'm so sorry. (((hugs)))

[8675309]

Communication is soooooooo damn important and it sounds like you guys are speaking 2 different languages. I'm
Sorry he's being An asshole. I don't know what you want from this but as long as you know what you want that's all that matters.

Red flags are waving heavy.

[gretchenindisguise]

Oh Jules, I'm so sorry to hear this.

[sherbanator]

I'm so sorry.

[Captain Serious]

I'm so sorry. Lots of support coming your way.

[winelady]

I'm so sorry.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry. There is no shame in asking for help. Everyone needs it now and then. ((Hugs))

[ooglie26]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Huge hugs to you and your family.

[jigsy]

(((Hugs))) that is all I can offer. It is so hard to hear that your partner isn't in it with you.

[awick14]

((Hugs))

[hungrycaterpillar]

Hugs. I'm so sorry.

[flex]

I'm so sorry. We're here for you!!

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Huge hugs. I'm so sorry. But you ARE enough, don't let anyone make you feel differently

[meganew]

Your family loves you and wants to be there for you, so don't for a second feel bad about that.

I'm so sorry you're going through this : (