Post by redheadbaker on Dec 5, 2014 11:47:09 GMT -5
OK, to all of you "the regs are much smarter than me" lurkers -- I had the same feeling when I lurked on CEP. But they let me join, and have embraced me, and I feel like I have rocks for brains compared to some of them. So start posting! (@soudesafinado I know I'm not a lurker, don't yell at me!)
Wheee! This applies to me. I may have accidently posted here from the new topics page, but I often read your news-related threads because I feel like you guys are knowledgable and well spoken. I don't post because I don't really have anything to add. I watch/read less news than most of you do, I don't wear much make up (and what I wear comes from target), and my bush sitch is woefully average.
that is hard. I know there are a handful of topics where I go against the board majority and I have to be in the right mood to jump in on those. I like to argue though, so I do it anyway.
Besides, it's usually good practice for when I go home and MH brings up the same topic, except he takes the stance to the right of where I was sitting in opposition to the lefty majority here and I end up using all their arguments against him. *mwahahhahaha*
I don't mind people when disagree with me if they're polite about it. I think I have a contrarian streak in my personality and I often seem to have UOs. But I hate when it turns vicious and personal, especially on these boards, because I mostly use them as a way to pass the time (I'm posting from an indoor play center right now and keeping an eye on my kids) so I hate being put in a position to defend my opinion to the death on something that I don't even really care about that much to begin with. I know my questions about that situation were really unpopular so I told that story to four separate people that day and their first question was all the same as mine. It's a sensitive subject, I get that, and none of knows what really happened there. But is it so wrong to discuss and ask questions on these boards? Sometimes it does get a little "group think" ish. I agree with y4m about that.
no? Of course not. I don't think anybody left that thread thinking you were a pro rape culture asshole or thinking less of you. So no, it wasn't wrong to say the things you said even if people disagreed with you.
I have a thick skin I guess, but I didn't think that particular thread got vicious. Argumentative, yes. Heated. Yes. Vicious and personal - ehhhhhhhhh
I mean, I'm one of the closest things we've got here to an anti-gun control person (though that is truly laughable when you compare me to actual pro-gun people) so I know how it goes when people are worked up about something and respond in a heated manner to something you meant as a neutral comment or question. I don't really see it as some sort of huge failing of the board, though it is frustrating as hell in the moment. Short of the majority appointing a single speaker to respond to a minority dissent, there is no way for ANY topic not to have a bit of a pile-on feel when you're the minority. And it's not as if an even 50/50 split is ever going to be common. Everybody chimes in with their thoughts, which means a single post might get 20 replies where 16 vehemently disagree. so that's going to feel like a pile-on, but it's not personal - that's just how message boards work.
I'm not picking on you. At least not trying to. I want more people to participate, but unless we ALL start biting our tongues that requires people to be willing to just roll with it on those occasions where the end up on the minority end of an argument. It's happened to most of the regs here at least once because even if a lot of us agree on a lot of big picture stuff when you get down into the nitty gritty you find a lot of details where we just don't.
I lurk during the day and rarely ever have time to post "in the moment." At night anything I wanted to say earlier has already been said so I don't see the purpose in repeating what someone else already said.
I'm more middle of the road with politics and it seems like I would have to have a huge block of time and be ready for an attack to post sometimes. Other times I am in the by the time I have read the story and posts, my internet time is over boat.
Trust that some of us would be so appreciative to have some new debate and would have your back. We may stay in the shadows mostly, but we do exist.
I'm a scaredy-cat. Y'all are brilliant and well-informed in discussions, so I lurk here for information (usually) and entertainment (occasionally; see Sangria's post which was such a gift this morning).
:: waves at AJL :: (I'm not a total creeper. She and I are on a local board together.)
I'm a scaredy-cat. Y'all are brilliant and well-informed in discussions, so I lurk here for information (usually) and entertainment (occasionally; see Sangria's post which was such a gift this morning).
:: waves at AJL :: (I'm not a total creeper. She and I are on a local board together.)
Post here! Don't be afraid. No one gets nearly as upset and flouncy over opinions as they do where we come from. And people actually discuss issues. It's fun!
I'm a scaredy-cat. Y'all are brilliant and well-informed in discussions, so I lurk here for information (usually) and entertainment (occasionally; see Sangria's post which was such a gift this morning).
:: waves at AJL :: (I'm not a total creeper. She and I are on a local board together.)
Post here! Don't be afraid. No one gets nearly as upset and flouncy over opinions as they do where we come from. And people actually discuss issues. It's fun!
Time. I'm a regular on another board, so my posting time is spent there. But I like to keep up on issues here and use this site basically for my news. I've been around message boards long enough to know that nobody gives a shit what you have to say unless you've put in the time in he community. So if I have an opinion on a random thread here, I won't bother chiming in. No one knows me, no1curr.
Definitely a lurker here. I read a little bit from my phone during the day when I have a couple of down minutes. At night after the kids have gone to bed I tend to catch up on all the big posts and by that time I always feel like everything has been covered.
I am also shy both in life and online. You ladies have done an excellent job making me question my politics and beliefs though . I come from a hard core right wing Fox News loving family and I now find myself disagreeing with their views more and more.
I've been around forever, but apparently need to make myself more known. I have met many regulars IRL, though.
I'm on the West Coast and by the time I get to a thread there's usually somebody that has posted what I would have said. And I'd hate for this to turn into some kind of circle jerk.
I lurk because I am shy, both online and in real-life. Since I started reading messages boards I have been a creepy lurker so posting just feels weird. Plus it is hard enough to read all the interesting posts while working without adding posting on top of that. Plus at this point, I have been lurking so long that I feel like I know who most of you are pretty well and it feels totally awkward to jump in acting like I belong and shit when I know none of you know who I am. And I never feel like I can articulate myself well online and I get misunderstood a lot.
I post once in a blue moon but mostly lurk. I don't post much because a)I'm usually too busy to think of an adequate response and type it out; and b)I don't want to be the annoying dork at a party who runs up to a group of people who all know each other well and is all, "oh hey, what are we talking about?"
I lurk because I am shy, both online and in real-life. Since I started reading messages boards I have been a creepy lurker so posting just feels weird. Plus it is hard enough to read all the interesting posts while working without adding posting on top of that. Plus at this point, I have been lurking so long that I feel like I know who most of you are pretty well and it feels totally awkward to jump in acting like I belong and shit when I know none of you know who I am. And I never feel like I can articulate myself well online and I get misunderstood a lot.
Are you Jade? Are are you... Jayde? ::sinister laugh::
Post here! Don't be afraid. No one gets nearly as upset and flouncy over opinions as they do where we come from. And people actually discuss issues. It's fun!
This is so, so true. (Former local!)
I didn't realize you were a (former) local
M'kay. I will try to find some bravery and jump in, then.
I mean, I'm one of the closest things we've got here to an anti-gun control person (though that is truly laughable when you compare me to actual pro-gun people)
Hey, speaking of that, did you read that cool poem I picked out for you when I did my poetry thread?
I was a real lurker, no account here or anything. I felt intimidated but I'm glad I jumped in even though usually people say what I'm thinking WAY better than I do.
I'm more middle of the road with politics and it seems like I would have to have a huge block of time and be ready for an attack to post sometimes. Other times I am in the by the time I have read the story and posts, my internet time is over boat.
Post by teengirlsquad on Dec 5, 2014 12:53:33 GMT -5
I lurk because I am normally behind, I read at work, but don't always have the time to pipe in. But I read because I am curious about current events and I like to hear other people's perspectives on things.
I also lurk because I am more conservative than the board and I am afraid that y'all might hate my opinions...it is a little intimidating here to have a different opinion. Just being honest.
I am a teacher and can't generally post during the day most days. So I read when I can, but by the time I get to a place at home where I can post, it's night time, and I don't like to bump old threads and there aren't a lot of people around. I'll try harder
I post once in a blue moon but mostly lurk. I don't post much because a)I'm usually too busy to think of an adequate response and type it out; and b)I don't want to be the annoying dork at a party who runs up to a group of people who all know each other well and is all, "oh hey, what are we talking about?"
I'm just going to ditto this. Plus, I'm afraid of saying something dumb and getting flamed.