Oh yes. We had a argument--about UNDERWEAR--resulting from this very thing Sunday morning in which I ended up throwing Little E's socks at him. Not very mature, but pretty funny when I think back on it now. I just launched those little suckers straight up into the air.
Ugh, yeah never. Like, this is probably the most frequent cause of our arguments. He either totally forgets what it is I said, or hears something slightly different and refuses to believe me in what I actually DID say. Now I'm all irritated just thinking about it.
Yes. Worse still is that he will insist, and oftentimes in front of other people, that I didn't tell him something when I did - sometimes even when I had just told him earlier that same day. It makes me crazy.
Post by jellymankelly on Dec 22, 2014 8:25:48 GMT -5
This is also my BF. I've been telling him for over a year that we should get his mom a prepaid cell phone (she lives out in the country, has no long distance, and sometimes drives an hour or more to visit us or his brother). I explained how it works, how we can reload the minutes with cards we buy at Target, etc. We went and looked at phones this past summer. Last week he tells me he's been talking to his sister about getting their mom a phone, like it's the first we've talked about it, and then proceeds to start explaining to me how prepaid phones work...
Yes. It is mortifying when we are out with friends and I'm telling them something about us - like "next year we're going to the beach" or "my parents are coming for Christmas!" - only to have him interrupt me and say "wait, what? I didn't know anything about that!!!" Yes, H, you did. Or at least I tried to tell you.
I heard on the radio last night, that men tune out their wives/SO after 6 minutes of them talking. It turns into white noise. Given my history with H, I believe it. lol
My H does listen most of the time, but he never acts like he is. Drives me absolutely batty. You know how normal people will nod and occasionally say "Yeah" or "Uh huh" or respond with something additional to the conversation? Not my H. It's like talking to a brick wall. Unless it's about something he's interested in, all I get are crickets.
Post by lolobeth802 on Dec 22, 2014 9:01:01 GMT -5
YES, your post is very timely. I hate to be cliche, but it is a guy thing. He can't multitask and I think that includes multi thinking. It's infuriating because sometimes he'll use the "but I didn't know the plan". But you did H, because I told you about it 5 times and it's also in our shared calendar which you could simply check, ya know, once a day.
All. The. Time. Drives me fucking insane. The worst is when I say something, and then 12 seconds later he says the exact same thing, then acts surprised when I tell hin I JUST SAID THAT!
DH did this to me at lunch with friends yesterday. I told a really cute story about DS, we all chuckled. Then DH is like "yeah, and then there was this time when..." and when I gave him FACE, he got sheepish and goes, "...you just told that story, didn't you?" YES. YES I DID.
Me to. It is very frustrating because we will have this whole conversation about it and than he still acts suprised. Maybe I should just text it to him. LOL
Yes, and it's always about stupid stuff that causes an inconvenience.
I can't tell you how many times over the weekend he took my water glass off of the dining room table, kitchen island, or coffee table, dumped it, then put it into the sink. (Already full of dirty dishes, which he hadn't loaded into the dishwasher.) Each time, I politely told him to ask me before dumping my damn drink. Friday, he even dumped my Diet Coke from Wendy's. I rarely drink soda, so this was a huge treat. I saw him about to do it, and was telling him "no, don't dump my drink", and he was all "one sec, I'm busy". He dumped it was I was telling him not to, then turned around all "what were you saying?"
Yes, and it's always about stupid stuff that causes an inconvenience.
I can't tell you how many times over the weekend he took my water glass off of the dining room table, kitchen island, or coffee table, dumped it, then put it into the sink. (Already full of dirty dishes, which he hadn't loaded into the dishwasher.) Each time, I politely told him to ask me before dumping my damn drink. Friday, he even dumped my Diet Coke from Wendy's. I rarely drink soda, so this was a huge treat. I saw him about to do it, and was telling him "no, don't dump my drink", and he was all "one sec, I'm busy". He dumped it was I was telling him not to, then turned around all "what were you saying?"
AND YOU LET HIM LIVE?
The amount of rage that would go through me if my H did this would be immeasurable.
Post by jojoandleo on Dec 22, 2014 10:05:40 GMT -5
See, H just doesn't listen (he plays his veteran card/hearing loss), but I am ADHD and while I will hear what he says, I will forget half the time. We will have entire conversations, with me talking back, and then I will be like, "Wait, what?" We will also have a conversation about news/science/something and a few days later something will bring it up and I will be like, "Oh yeah, someone told me XYZ" and H will be like, "Uhh, yeah, that was me." Whoops.
H and I had a norovirus this past week. I have an iron stomach and haven't thrown up since sometime in the 90s, so we were talking about how crazy it was that I got it.
Then he says that he just saw an article about how the stomach flu isn't really the flu.
Me: I think I've been trying to tell you that for years.
Yes. It drives me crazy. And on days when I'm not chatty, he asks if I am okay or if something is wrong. Nothing is wrong, I just don't feel like talking when I know you're not listening anyway!
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Multiple times, I will say something, like suggesting a place to eat, and LITERALLY five seconds later he will say the same thing. I give him a pass sometimes because of his hearing loss/hearing aids, but sometimes I just yell, "I just said that! Listen to me!" I have learned to tap in on the arm and make him look at me before saying anything truly important, like a three year old.