MH hasn't gone shopping for me yet. He's already bought stuff for himself and declared that his christmas gift. He wants to just do one large thing for me, but there isn't anything on my list that is large. He said he'll go pick up some jewelry, but I hate getting random jewelry because there's no thought in it. I did tell him that I wanted a pair of small citrine studs and he said he didn't like that idea. WTF? Apparently, MIL got them from what I have heard. My bday is Saturday which just complicates the whole thing.
Mushe - I've been in your H's shoes. It sucks watching everyone around you open stuff up and no one bothered with even a gift card or a pair of gloves. Lists might help, but this isn't about him not giving a list, we've been taught all along it's the thought that counts and... Well... Yeah.
My flameful - if you have a staff meeting the week of Christmas/Hannakah, you should at least bring donuts.
Post by gogreengowhite on Dec 22, 2014 13:03:08 GMT -5
I am on my way to my grandpa's visitation and funeral. I couldn't make it two hours without a text from work needing me to approve something. This involves me finding an internet connection.
I'm so fucking over this. I can't wait for my new boss to start on the 12th.
And seeing @shoegal grumpy totally made me laugh. Sorry you are having a rough day shoegal!
Post by hopenotlost on Dec 22, 2014 13:05:23 GMT -5
DH is on call Christmas Eve through the 27th for work. This past Friday, a girl who called in Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday texted him asking if they could switch on Wednesday so she could go to church. He said no because he was on call. She said she would be on call (but how the eff can she be on call when her church is an hour away, and you can't be more than 30 minutes away while on call?!). He said no, because we also have plans. I know damn well she will call in Wednesday night and he will have to go in, and I swear to all that's holy and mighty if she calls in Friday and he has to miss Christmas with our girls and our family, I will lose my shit all over her. He worked Thanksgiving so she didn't have to...if she makes him lose time out with his daughters, not cool...
And yes, I know she deserves time with her family too, but she volunteered to work those hours AND her daughter is with her ex-h this holiday. UGH.
Post by spunkarella on Dec 22, 2014 13:05:27 GMT -5
I guess this is a confession, but my BFF invited H and I to NYC with them over New Year's to see the ball drop. They got a crazy deal on a corporate suite through her H's work, and she and I are always talking about taking a trip together.
I didn't even mention it to H. Thanks to v and other New Yorkers, I have zero desire to experience Times Square on New Year's Eve.
This is a vent, I guess: I foolishly (and drunkenly) offered to help my friend take her 3 and 4 year old boys to see the Rockefeller Center tree ... the week of Christmas. This is a bad idea of epic proportions. Nobody should have to go to Rock Center between Thanksgiving and New Year, but particularly not the week of Christmas. Thoughts and prayers that we all make it home in one piece would be appreciated.
Wait - the week of Christmas is worse? I know the weekend was crazy, but I would have thought by now the crowds would have cleared out. Please tell me it's a little slower this week. We have family coming and this is where we'll be headed.
I still have to do all of the Christmas shopping. I called my mom over my lunch break to chat and see if she had any ideas. She acted like she had no interest in anything I said. She spent half the call talking to other people and the other half trying to interrupt and talk over me. I don't know why I'm surprised or hurt by this. She has been doing it for the past 2 years. I'm really tired of how she can't seem to care about anyone but herself. A few weeks ago I calleed to tell her I passed another part of my test. She was like "oh good. I have a mouse in my house that keeps eating the dog's food". Today I tried telling her that my husband's company laid off half the people and that my husband was terrified that he would be next. She said that she is glad the gas prices are down and she hopes they stay that way. Way to show support mom!
What I wouldn't give to have a 20 year old (or hell even a 30 or 40 year old) try to make out with me. I caught my own eye in the mirror yesterday and it was bad. I've been home with a sick kid for the past week and have left the house twice. I've been living in pajamas, skipped a few showers, have a huge zit in the middle of my chin and am overdue to touch up my gray roots. I am a hot mess.
Little Caesar's deep dish pepperoni pizza is delicious.
I'm feeling very Grinchy and just want to stay home for the holidays. Every year I try to get my husband to "runaway" over Christmas (i.e. go on vacation) but he won't bite.
Since we don't have a baby/family of our own, we have no excuse and are the ones to travel. I've tried to host before but that doesn't work well either as it just ends up being my parents and us. I'm tired of it and just want to run away (see above statement).
I keep trying to do the same thing! We do have kids but neither of our families do much for Christmas so if we went on vacation at that time, we wouldn't miss anything. Our Christmas consists of being woken up at 5 am by the kids, opening presents when it's still dark outside, and then basically twiddling our thumbs the rest of the day. Sometimes he'll call his dad on Christmas Eve and we drive two hours to visit them on Christmas day, but we can do that any time.
Mushe - I've been in your H's shoes. It sucks watching everyone around you open stuff up and no one bothered with even a gift card or a pair of gloves. Lists might help, but this isn't about him not giving a list, we've been taught all along it's the thought that counts and... Well... Yeah.
My flameful - if you have a staff meeting the week of Christmas/Hannakah, you should at least bring donuts.
Thanks, ruby. Yes, that's where he's at. He does a lot for my parents, so it stings.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
My coworker and I painted our nails this morning at work. It's so pretty and I'm excited not to have to try to fit in time to do it after work with family around.
Your parents literally didn't get him anything? But were like, "here! Open a gift that really isn't yours so it's not awkward at all!" I mean, even an amazon gift card and chocolates would have worked.
Yes, exactly. It looks like they took the remaining $$ they would have spent on the two of us (mom tries to keep it even between me and my sister) and ordered more things from my wish list. Awkward!
I talked to him again this morning, and he's cooled down about it, and agreed to go over there for Christmas without me saying anything, and that his M.O. has made it very difficult to buy for him.
Yeah, this is really shitty of your parents. Do they like him? While I agree it would be nice of him to provide some suggestions or a list, I think if he didn't they still should have at the very least picked out a gift card and/or some kind of edible. Or, your mom should have asked YOU for suggestions and you should have given some. To just not give him anything at all - I would be so, so hurt if I was in his shoes. I don't think this is his fault at all. What was your mom thinking? I would absolutely call my mom out on that and tell her how hurtful she was.
This is a vent, I guess: I foolishly (and drunkenly) offered to help my friend take her 3 and 4 year old boys to see the Rockefeller Center tree ... the week of Christmas. This is a bad idea of epic proportions. Nobody should have to go to Rock Center between Thanksgiving and New Year, but particularly not the week of Christmas. Thoughts and prayers that we all make it home in one piece would be appreciated.
Wait - the week of Christmas is worse? I know the weekend was crazy, but I would have thought by now the crowds would have cleared out. Please tell me it's a little slower this week. We have family coming and this is where we'll be headed.
It actually wasn't that bad out there, thank god! The stores seemed worse than outside on the plaza.
spunkarella -- good luck with that It'll be a good once-in-a-lifetime experience, maybe? If you're inside somewhere it will be way better than if you're outside.
I think I baked entirely too many cookies. No such thing, I know. But I made about 1000 cookies to be divided into 25 tins, and when I pulled out the tins (bought after last Xmas on sale of course) they were a lot smaller than I remembered...
I also gained about 2.5 pounds over the weekend. Coincidence? I think not.
I am staying home from work today to decorate my sugar cookies, though. Yay!
Frozen Christmas cookies are delicious, FYI
My mom always bakes for 93 people instead of the 8 or so that actuall come to her house, so I happily serve frozen Christmas cookies to my friends for the month or two after.
If I wasn't an only child, I would think you were my sister. This is exactly what my mom does.
Post by tacosforlife on Dec 22, 2014 15:27:20 GMT -5
H bought alcohol for Christmas while he was out today: a handle of tequila, a liter of triple sec, a handle of bourbon, three bottles of cava, one liter of apple brandy, two bottles of red wine, and two bottles of white wine. That's enough for 4 days, right?
Monday was insane. Just insane. A couple errands, a ceremony on base for DH that I had to be at, hosting a baby shower, etc... Oh yeah, and a bit of work in there, somewhere, too.
The ceremony on base involved DH's unit "giving" me a bouquet of flowers. (technically, DH is expected to acquire the flowers, and then they are given to me as part of the ceremony) Except, getting flowers up where we live is a pain in the ass, so a buddy of ours that was coming up for the ceremony from the big base down in Seoul said he'd pick up the flowers we needed.
Flameful: Buddy picked up the nicest bouquet of flowers I have received in the last 6 or 7 years (at least). It's gorgeous. I honestly can't remember the last time DH got me a bouquet this lovely. Buddy totally went above and beyond what was needed for the ceremony.
Vent: this morning, it became apparent that DH shared his headcold with me. It's not bad yet, so I'm going to dose up on liquids and vitamins and sleep today. Hopefully I can keep it from getting too bad, because I have too much crap to do this week to not be productive.
Yes, exactly. It looks like they took the remaining $$ they would have spent on the two of us (mom tries to keep it even between me and my sister) and ordered more things from my wish list. Awkward!
I talked to him again this morning, and he's cooled down about it, and agreed to go over there for Christmas without me saying anything, and that his M.O. has made it very difficult to buy for him.
Yeah, this is really shitty of your parents. Do they like him? While I agree it would be nice of him to provide some suggestions or a list, I think if he didn't they still should have at the very least picked out a gift card and/or some kind of edible. Or, your mom should have asked YOU for suggestions and you should have given some. To just not give him anything at all - I would be so, so hurt if I was in his shoes. I don't think this is his fault at all. What was your mom thinking? I would absolutely call my mom out on that and tell her how hurtful she was.
Yes, they definitely like him! I'm thinking it's partly passive aggressive, because of how hard he is to shop for. She apparently picked out (but didn't buy) a sweater, and asked me to ask him if he wanted it, and he said no. So, he's difficult!
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
Someone stole one of our Christmas decorations from our yard this weekend. It was one of DH's favorites and we are both pretty pissed. I mean, come on, what kind of person steals Christmas decorations?!
rubytue, I just saved that humph Kittie to my phone, soooooo cute.
In other news, I am commuting home now with a fresh bottle of wine waiting for me and my Maeve Binchy is at the ready. Nobody better get in MY WAY! And I'm not even going in to the damn basement so there!!!!
Yeah, this is really shitty of your parents. Do they like him? While I agree it would be nice of him to provide some suggestions or a list, I think if he didn't they still should have at the very least picked out a gift card and/or some kind of edible. Or, your mom should have asked YOU for suggestions and you should have given some. To just not give him anything at all - I would be so, so hurt if I was in his shoes. I don't think this is his fault at all. What was your mom thinking? I would absolutely call my mom out on that and tell her how hurtful she was.
Yes, they definitely like him! I'm thinking it's partly passive aggressive, because of how hard he is to shop for. She apparently picked out (but didn't buy) a sweater, and asked me to ask him if he wanted it, and he said no. So, he's difficult!
Nothing says "merry Christmas to someone I care about!" like passive aggressiveness
I'm feeling very Grinchy and just want to stay home for the holidays. Every year I try to get my husband to "runaway" over Christmas (i.e. go on vacation) but he won't bite.
Since we don't have a baby/family of our own, we have no excuse and are the ones to travel. I've tried to host before but that doesn't work well either as it just ends up being my parents and us. I'm tired of it and just want to run away (see above statement).
I keep trying to do the same thing! We do have kids but neither of our families do much for Christmas so if we went on vacation at that time, we wouldn't miss anything. Our Christmas consists of being woken up at 5 am by the kids, opening presents when it's still dark outside, and then basically twiddling our thumbs the rest of the day. Sometimes he'll call his dad on Christmas Eve and we drive two hours to visit them on Christmas day, but we can do that any time.
Ugh. While I'm glad it's not just me, I hate that there are others in the same boat. Maybe you'll have some luck convincing your husband one day soon, too.
Post by hopenotlost on Dec 22, 2014 17:19:20 GMT -5
I can't wait to take the damn Christmas tree down. The two year old little shit won't leave ornaments alone. Not even kidding. Friday morning that thing is going back into the box and into the garage. DONE.
Someone stole one of our Christmas decorations from our yard this weekend. It was one of DH's favorites and we are both pretty pissed. I mean, come on, what kind of person steals Christmas decorations?!
Several of my neighbors had light strings cut. And one of my friends did a few years ago multiple times. She swears it was someone eho had a bitchy wife. And he now lives in my neighborhood. Whomp whomp. I was to borrow the wildlife camera I gave my dad.