I am no longer responding to their texts/calls/invitations for the forseeable future, and now, when I do get engaged, I'm straight-up hiding it from them.
My cousin lost his battle with lung cancer early yesterday morning. DS has gotten over his cold that was probably flu, DH has been sick for over a week and I am sick as a proverbial dog.
We did takeout Chinese for dinner because I was too sick to cook. I need to nap so I can go take care of 5 cats for two different family friends.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Dec 26, 2014 11:37:47 GMT -5
H has a man cold that most impacts him when he lays down. I had finally gotten the baby to sleep last night when he let out a loud cough that woke up the baby. I was so annoyed.
Then he went to the couch. Fine.
About 30 minutes later L sauntered into my bedroom. I figured since H wasn't there she could sleep in his spot.
So H got a quiet night on the couch and I got a bed with two kids.
I want a silent night on the couch with no kids to take care of.
A few local school districts have had teacher strikes lately due to bad contract negotiations, including BIL's gf's daughter's school. Somehow that subject came up yesterday while we were all sitting around (my parents and myself included), which started my SIL and especially my FIL to engage in some teacher-bashing. My FIL even commented, "I can't stand teachers."
Ok, except I am a teacher, asshole.
Luckily my H shut it down pretty quickly. This is not the first time my FIL (or SIL) has made these type of comments when I am around. I keep my mouth shut most of the time because in general he can be a jerk and there's not much sense in trying to argue with him, but I swear if he keeps it up, I'm going to lose it.
my daughter informed me on Christmas morning that she is getting "buds" and needs a bra. She is 7. She neither has buds, or needs a bra. I was dying laughing. this isn't a flameful or confession but I didn't know where to post it lol
Her friends may be wearing them. My mom refused to get me one, and finally I begged my best friend's mom to buy me one for my birthday.
We went out to diner last night at a really good hotel restaurant. Best idea ever. No leftovers and no mess. Now we are arguing about brunch tomorrow with his sister and her H. They deliberately scheduled Christmas Eve dinner so it didn't really work for us to go, and now we have this pity invite to brunch. I am not going, and DP is pissed.
Post by AmeliaBedelia on Dec 26, 2014 13:48:14 GMT -5
DH and I bought my in laws a gift that DH's brothers decided to take credit for. They didn't buy anything for their parents, then when MIL started opening the gift from me and DH, she asked who it was from, and before I could answer, BIL pipes in and says "all of us kids." :/
The in laws love the gift, as evidenced by MIL posting a picture of it on FB with the caption "Awesome gift from my kids!!" I'm happy she likes it, but (flameful) annoyed that I don't get more credit for thinking of it, lol.
DH and I bought my in laws a gift that DH's brothers decided to take credit for. They didn't buy anything for their parents, then when MIL started opening the gift from me and DH, she asked who it was from, and before I could answer, BIL pipes in and says "all of us kids." :/
The in laws love the gift, as evidenced by MIL posting a picture of it on FB with the caption "Awesome gift from my kids!!" I'm happy she likes it, but (flameful) annoyed that I don't get more credit for thinking of it, lol.
I'd be sending them a bill for their portion of the gift. Also, next year, use a really big tag on the present so there can be no mistake. That's kind of some straight up bullshit they pulled.
My cousin's ex-wife said something awful to my little 16 year old cousin. She told her that her dead father would be disappointed in her. Over normal teenage stuff that she posts on FB.
This all went down on FB. I'm enraged every time I think about it. The fucking nerve to say something so cruel to a young girl.
Jesus. My mother said that to me (privately, thankfully) when she found out I had lost my virginity at 17. I'm almost 35 and I can tell you that that comment damaged our relationship permanently. You just don't say that shit. I hope your cousin is OK.
Post by fangoriagurkel on Dec 26, 2014 14:45:11 GMT -5
My family needs to chill the eff out on when am I going to get married? I told 2 of my cousins that I had been seeing someone for 2 months and if things work out, they'll meet him @ Easter (so the 6 month dating mark). But sqeeeee I really like this guy!
DH and I bought my in laws a gift that DH's brothers decided to take credit for. They didn't buy anything for their parents, then when MIL started opening the gift from me and DH, she asked who it was from, and before I could answer, BIL pipes in and says "all of us kids." :/
The in laws love the gift, as evidenced by MIL posting a picture of it on FB with the caption "Awesome gift from my kids!!" I'm happy she likes it, but (flameful) annoyed that I don't get more credit for thinking of it, lol.
Send them a quick text letting them know how much their portion was
Post by hungrycaterpillar on Dec 26, 2014 15:16:05 GMT -5
This is more random than anything else but possibly flameful. I wish Verona would come back and post, mostly because I love seeing what her husband got her for Christmas. Maybe she'll make a blog post in the next few days.
One of my aunts posted an old Christmas picture of my Papaw and the grandchildren when we were babies/really young children to Facebook. A few cousins took serious offense to it but instead of just asking Aunt to take it down they decided to chew her out over FB on Christmas. Now practically the entire family has taken sides and the drama has exploded.
Stay classy, Family. Stay classy.
We also got a Christmas card from some distant members of H's family basically calling us heathens.
Vent and flameful Quick backstory - My sister and I live about 20 minutes away from each other but we both live 2 hours away from our parents and aunt. Her husband is on disability, for very valid reasons, and is not well and will probably die within the next 2 years. He is a controlling asshole who is also an expert on anything and everything. Sister and I see each other maybe 1x/month because of him. For as long as they've been married, they have never had any money and barely got by.
My side of the family had our Christmas get-together last Saturday at our house. It went well but BIL drove us all crazy with his bountiful knowledge on every topic up for discussion, including how we should be training our dog. There were enough of us that it was pretty easy to just ignore him and enjoy the family visit.
We were hosting DH's side of the family yesterday and I invited sister and BIL. I sent her a reminder text at 10 that we were eating at 4. She sends me a text at 2 saying that they were coming over for coffee and would be there in about 15 minutes but that they weren't staying for dinner. Ummm...anyone with a brain knows that the 2 hours prior to big family meal time is crazy so why in the hell did she think that inviting themselves over for coffee would be welcome.
They get there, I turn the coffee pot on, and go in to greet them. Coco, dog, is guarding DH from BIL, so I correct her and get her to calm down. BIL questions why I don't want her to guard and proceeds to tell me that that's what dogs are supposed to do and I shouldn't be correcting her.
I go back in the kitchen to continue cutting stuff up and Sister asks where her coffee is. I tell her that I just turned the pot on and she says "Ok, well we're going to just go then." She then proceeds to show me her new wedding band (they pawned the original years ago), which is gorgeous, and how excited she was because they also had her engagement ring sized down. (she had gastric about 1.5 years ago)
While she's telling me all about it, I can overhear BIL bad-mouthing our mother to DH because years ago she put an end to gift giving at Christmas. (Mom always said we could do what we wanted but that she and dad weren't giving gifts and didn't want them.) He's going on and on about how dumb he thinks it is, the whole point of Christmas is to give gifts, and that she's just an old coot.
I turn around, remember that the knife is still in my hand, put it down, turn back around, inhale for the breath to say "get the fuck out of my house", and my sister runs interference with loud goodbyes and they leave.
THEN, later that night, I see on FB that they are going on a cruise. Backstory here - months ago we talked about going on another family cruise. Sister could only go in April because of work, but then BIL couldn't go this one weekend and said sister wasn't allowed to go that weekend either. We finally decide on a date, sister says that BIL isn't going now because he was so miserable last year because of how sick he was, sister was just going to go with us but stay in the same room as mom and dad, then ended up she wasn't going after all.
So, the cruise they are going on leaves the day we come back - on the same ship, with the same itinerary as ours. Turns out, BIL booked the cruise a few weeks before we booked the family cruise but didn't tell any of us and they both lied to all of us about the reasons he wasn't going, dates, etc.
Here's the flameful - How in the hell do they suddenly have all of this money? and...I really hope he dies soon.
I am so sorry, I didn't mean to "like" your post! I was trying to quote you while glancing out the car window and missed my mark.
Anyway, I wonde if they have done one of those scams where they get paid in advance for his life insurance for pennies on the dollar and then the entire policy is signed over to someone else to redeem when he passes.
This is more random than anything else but possibly flameful. I wish Verona would come back and post, mostly because I love seeing what her husband got her for Christmas. Maybe she'll make a blog post in the next few days.
I have been haggling with a dealership all day. I want a new car - mine is awful in snow, is almost ten years old and could get strong trade in value right now. H is kind of starting to come around so i am getting some information to build my case.
He would probably be pissed I'm looking into this more right now but fuck it. I work hard and I am sick of sliding around like an ice skate in the winter in Maine.
One of my aunts posted an old Christmas picture of my Papaw and the grandchildren when we were babies/really young children to Facebook. A few cousins took serious offense to it but instead of just asking Aunt to take it down they decided to chew her out over FB on Christmas. Now practically the entire family has taken sides and the drama has exploded.
Stay classy, Family. Stay classy.
We also got a Christmas card from some distant members of H's family basically calling us heathens.
One of my aunts posted an old Christmas picture of my Papaw and the grandchildren when we were babies/really young children to Facebook. A few cousins took serious offense to it but instead of just asking Aunt to take it down they decided to chew her out over FB on Christmas. Now practically the entire family has taken sides and the drama has exploded.
Stay classy, Family. Stay classy.
We also got a Christmas card from some distant members of H's family basically calling us heathens.
Why would that be offensive?
They didn't like the picture and didn't want it displayed to the public.
my daughter informed me on Christmas morning that she is getting "buds" and needs a bra. She is 7. She neither has buds, or needs a bra. I was dying laughing. this isn't a flameful or confession but I didn't know where to post it lol
Awww, dude, be gentle. I can't even tell you the courage it too to talk to my mom about buying a bra when I knew I didn't need one, but all my friends had them.
oh we are very open with that kind of stuff. I didn't laugh at her.. I waited til she left. I am super grateful she even talked to me about it. but it was just so damn cute. come to find out her friend IS wearing a bra like Dowager Countess said.
My ILs suck. They haven't called since C was born, just texts here and there. They were going to download skype from the grandparents house so they could see him even though they have cell phones and large data plans. They never did.
When I asked H about if they were still with the grands, he said they'd already gone home. Before I could stop myself I blurted that they suck.
Don't stop yourself. If they sucked as IL's it's ok to bite your tongue because you're an adult. But when it comes to sucking as grandparents to your kid? Bitch at will. DH will either agree with you or try to get them to change.
so I have a flameful. My parents bought me an ugly sweater (not ugly on purpose) and my husband a black and yellow rugby (yes its hideous) and my daughter a cute enough dress but not her style. All of this from LL Bean. So I went there today with the gift receipt to return it. Got 14 for my hubby's rugby, 14 for dd dress and 7.49 for my sweater.
So my parents spent a whopping 7.49 on me. And its flameful bc isn't it the thought that counts... so I shouldn't be a baby. However, my mom gave me brothers fiancée a beautiful butterfly necklace. When she opened it my mom said "You shared this photo on fb that you liked this so I bought it for you" meanwhile my sister and I both got the same exact hideous sweater that was on ultra clearance on LL bean.
My confession I wish they would have put 1/10th of the thought into my gift as they did in my brothers fi gift
One of my aunts posted an old Christmas picture of my Papaw and the grandchildren when we were babies/really young children to Facebook. A few cousins took serious offense to it
Is there a backstory that I am missing? Why were they offended?
I have a huge slice in my thumb and no clue how it got there. Our play station won't log into the PS network. DH investigated and I guess it's a big problem because of North Korea hacking sony. DS has been tantruming nonstop for hours because he can't watch his cartoon on Netflix. Fix it Sony! Put up a firewall or something! HELP!
My aunt and I exchange gifts each year because she is my godmother. We both got kohls gift cards. But she made sure to let me know that I got more. I realize that... Sigh
so I have a flameful. My parents bought me an ugly sweater (not ugly on purpose) and my husband a black and yellow rugby (yes its hideous) and my daughter a cute enough dress but not her style. All of this from LL Bean. So I went there today with the gift receipt to return it. Got 14 for my hubby's rugby, 14 for dd dress and 7.49 for my sweater.
So my parents spent a whopping 7.49 on me. And its flameful bc isn't it the thought that counts... so I shouldn't be a baby. However, my mom gave me brothers fiancée a beautiful butterfly necklace. When she opened it my mom said "You shared this photo on fb that you liked this so I bought it for you" meanwhile my sister and I both got the same exact hideous sweater that was on ultra clearance on LL bean.
My confession I wish they would have put 1/10th of the thought into my gift as they did in my brothers fi gift
Not flameful. MIL is so obsessed with all gifts being "fair". She lost her job in October, so she didn't have much money to spend - totally fine by me because I do think it's the thought that counts, not the price tag. BUT she got BIL's gf and I the same exact thing - under the sink cabinet organizers. I spent a lot of time picking out a gift that was personal to MIL's taste, and it feels crappy to get something so generic.