A was more like unexpected than accidental. We weren't using BC (on purpose), but we had only had sex something like 6 days before O. I had a bad cold in there, so there was a sizable dry spell during the fertile window.
J was accidental. We used a condom. I can't say perfectly or imperfectly. We'd been using them for most of the past decade w/o issue, but we were in the back of a car.
We use NFP. DD was conceived a few months after our wedding when I really didn't know wtf I was doing. I had been on the pill for a decade and went off of it that June, started tracking in July, was pregnant in November. In my short charting experience, I always ovulated late. The cycle DD was conceived, I O'ed on day 11. I saw the temperature rise and knew we were in danger lol.
DS1 was planned.
The baby was conceived just like Marmee. I was a charting slacker since DS1 wasn't really STTN yet, thought we had to be good. And yeah. He was conceived on day 25.
I know most think I'm probably crazy but NFP really does work within my marriage. If anyone is curious and wants details, I'm a open book. Right now I am a charting freak TTA and check several signs. And we've made it past the weaning mark and everyone STTN, things are back to being being pretty regular and predictable. And we're not completely opposed to a fourth. So there you go.
Oh and I will also mention, that time we conceived on day 25 with slacker charting, I was using OPKs. Got a negative OPK, had hot Christmas sex, had a baby the following September lol.
Do not rely on negative OPKs, I am a cautionary tale
I charted to get pregnant. I ended up having minor tubal blockages, so I had 14 cycles to practice.
It absolutely does work, provided you do it correctly. I don't consider that in the same realm as withdrawal.
I assume a couple using p&p is open to more children at any time.
This is a good way to phrase it. If I absolutely positively did not want to get pregnant, no way would I rely on P&P no matter how many people use it without getting pregnant.
We've always used NFP too. DS1 was a surprise. After we moved through 8 time zones, we saw a temp spike on my chart and thought we were good, but in hindsight my circadian rhythm was all messed up from the move and we were not as careful as we should have been.
DS2 was planned.
This time, I've been having short luteal phases for the last 8 cycles, like not remotely long enough to sustain a pregnancy. So again, we were not as careful as we should have been since I was confident my short LP would make implantation impossible.
Weird as it may be, my favorite thing about NFP is that I'm totally in control of it. We've successfully TTA when it's really important, so I know we can do it and it works. Pills, IUDs, etc make me nervous because there's no rhyme or reason to their failure if they're used properly. It's basically a lottery and I feel very out of control when I think about relying on something like that. There's no way to ten when or for who they'll fail when they do.
I would like to hear from those who got pregnant with an IUD...
Back when DS1 was a baby and I was lurking on the bump, there were several posters in my "group" (no birth month boards back then) who got pregnant with Mirena. I often wonder if there was a bad batch or something, b/c they all had them placed around the same time (early-mid 2009).
I would like to hear from those who got pregnant with an IUD...
Me. I had mine replaced after 5 years after DS. I had the second one in for 9ish months and I am 8-9 weeks pregnant. Looking back we had a sexual "incident" that probably knocked it out of place over the summer. One Saturday morning after sex I was keeling over in pain for no real reason, the sex was rougher but not out of the ordinary. H wanted me to go to the ER since nothing else is open on Saturday. I refused to pay the copay and since it stopped hurting I never went in.
If we did knock it out of place in late July it took 4ish cycles for me to get pregnant (and my H travels a lot).
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Me. I had mine replaced after 5 years after DS. I had the second one in for 9ish months and I am 8-9 weeks pregnant. Looking back we had a sexual "incident" that probably knocked it out of place over the summer. One Saturday morning after sex I was keeling over in pain for no real reason, the sex was rougher but not out of the ordinary. H wanted me to go to the ER since nothing else is open on Saturday. I refused to pay the copay and since it stopped hurting I never went in.
If we did knock it out of place in late July it took 4ish cycles for me to get pregnant (and my H travels a lot).
have you had an ultrasound yet? I know someone else who claims to have gotten pregnant with an IUD (but is not the most trustworthy source). Anyway, she says they could see it during an early ultrasound.
Yes, I have had multiple ultrasounds at this point. My doc had me come in right away to rule out an ectopic since the likelihood of a pregnancy with an iud being ectopic is statistically high. we determined during ultrasound that my iud was not correctly placed and was easily removed as it wasnt in my uterus. It almost just fell out since my uterus was expanding.
I may never have sex again. I am 100% certain I don't want anymore kids. My DH, unfortunately, is not. We have been using condoms since our youngest was born because I don't tolerate hormonal birth control.
have you had an ultrasound yet? I know someone else who claims to have gotten pregnant with an IUD (but is not the most trustworthy source). Anyway, she says they could see it during an early ultrasound.
Yes, I have had multiple ultrasounds at this point. My doc had me come in right away to rule out an ectopic since the likelihood of a pregnancy with an iud being ectopic is statistically high. we determined during ultrasound that my iud was not correctly placed and was easily removed as it wasnt in my uterus. It almost just fell out since my uterus was expanding.
So while it was not necessarily through a fault of your own, the IUD was not "used perfectly" since it wasn't in the proper location.
So I like my odds on the IUD, especially on the chart from the NYT. I feel confident mine is placed correctly.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Jan 3, 2015 23:05:09 GMT -5
HOLD THE FRONT DOOR, PEOPLE.
How is no one talking about that NYT chart??
How in the world are those numbers accurate?
I'd be (not so) secretly thrilled to have, like, 5 kids, so I'm not worried about my odds. But holy f. I'm going to beg my daughters to use, like, 5 forms of birth control once they become sexually active. That's some scary stuff!
I'd be (not so) secretly thrilled to have, like, 5 kids, so I'm not worried about my odds. But holy f. I'm going to beg my daughters to use, like, 5 forms of birth control once they become sexually active. That's some scary stuff!
tell them to get an IUD!
I guess that's the only right answer! But I think the idea of an IUD would have scared the crap out of me in college. I already know I plan to preach the pill PLUS condoms every single time until marriage.
Our third was the result of poor NFP. I worked night shift and my cycles all tracked regularly. That is, until I took my first weekend off in two years and the schedule change messed up my ovulation. DH got snipped when I was still pg with #3. His urologist suggested we wait just in case something went wrong during delivery, but DH was practically running to the office to get it done.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Jan 4, 2015 0:41:25 GMT -5
@fivedogs -- thanks! For some reason, I read that as the probability of pregnancy with perfect use. With standard use, those numbers make a bit more sense!
When I was at Catholic school learning about the birds and the bees I remember the teacher specifically talking about NFP and how it was the reason Catholic families are so big. I know there was an agenda to scare us into abstinence but she wasn't exactly wrong.
The weirdest number to me is the female sterilization. Like what happened there?
I haven't clicked the link but I assume there are still some pregnancies in women whose tubes have been tied? There was someone on ML who posted her tubes were tied and she got pregnant (and a viable PF iirc) so it's not 100%
Thanks! Every time I see this I can't wtf hard enough
Wow! I'm surprised that withdrawal method and NFP are that effective when done properly! I do understand though how people would mess up NFP, but how do you mess up withdrawal?
AJ was the result of no BC-I had gone off the pill and was waiting for my first fully post BCP period (had the usual one a few days after the pack ended) to start tracking shit. After 10+ years on the pill I figured there was no way I'd get pg right away and thus would not be massively pregnant at our old roommate's wedding that following summer. Certainly not pregnant for the big pre Thanksgiving party we were throwing the month after the last pill pack ended.
Yeah. 35 days after the aforementioned usual post-pill pack period I was staring at a positive pregnancy test. On the morning of the pre Thanksgiving party. I was 36 weeks pregnant at our old roommate's wedding, surrounded by my drunk groomsman husband and our equally drunk friends.
I don't think I'd call that an accident since we weren't actively trying to prevent, I guess...I just had no intention of getting pregnant that month.
#1 required IF treatments to get pregnant and we didn't think that we could get pregnant on our own very easily if at all. I was on the mini pill post partum but stopped taking it because I couldn't take it at the same time every day to save my life anyways, even with a daily alarm on my phone. We had sex twice during a 24 hour period and that was it during a 4 week stretch where DH was OOT. That's all it took. Looking back I was crampy the day we DTD but I though it was an impending period because I've never in my life had ovulation cramps before, but this was also the first cycle after weaning DD.
We wanted a second, just not nearly this soon. I'm scared shitless to have a 14-15 month age gap.