Am I being uptight?

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Jan 17, 2015 14:35:30 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Jan 17, 2015 13:35:33 GMT -5 @historychick79 said:

If it had been my wedding, I would have double checked parking/transport for my wedding party. They typically pay for a lot along the way, so it makes sense to me that having them at the main event would be as hassle free and inexpensive as possible (fwiw I had a bridesmaid fly in from London. While she covered the plane tix, I covered evrything else from dress to airport transport to hotel/food while she was stateside; for other bridesmaids, they picked the dress, any black heels were fine and hair/makeup was up to them, believe I kept it pretty easy ). So I can see why the taxi and general tone is irritating. But the reality is it is almost always a PITA to be part of the wedding party. Enjoy the day, bite the tongue, and celebrate with your friends.

The couple offered an option for lodging at the venue, the OP chose to stay somewhere else.

Why does it become the couple's responsibility to take on paying for her additional transport needs?

1--I would understand that my grown-up wedding party might not want to share rooms; too old for dormitory life, everyone needs down time
2--it sounded like there wasn't room for the entire group at the place anyway, so someone would have ended up off-site

With that in mind, I would have been prepared for covering transport costs (considering I probably wouldn't have booked a place like this for the venue to start with)

[lilafowler]

ZOMBIE THREAD

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Jan 20, 2015 10:29:03 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

ZOMBIE THREAD

Not really--I just used my phone over the weekend and can't get notifications. Saw Autumnroses' comment, and replied. 

[lilafowler]

Jan 20, 2015 10:32:00 GMT -5 @historychick79 said:

Jan 20, 2015 10:29:03 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

ZOMBIE THREAD

Not really--I just used my phone over the weekend and can't get notifications. Saw Autumnroses' comment, and replied. 

Ok.

[cville]

Jan 20, 2015 10:32:00 GMT -5 @historychick79 said:

Jan 20, 2015 10:29:03 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

ZOMBIE THREAD

Not really--I just used my phone over the weekend and can't get notifications. Saw Autumnroses' comment, and replied. 

No, really.

[dancingirl21]

So if someone doesn't wear a bow tie, are they getting kicked out? This is so weird to me. Black tie, I get. But even that doesn't usually require bow ties. And they are having this at a house if I am understanding correctly?

Yes, I'd be annoyed by several things you have mentioned. The no parking thing is irritating too.

[noodleoo]

Jan 16, 2015 20:30:39 GMT -5 isabel said:

Jan 16, 2015 20:16:53 GMT -5 vanillacourage said:

You mean like, every other day of their lives?

Sure, except I don't take cabs in my everyday life.

Seriously? You expect to be able to drive and park everywhere you go in life? You are being completely unreasonable about the parking situation.

I get that you are annoyed about other things. But honestly, all these requests sound pretty normal in the world of weddings. Yes, some of them are side eye worthy. But the parking thing is the least side eye worthy of everythign they are doing! The venue has limited parking, there are no other options, suck it up and take a cab. Or arrange a ride on your own. Expecting the bride and groom to arrange your transportation to the venue is you being unreasonable. If you had to get from a church to a reception, then yeah, the couple should figure that out. But they don't have to figure out how you get to the event and back home, especially since you aren't staying where they offered you lodging. Same would be true if you stayed in hotel for a normal wedding and there was no parking at hte venue. You take a cab or find your own way!

You definitely have a bad attitude about this wedding. There must be more backstory. If you didn't want to take on the costs of being a bridesmaid or groomswoman, you should have declined when they asked you.

[caddywompus]

Is there anywhere to park near the house? Like a shopping center or library or something? I would just leave my car there, and walk over to the hose, or have someone come pick you up.

[shell24]

Didn't this wedding already take place now?

[EmilieMadison]

Jan 20, 2015 11:35:45 GMT -5 shell24 said:

Didn't this wedding already take place now?

Yes. But we'll never hear from the OP again because the outrage of paying for a cab and everyone wearing bow ties killed her. 

[isabel]

lol that this is being brought up again. I updated in a randoms thread on Sunday. Yes, the wedding took place on Saturday. I wasn't the only one who had issue with taking a cab and they had a couple people staying at the house shuttle people back and forth. It worked out just fine. I probably overreacted a bit. My bad.