waiting for a social disaster to play out

[aprilsails]

Eeeee. She sounds more than a little clueless about the mess that she left behind.

I 100% sympathize with Bob Newowner. Good luck!

[trafficgirl]

Yikes. She sounds like a piece of work.

[pantsparty]

Is this the friend that was trying to con someone out of a lot of money?

[rosiedozie]

No offense, but your friend sounds like an entitled idiot. What are her redeeming qualities?

[JayhawkGirl]

Is her health okay? This seems like a slipping grip on reality

Or she's just decided to hell with social norms. What a mess.

[ECB]

O

M

G

She seems to have a very different idea of her place in everyone's lives than the rest of you do. OR what it means when you sell your house. I.e. It's not yours anymore!!!

[W.T.Faulkner]

Sue, are you on a kick for throwing parties for people who have committed egregious social sins? lol

[ECB]

Jan 18, 2015 11:20:49 GMT -5 namasteak said:

Wow that sounds like a big mess! Did Bob Newowner tell crazy friend he was getting rid of the stuff she left? I know it's his place now and common sense says he has every right to get rid of it but she doesn't seem like she has a whole lot of that.

but she was off the grid and wasn't in contact for months. I think bob holds absolutely no responsibility here!

[ECB]

Jan 18, 2015 11:24:29 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 18, 2015 11:20:49 GMT -5 namasteak said:

Wow that sounds like a big mess! Did Bob Newowner tell crazy friend he was getting rid of the stuff she left? I know it's his place now and common sense says he has every right to get rid of it but she doesn't seem like she has a whole lot of that.

No. when she left, she told him he could have whatever there was. 
But she still expects that it'll all be there. 

She was talking about going over there and getting into 'her closet' and getting her work clothes. 
ummm. 

i can't even. She really doesn't understand what selling her house means.

[pantsparty]

She seems to be missing a few screws. Or just plain old common sense.

I am going to have to start "smiling wintrily" more, just to say I did.

[noodle]

She shows an amazing lack of self-awareness.  Has she always been like this?

[flex]

Is she our age?
Is she on medication?

[panicked]

I just love that your resolution is to throw more parties. That's a kick ass resolution.

[mrsukyankee]

Is she on the spectrum? Has she always been like this?

[Deleted]

God she was so rude about the location of the party that I would have been tempted to say, "Here's my cell! Call Bob about moving the party right now! And let me know how the conversation goes."

[noradog]

Jan 18, 2015 12:05:01 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 18, 2015 12:03:23 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

I won't quote but I know who you are referring to know that you spelled it out. On the show they made it seem like she really was a visitor. But I also stopped watching half way through. It got boring.

dear god it was boring. 

It really was boring. I kinda felt bad for the H in that family, but not too bow since he was enabling the crazy. 

[lexxasaurus]

I can't imagine selling a house and expecting Bob Newowner to keep all of my stuff, in my closets as I'd left it. Even if it is to a friend, I expect them to get rid of my junk. Will she lose it when she realizes her stuff isn't there?

[lilafowler]

Jan 18, 2015 11:41:21 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

I don't have the patience (or masochism) to go to any lengths to keep people like this in my life, never mind throw them parties, lol. How tiresome.

Is this why you canceled "Lilapalooza 2015"?

:-(

[adhdfashion]

Sue sue are you getting front row seats to the fireworks show? Lol

[lime]

I love that your NY resolution is to have more parties!

I'm envisioning everyone at your house, including Bob, having a great time while she sits in Bob's driveway wondering where the hell everyone is.

[zitiqueen]

Jan 18, 2015 12:10:09 GMT -5 @courtneyloves said:

Is it too late to cancel the party? Just sounds like a lot of drama to me. I do like your resolve to host more parties by the way.

Cancel the party? Are you high?

Sue sue, don't you dare cancel the party. And report every detail back to us!

[nursewife]

She doesn't sound mentally well. If she has a doc, I think she needs assessed.

[katfco]

This is one of those things that's hard to tell. She's either incredibly self-absorbed and entitled or has some kind of issue that's affecting her social and reasoning skills. It doesn't make sense that she would assume her stuff, which she abandoned, would all be at the house she sold quite some time ago.

You said other friends have had similar issues with her in the past that you're just now experiencing? What other issues have they dealt with?

I kind of feel sorry for someone who's so socially clueless.

[eb777888]

She doesn't really sound mentally ill to me, she sounds like an asshole. SueSue, I think if this were someone else on the board, you would tell them to distance themself from her.

[kadams767]

Well, you're a better person than I am, because as soon as she would have told me we were moving the party to Bob's, I would have flat out told her that Bob isn't even coming to the party. So highly doubtful he would want to host it.

[lexxasaurus]

Jan 18, 2015 12:30:20 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 18, 2015 12:27:32 GMT -5 adhdfashion said:

Sue sue are you getting front row seats to the fireworks show? Lol

I'll sell benefit tickets for $10 a pop, how's that? lolol

I need some excitement in my life (that doesn't actually involve me because that's exhausting), count me in!

[sparkythelawyer]

Sue, I'm giving you a quick side-eye here. More parties in 2015 is great. But, really? A party for the lady who burned damn near every bridge in town on her way out of it? You had to know this was going to be a disaster. Of all the parties to throw, why this one?

This person at best, is no friend, and is a self-centered asshole. At worst, she is profoundly ill. Be a friend to her to the extent you can and see if she can get medical care.

But I'd cancel this party. It has shitshow written all over it.

[livinitup]

PLEASE POST ALL OF IT.

And what is a "wintrily smile"? I'm intrigued and willing to practice.

[sparkythelawyer]

Jan 18, 2015 13:59:09 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jan 18, 2015 13:58:42 GMT -5 tators said:

Is there going to be cake at this party? I love cake.

yes. a fruit tart. 

Not a cake.

/gavel

[cleo29]

I am making a chocolate bundt cake that is beyond delicious and so easy to make.